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Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help
#24018190 - 01/17/17 06:53 PM (7 years, 13 days ago) |
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So I recently started seeing a girl and she's fucking incredible. I'm nineteen and she's my first serious girlfriend. She is predominantly gay, like she's basically a hardcore lesbian and she's never even been attracted to a guy before me. I've known her for like three years now and I trust her more than anyone, it's a really fucking amazing feeling. She makes me feel like the only guy in the world and it's really fucking nice cause I thought I had missed my chance to be with a virgin girl(close enough anyway, lol). We have such a chill relationship and she'll just come over for a few hours every weekend and we'll hang out and listen to music and she'll suck my dick(I love so much that I got to be the one to teach her how to suck dick, it was so amazing watching her gaze at my dick like she's never seen one up close before, cause she really hasn't )
Okay, so here's why the problems start, she's a really fucking petite girl. About 5'0" and 115"lbs. She hasn't even let me see her vagina yet, which I'm totally okay with for now and I'm trying really fucking hard to respect her and to not rush her or put any pressure on her, but its hard for me to control myself sometimes cause she's so fucking beautiful.
Today she told me about a problem she has that she's really embarrassed about. Apparently anytime anything even touches her vagina all the muscles tighten and it hurts really fucking bad. Ofcourse just my luck that I finally find the perfect girl for me and shes got a defective vagina 
Anyways she says she's had this problem for as long as she can remember and she thinks it's called vaginismus or something and it's possibly treatable.
If anyone can Please help or let me know what the typical treatment for this kinda thing is let me know. I know she probably needs to talk with a doctor about it but if anyone could offer some help I'd be so appreciative. Thanks guys
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24018256 - 01/17/17 07:16 PM (7 years, 13 days ago) |
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Intravaginal botox injections
other approach is vaginal 'dilators' (aka increasing sized dildos)
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: pslyke]
#24019149 - 01/18/17 05:10 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Psychotherapy. High likelihood of underlying problem, maybe a traumatizing event. You may not be ready to devote the effort this needs, to be resolved, to her. What I'm trying to say, is, you might need to drop her.
But I'd have my go with lots of talking and trying.
Nevertheless I've heard that this can happen without any reasons, though I don't believe that.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Murzelpfrumpft]
#24019410 - 01/18/17 09:10 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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It's not your job to get her vagina fixed up for your pleasure, or do you think you called dibs on it since she's a virgin?
The entire tone of your post is creepy, like you are grooming her for your pleasure.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods] 2
#24019445 - 01/18/17 09:29 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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I think what koods is saying is that you still have bjs and anal to enjoy!
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87] 2
#24020132 - 01/18/17 02:12 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Lol geez, can I get some ketchup with my judgemental sandwich? I didn't mean to sound creepy, I just really fucking love this girl and I wanna be able to get her off. I'm not just gonna fucking drop her because she's got some psychological intimacy issues. :/ I just enjoy being with her and she's like the coolest most chill person i've ever met so i'm gonna try to help her work through her problems.
If I had Erectile dysfunction or a problem of my own I know she'd be willing to help me work through it. She came to me and asked me to help her with this shit, it's not like I called dibs on her pussy or whatever the fuck you're getting at koods.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#24020504 - 01/18/17 04:01 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Uhhh...
Trolly shit aside, how old is your girl?
Murzle is right that it could very likely be a psychological problem. Not a terribly uncommon one either.
There are lubricants that help to numb and relax muscles, so that might be worth looking into.
I understand you're young and you wanna get your rocks off (I'm old and I wanna get mine off too ) but you really need to be patient and ease your girl into it. Ease yourself into it. Be patient and gentle in every aspect of it. Start with oral, focus on the clit, focus on making her feel comfortable and appreciated. If you/she is open to toys there are also vibrators that do no penetrate. I believe there are ones that offer mutual pleasure at that. That might be a good next step.
If/when she does let you have sex with her you need to go stupid slow. Start with whatever you find her favorite foreplay and warm up is and then just gently push the tip in. Then wait. Then a little more, pull back a fraction, wait, push in a little more, repeat until you hit a wall if she doesn't stop you. Once you get there just settle for kissing and petting for a while. Don't hump her. Don't pound her. Go with a slow gentle rocking motion. Hold her close and gently grind, try your best to rub her clit with your navel (ur body).
But before all that I'd stick to foreplay and oral for a few months unless she says she's ready to try more. Studies show that sexual arousal is one of the most effective natural pain killers so if you get her worked up enough, and are careful enough, I think you could pull it off.
Most importantly though, be supportive. Be considerate. Be understanding (even if you don't entirely understand.) show your love and appreciation for her in every way you can. And wank off to her photos at home till it's time for you to make a move.
