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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: Patlal]
#24038196 - 01/25/17 09:51 AM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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He's in jail. How do you guys think OP found out? you think he wouldn't have already done something if he wasn't?
I'm imagining his mother found out. Either on her own or because his sister told her.
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Patlal
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#24038210 - 01/25/17 09:55 AM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: He's in jail. How do you guys think OP found out? you think he wouldn't have already done something if he wasn't?
I'm imagining his mother found out. Either on her own or because his sister told her.
Fuck... Well, he'll get his punishment alright. It's just sad that his victim won't get anything except horrible memories...
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: Patlal]
#24038245 - 01/25/17 10:07 AM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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I'm so terribly sorry you and your family are enduring this. I have personal experience with sexual trauma though and can tell you that she will open up when she's ready, but it might never be to you. And you have to be okay with that, just let her open up to whoever she feels comfortable a therapist ot whoever or I mean it might be you in the end but point being....it can take years to open up about this type of stuff. As I'm sure you already know! But hang in there, as you see you have a lot of good people on your side and plenty of good energy going to you and your family. As for him....Karma will come around and fix him up real good.... Peace to you
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: PickleJam]
#24038350 - 01/25/17 10:58 AM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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@PickleJam I love that DMT pile in your sig
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: Starstepper]
#24039279 - 01/25/17 05:00 PM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: PoopyGonzales]
#24039467 - 01/25/17 06:21 PM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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Nothing like that OP sorry but I bet you got a big old pair of brass balls.
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: Adden]
#24039582 - 01/25/17 07:07 PM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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Yeah Ds came around and she said she never loses, and screws have let word slip, so he'll be having fun in jail at the moment
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: PoopyGonzales]
#24039651 - 01/25/17 07:42 PM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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Im so sorry to hear this op, the best thing you can do is be as positive as possible and just be there for her whenever she needs you. Karma is real, you wait and see
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? [Re: spirit_shadow]
#24040146 - 01/25/17 11:56 PM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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@picklejam
Yeah she has opened up to mum, and then mums vented onto me, some of the shit ive heard is intense, he's been getting into her head and abusing her since she was 8.
After a good sleep and a bit of reflection, I kinda think she probably won't open up to me, because im not a female figure, andand shes so full of shame and embarrassment.....
Its good to see her laugh around me, and I've just been a general idiot/silly bugger around her to keep spirits lifted.
We both dragged one of the fold out lounges he raped her on outside and I showed her how to demolish it with a sledge hammer, and I could see a bit of relief from that.
Currently were just baggin up all his belongings and burning everything we cant sell and pawning the rest. Mum has no money to her name from him, theres over 3000 blu rays from his stupid movie collection he bought with her money and multiple power tools, so we are almost at a point where we can pay for a removalist and get her out of here in one go.
It sucks I have to take work off as im casual and losing money, but as I keep saying, another job is piss easy to get, another family near impossible.
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: PoopyGonzales]
#24040201 - 01/26/17 12:32 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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This thread was moved from The Pub.
Reason: Yo PG, I've been scanning your thread with interest and you mentioned someone moving it to the proper place, and I feel you'd get more in depth responses here in P&MWB so I've moved it.
Even moreso than that, looking at your location tag, it turns out that I've just settled down, (relatively) round the corner from you - I'm out in the sticks in New England. And I have a lot of experience in the subject that concerns you. If you'd like to talk it out more personally PM me.
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#24040212 - 01/26/17 12:41 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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Thank you,
Yeah I said I didn't mind it being moved, I initially just wanted a response and medium to vent through.
Its amazing to see the support that can be received through this site, even when its not harm reduction or mushroom related
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: PoopyGonzales]
#24040239 - 01/26/17 01:03 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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Man this community means the world to me. It's saved my ass a good few times.
How're you handling all this right now?
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#24040311 - 01/26/17 02:35 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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Alot better, im actually chillin in a carpark with my sister, semi prying, well like just trying to tell her not to worry about the court shit and video evidence stuff, she has an intense day long session coming up on wednesday.
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: PoopyGonzales]
#24040391 - 01/26/17 04:23 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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I'm really glad to hear that man. IMO, being there for her is about the best thing you can do right now. Fuck revenge and retribution, 'tis for the small minded. The damage is done, and IMO, the wise would only seek to repair that damage through any means, not to create more.
It's pretty likely both of you will have PTSD like symptoms based on what you've said. Do you feel like you're getting the support you need to support her? Do you trust the therapist you mentioned?
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Has anyone ever had family/relative that were victoms of sexual assault? (moved) [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#24040496 - 01/26/17 06:51 AM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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Yeah ive been seeing her on and off since mid last year, she is just at my local gp.
I dont know if she diagnosed me with ptsd or if I kinda self diagnosed, but nothing was said about it, till she gave me a med certificate saying I have ptsd from being around domestic abuse as a child, and have symptoms of anxiety in everyday life from it.
Yeah we had a good chat, and I feel like I got my point accross, and that if anything ever happens and shes scared to tell anyone in fear of disbelief ill always believe her.
She realy wants to get a career in forensics or as a coroner, and I just said if you can get through what you've already been through, and get through this you can get through any exam or degree in your way to becoming one. Haha
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