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Fiery
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I'm really torn up about a good friend
#24876626 - 12/29/17 05:37 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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He keeps hurting himself, and in turn, the ones who love him, because of a drug/alcohol addiction.
Myself and others have tried, gone to " many ends of the earth" metaphorically to try and help him, and yet, in the end our efforts have failed,
and it's gone so far that his problem is starting to effect MY life in a negative way.
So, I have but one choice in this matter. right? to separate myself from the problem completely, right? Well, that's hard to do when you live in the same vicinity as a person.
I'm just at a loss, because you're not supposed to give up on people, RIGHT? Well I'm just hurt as fukk about it, and I'm tired of being broken.
I really love this person and I don't want them to suffer and destroy their own life. But at some point you have to draw a line.
Edited by Fiery (12/29/17 09:37 PM)
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery] 1
#24876629 - 12/29/17 05:38 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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You need to distance yourself until he's ready to get help.
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Fiery
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Dark_Star]
#24876641 - 12/29/17 05:42 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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Word. I just don't want to be hurt so bad if he dies and I gave up /.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery] 1
#24876651 - 12/29/17 05:47 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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If he dies it's gonna happen regardless of what you do, and it won't be on you at all either way. Dude is making his own bed, and as tough as it is to accept, there is nothing you can do about it.
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Fiery
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery] 1
#24876656 - 12/29/17 05:48 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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if you're reading this now and are that person. I love you too .
You are loved.
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Fiery
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24876666 - 12/29/17 05:52 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Fiery said: Word. I just don't want to be hurt so bad if he dies and I gave up /.
That sounds selfish as fukk too, doesn't it.
I don't know what he needs, but he's missing something. and drugs and alcohol won't fix it.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery] 2
#24876706 - 12/29/17 06:06 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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it sux, but in the end, if he doesn't want to help himself. no one else will be able to. same thing happened to my best friend. hurts the ones who love him, rips off his family. hooked on meth and heroin. it really sux, known the guy since i was 5. and believe me everyone wants to help. but that has proved futile.
sometimes it takes a life changing moment in that persons life to really open their eyes and want to help themselves.
a good example is my uncle. he has been addicted to drugs his entire life. my 92 year old grandparents have been taking care of him until he was 60 years old. he ended up getting cancer. and almost died. took a bunch of money to a foreign country and spent all of it trying to od on drugs so his fam wouldn't see him die of cancer. ended up going back home sick as a dog. found out it was some mild foreign fever that was easy to cure. miraculously the cancer was gone. to this day, he is sober. but it took him about 55 years to get there.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: eatyualive]
#24876712 - 12/29/17 06:09 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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I really don't want to go there, but
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Great story, brother
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: eatyualive]
#24876880 - 12/29/17 07:13 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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eatyualive said: it sux, but in the end, if he doesn't want to help himself. no one else will be able to.
he taught me how to shoot a gun straight, drink whiskey, and live my life like a professional.
He told me everything he ever knew, gave me everything he ever had. I helped him tons too.
I can not and WILL NOT give up on my brother in the lord, barring heavens doors interludeing my soul.
I'm not ready to lose you yet, brother.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24876894 - 12/29/17 07:22 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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I don't care how much it hurts.
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Fiery
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24876945 - 12/29/17 07:44 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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singing this song now. R.I.P . my love for you. I love you so much. It hurts me sooo bad to see you die. Only god knows why.
I will always love you. forever. and Amen.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24877052 - 12/29/17 08:13 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Fiery said: .
you're not supposed to give up on people, RIGHT?
Right, to the death
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Fiery
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24877066 - 12/29/17 08:17 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Fiery said:
I'm not ready to lose you yet, brother.
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Re: I'm really torn up about a good friend [Re: Fiery]
#24877679 - 12/29/17 10:14 PM (6 years, 2 months ago) |
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I just know that when i was going through my own addiction problems(alcohol), the only thing that really kept me going without killing myself were my friends and lovers. You can distance yourself so that it does'nt hurt you as much, but people need to know that there are those who care for them when they're at the bottom. It is possible to love without supporting them. If you distance yourself without cutting off completely, it will be his response that merits whether or not he is deserving ov your friendship. Just my opinion; as an individual, you are free to determine your own actions and to live by the consequences.
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