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Offlinegnrm23
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son's loss of a friend
    #2446502 - 03/18/04 10:43 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

me back in town last night...
son picked me up at airport...
when we were home & "alone" he said he really could've used "some support" over the weekend -- & i looked at him & he was, like, torn up... a good buddy of his (kid hung out at our house several days per week, generally) had been through some shit lately & did indeed kill self saturday...
& i hugged him & hugged him & told him that's really rough, so sorry, man...(& also that i had a buddy "do it" when i was 20-something; & was just floored...)

so, what can i do?
i can tell he's still hurtin' (& i dunno about funeral stuff for his bud or anything)
maybe suggest talking to a counselor?
i dunno...
sad story...
17, 18, 19, 20-yr-olds...
too young for this kinda shit to be happening...
loss & grief...
how to heal?
time...


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not old enough to care


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Re: son's loss of a friend [Re: gnrm23]
    #2446608 - 03/18/04 11:41 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

Im sorry to hear that Gnrm23 :frown:

maybe not yet..but sooner or later (I dont know if you have philosophical and spiritual talks) but if you do....
I wise man said
Quote:

2500 years ago a prince who gave up his throne to find some sort of answer to the problem of living & dying discovered (recovered? uncovered?) some "truths"...
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1) all life is suffering
2) suffering is caused by clinging
3) there is a way to end the suffering of life
4) the way to end the suffering is by following the 8-fold path of the buddha
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i'm not saying everyone must become a buddhist... (shucks, not even the dalai lama says that  ...)
but what this young prince found out about sorrow, and the ending of sorrow, is worth examining closely (imho, mmmmmmkay?)
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may your pain be released
may you be released from your pain
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Re: son's loss of a friend [Re: gnrm23]
    #2446742 - 03/18/04 12:37 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

sorry to hear about.. :frown:

I hope he feels better. The only thing that has helped me get by was time. 

If I had to do it over again(with my problems) I would have faced them instead of burying them and repressing them with other things.

:heart:


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Re: son's loss of a friend [Re: ]
    #2447535 - 03/18/04 04:24 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

yeah time is the best way to get over this,my best bud did the same prolly been 15 or so years ago and i still think of him from time to time, sorry could'nt be of more help :shake:


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Re: son's loss of a friend [Re: shaggy101]
    #2450958 - 03/19/04 10:10 AM (12 years, 8 months ago)

funeral is today...
kid was 17, still was attending north high school...

occasionally teary, y'know...
buncha his friends stopped by our house after wake - last night...
dunno what's up at the HS today but a buncha folks going to noon funeral...

(wierd - talking to my ex- & she was coping with this stuff (during the last few days) while i was outa town; she knew more of some of the stuff that was happening, but i knew other stuff --- cameron had just broken up w/girlfriend, etc... so i mentioned to ex- that there must be running through every man's head (if only for a moment), following a breakup, is wondering if "checking out" is the solution --- & she was silent for a few seconds & then said she was sorry for putting ME thru that (a few years ago) & i was able to laugh... (& i am SO glad the we managed to remain pretty much friends thru the breakup & divorce... wierd...)

~

anyways, i suppose i will "be there" for my kids & their friends, & tell 'em to, well, hang in there...

(& send some $$ next week (?) to the memorial fund in his name, from me & the ex & the kids...)




(& maybe shed a tear, i dunno...)

(god, our kids are growing up way too fast, i dunno...)



PLEASE if you ever feel things "closing in" give a shout for some help here, OK?



love/gnrmi


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Re: son's loss of a friend [Re: gnrm23]
    #2452703 - 03/19/04 09:22 PM (12 years, 8 months ago)

that is so sad. i have unfortunately been down the same road with a friend, and he ended it too. blessings to your family and his, friend.


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