No seriously. If it is a psychological issue pushing for sex is going to ruin your chances. It'll probably ruin the relationship. You gotta be patient and considerate. When it comes to physical intimacy you need to care more about her feelings than yours. And if she looks or says she's uncomfortable you need to back off and wait to try again later.
That's all I got for now.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24020573 - 01/18/17 04:29 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Anonymous said: Lol geez, can I get some ketchup with my judgemental sandwich? I didn't mean to sound creepy, I just really fucking love this girl and I wanna be able to get her off. I'm not just gonna fucking drop her because she's got some psychological intimacy issues. :/ I just enjoy being with her and she's like the coolest most chill person i've ever met so i'm gonna try to help her work through her problems.
If I had Erectile dysfunction or a problem of my own I know she'd be willing to help me work through it. She came to me and asked me to help her with this shit, it's not like I called dibs on her pussy or whatever the fuck you're getting at koods. 
Ok, well, the way you worded it, it sounded like she simply told you about her problem, and you had taken it upon yourself to get it fixed.
If you are going to be exploring treatments or other remedies to this problem as a couple, I think you two should be exploring the problem together. You should wait until you have access to her vagina and see how things go and what limitations you will have.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods]
#24022046 - 01/19/17 06:00 AM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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I would suggest looking at the numbing lube and also go sloooooooow
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: psilly the kid]
#24022437 - 01/19/17 09:36 AM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods]
#24023033 - 01/19/17 02:06 PM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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koods said: It's not your job to get her vagina fixed up for your pleasure, or do you think you called dibs on it since she's a virgin?
The entire tone of your post is creepy, like you are grooming her for your pleasure.
OP sounds like he doesn't respect her personality. If he did he would appreciate her for who she is and not for her sexual abilities. Besides, I'm sure her hand works and her mouth and if he puts his tongue in her for a few hours her vagina might loosen up.
If she won't take a shower with him it's obvious she knows he just wants her for sex and doesn't really appreciate her. That's real talk.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #2]
#24023143 - 01/19/17 02:52 PM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87]
#24025219 - 01/20/17 10:10 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24025258 - 01/20/17 10:36 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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i bet she has a dick
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24025310 - 01/20/17 11:04 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Shit I do, I love pleasuring my girl orally man.
OP, CookieCrumbs advice is the best on here, if you're really into this girl it's going to take time and patience. Ask her if she'll let you eat her box and start from there, maybe introduce a finger once she's really turned on.
Good luck
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87] 1
#24025398 - 01/20/17 11:41 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Me. If she isn't grabbing my hair and pulling my face close to lick the juices off and get me inside her, there's still work to be done.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87]
#24025427 - 01/20/17 11:56 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Ooo ooo over here pick me pick me
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: psilly the kid] 1
#24027025 - 01/20/17 11:10 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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Definitely have her let you get some from one or three of her girlfriends, while she sticks to giving you head and going easy with cone . When she gets that down, maybe she'll be ready for one on one time.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: DoneKildatReason]
#24027028 - 01/20/17 11:12 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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this guy knows whats up
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#24027096 - 01/20/17 11:44 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Amanita86] 1
#24027371 - 01/21/17 04:52 AM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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Oh to be young again. I have been there man. Exact same thing except being my first real gf. Trust me you don't want to push this. It is her brain freaking out , with girl Rachael back in the day. I tired and tired to fix y Her hang up. News flash i did more harm then good. You in all likely hood will be able to fuck her down there if push comes to shove with enough sexy play time. But like Rachael once you do she will freak out and not talk to you or 6 months. Then you go out and fuck her again where she doesn't talk to you Anouther 1 year. Both times the sex was so good it causes seizers on both partners. Easily the second best sex I've had.
Now the down side, you fix her mentally then she will move on in her life and you'll be just a freind she"ll only call on special dates. And the worst part is she will remember as the turning point in her life. Rachael was a druggy cool tricked out awesome lesibo who could hold conversation about anything with a smile. After those two fucks she changed, went to med school and now is a heart surgern that is still a lesibo but no drugs, or parties, setting fires.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: tump]
#24033941 - 01/23/17 06:00 PM (7 years, 7 days ago) |
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I'm a gal and I can say that you're potentially playing with fire. Are you friends with benefits or are you lovers? Once females put you in the friend zone, not the same as friends with benefits zone, you're stuck there. I wonder if you're already there because, well, why wouldn't she atleast let you look at her vagina? When I dig a person, I want him smothered between my cheeks or vagina lips. Does she just suck your dick in exchange for company and/or your good stash? When I was younger, broke, and bored/lonely I'd go to a guy's house for chats, bud, and a fuck but meeh, the sex wasn't good so I never really anticipated it and definitely wasn't eager to show him my goodies.
I know plenty of chicks who use the "it hurts when anything goes in" excuse to get out of sex. I've heard it plenty of times from frustrated males complaining of their dry spell and from females who don't actually want to give it up.
I advise you to lick away at her clit, a finger tickling the stink, and a bit of nipple play along with kisses to the neck. Heavy petting would surely get her eager for more. She won't allow such foreplay if she isn't into you. It really is that simple. Make sure there's a bottle of bubbly(bitches love bubbly), play a drinking game with tequila, or better yet try your luck at making some cocktails. Ladies get horny from romance.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: tamales]
#24035844 - 01/24/17 11:48 AM (7 years, 6 days ago) |
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Yeah we're definitely not just friends, we're like exclusive and she's way fucking into me. Probably more than I'm into her but I really do fucking love her and she's an amazing person she just has alot of self esteem problems and stuff.
She'd definitely let me do anything I want if I just pushed her a little or really asked for it. I just don't wanna pressure her or do anything until she's ready cause, ya know... I don't wanna be a dick.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24036052 - 01/24/17 01:31 PM (7 years, 6 days ago) |
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I've been in a similar predicament before. I was too apprehensive to make moves because I didn't want her to feel pressured. But, the truth of the matter is your the guy, and it's your job as a male to escalate when you see an opportunity. Keep going slowly in a playful way, but with confidence, and get her to take her pants off.
You must practice the art of seduction, the girl isn't just gonna say "hey, listen, we've been doing the same things on our dates and I'm getting quite bored, can we just have sex now...". As much as she might think about fucking you, she's not gonna come out and say it for fear of being judged and labeled as a slut, and above all feeling "easy".
Remember, if she's as attracted to you as you think she is, it's up to you to know how far you can take this. She likes sex just as much as you do, so go for it.
And just a side note when escalating when the time seems right to you, she may stop you a little bit when you try to get her pants/panties off and try to finger her, but you have to know that she wants to feel like you "won her over", to protect herself from feeling like a little slut. When seducing her, simply tell her what you're going to do to her using some dirty talk while looking her deep in the eyes and keep going.
If she says "no, stop" in a stronger tone of voice with a serious look on her face, then obviously you have to stop. If this happens, which I don't think it will, especially if she's been waiting for this moment, then you need to stop and apologize, back off completely, start talking about some random bs, and pretend like it never happened.
Now, this is how you'll know how sexually attracted to you she really is, with no mind games. If she keeps stopping you when you escalate with confidence out of a genuine feeling of wanting to please her sexually, then you may need to look elsewhere man, she's just not that into you.
I'm not saying that she's lying about her vaginal problems, but if she really wanted to keep you around and not stray, then she's gonna feel a female instinct to want to please her man. The question is, are you that man?
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Psilosoulful]
#24036183 - 01/24/17 02:21 PM (7 years, 6 days ago) |
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Good fucking advice man, I'm gonna go for it next time she comes over. And yeah I knew obviously I was gonna have to push her at some point but I didn't just wanna go straight for the ass even though I could obviously get it, just cause I respect her a shit ton and I wanted to give her a little time. We've really only been together a month or two...
I'll do exactly what you said and drink a little with her and get her really fucking horny to where she starts breathing heavy and her eyes roll over and I know I'll be in cause she won't say no to me. I'll just go stupid fucking slow and see how far I can get.
Thanks dude
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24036320 - 01/24/17 03:13 PM (7 years, 6 days ago) |
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I wish people would stop giving personal advice to a situation they've never personally been in. (Tamales)
I also wish people could tell the difference between personal experience based advice and projecting. (Tump)
I'm a female. I'm a lesbian. I have had sex with my guy friends. I have had more than sex with my guy friends. If I wanted to project I would say she's either experimenting with you or confusing close friendship with romantic relationship. Or maybe you are OP.
But I don't want to project or assume that her situation was mine because it's probably not.
Which is why I gave advice for you to not only have sex with someone who has a vaginal muscular problem but also someone who is apparently uneasy about the idea of sex.
Yes, you do need to make the move. Or if you make a move and she reacts badly about if she thinks she'd ever be comfortable, more comfortable, to go for it herself. That's how I am. Other people making the moves beyond flirting and kissing turns me off fast as hell.
And there is no girl that appreciates a guy (or another girl) pushing for sex when she's expressed that she's not ready or comfortable. She might have sex with you, but that won't have good prospects on your long term relationship.
If you don't think the subtle hinting is working out then discuss it with her. Say how much you love her and want to please her and share the beautiful intimacy with her. And then ask if when and how she would be most comfortable proceeding. If she says she's happy where the relationship is it means you've either fucked up or got close to the fuck up line and need to tone it down.
Having onnly been together a month or 2... Don't worry about the relationship going stale. Quite likely she really is happy with the kissing and light petting and lovey dovey cuddly goo goo shit for right now. The next step, the clothes off step, can wait a few more months. I'd say maybe introduce a knee to the crotch during one of the petting sessions. Once you make your intentions known, if you're doing the first base foreplay good, she will let you know when she's ready for the next step.
Tell her to communicate with you. Tell her to tell you when she's uncomfortable. Tell her to tell you what she does and doesn't like. And if she says "no" or "stop" in her meekest little mouse voice you fucking stop.
Why? because that is how you earn trust. That's how she knows that when she goes the extra step if she does get uncomfortable or it hurts she can just tell you and you will immediately stop and respect her feelings.
If it really is psychological it's likely she's a victim of rape/molestation or had sex with someone that didn't care they were hurting her. You need to show her you care more about her feeling comfortable and content more than you need a sexual release. If she is a victim if you push too hard or don't listen to her when she says no you could not only ruin any chance at a relationship but also potentially your friendship.
I could go into alot more ifs and scenarios but I'm sure you don't need all that OP. You really gotta be easy man. You know you can't treat her like a common wench. And I know that's why you asked for advice, it's a good first step.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#24036777 - 01/24/17 05:58 PM (7 years, 6 days ago) |
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Fantastic advice, CC
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: automan]
#24037780 - 01/25/17 04:51 AM (7 years, 5 days ago) |
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What he said ^^^^ And is that a.....omg it's a cookie monster in your picture thing
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: psilly the kid]
#24041213 - 01/26/17 12:48 PM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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Has she ever been to a gynecologist? If not, she should definitely go. Even if her issue is psychological, it is still important to go get your pussy checked once a year
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: funk4brainz]
#24041219 - 01/26/17 12:52 PM (7 years, 4 days ago) |
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This is true. And if it is a neuromuscular problem the doc can instruct her how to do kegals and whatnot to help loosen that up. Or if it's a wider neurological issue she can get on meds to help.
If it's psychological tho and she already knows it it's unlikely she'll want to go.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#24043697 - 01/27/17 12:46 PM (7 years, 3 days ago) |
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CookieCrumbs said: I wish people would stop giving personal advice to a situation they've never personally been in. (Tamales)
You don't know me or of any situation I've been in. You do not even know the person he is talking about so for all you know, your advice is also one coming from a situation unrelated to hers.
But I appalud you for also contributing to the thread. Your advice is very sound.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: tamales]
#24043815 - 01/27/17 01:31 PM (7 years, 3 days ago) |
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tamales said: I'm a gal and I can say that you're potentially playing with fire. Are you friends with benefits or are you lovers? Once females put you in the friend zone, not the same as friends with benefits zone, you're stuck there. I wonder if you're already there because, well, why wouldn't she atleast let you look at her vagina? When I dig a person, I want him smothered between my cheeks or vagina lips. Does she just suck your dick in exchange for company and/or your good stash? When I was younger, broke, and bored/lonely I'd go to a guy's house for chats, bud, and a fuck but meeh, the sex wasn't good so I never really anticipated it and definitely wasn't eager to show him my goodies.
I know plenty of chicks who use the "it hurts when anything goes in" excuse to get out of sex. I've heard it plenty of times from frustrated males complaining of their dry spell and from females who don't actually want to give it up.
I dunno implying that she's lying because you've not wanted to have sex with guys who wanted to have sex with you sounds like irrelevant personal advice to me.
It happens alot here and I'm honestly tired of seeing that, that "she's stringing you along" or "she's cheating on you bro" here.
Painful intercourse is very common. It is most common due to a lack of lubrication, not really because of muscle tension. You can't really fake that kind of pain. I suppose not unless you had insane control of your kegal muscles. It doesn't come about due to a lack of arousal, it comes about from psychological, neurological, or maintenance issues. That last one, for example, is a virgin who has never so much as had a tampon.
Being that OP's girl otherwise identifies as gay I'm assuming it's psychological issues but it could also be a maintenance problem. In both cases the advice is about the same.
Now I think your sexual advice is sound. Sauce is a good way to help open the door but we don't advocate under aged drinking here at the shroomery.  Definitely wouldn't go overboard on that though. Last thing you want is to make her feel like you intend to take advantage of her.
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Patlal
You ask too many questions



Registered: 10/09/10
Posts: 44,797
Loc: Ottawa
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: CookieCrumbs] 2
#24044802 - 01/27/17 06:00 PM (7 years, 3 days ago) |
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Super hot chick you share everything in common with! Broken vagina.
Life....
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Amanita86
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Registered: 09/26/12
Posts: 89,464
Loc: hades
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Patlal]
#24047554 - 01/28/17 09:35 PM (7 years, 1 day ago) |
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You got that right man..
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