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Anonymous #1
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Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help
#24018190 - 01/17/17 06:53 PM (7 years, 13 days ago) |
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So I recently started seeing a girl and she's fucking incredible. I'm nineteen and she's my first serious girlfriend. She is predominantly gay, like she's basically a hardcore lesbian and she's never even been attracted to a guy before me. I've known her for like three years now and I trust her more than anyone, it's a really fucking amazing feeling. She makes me feel like the only guy in the world and it's really fucking nice cause I thought I had missed my chance to be with a virgin girl(close enough anyway, lol). We have such a chill relationship and she'll just come over for a few hours every weekend and we'll hang out and listen to music and she'll suck my dick(I love so much that I got to be the one to teach her how to suck dick, it was so amazing watching her gaze at my dick like she's never seen one up close before, cause she really hasn't )
Okay, so here's why the problems start, she's a really fucking petite girl. About 5'0" and 115"lbs. She hasn't even let me see her vagina yet, which I'm totally okay with for now and I'm trying really fucking hard to respect her and to not rush her or put any pressure on her, but its hard for me to control myself sometimes cause she's so fucking beautiful.
Today she told me about a problem she has that she's really embarrassed about. Apparently anytime anything even touches her vagina all the muscles tighten and it hurts really fucking bad. Ofcourse just my luck that I finally find the perfect girl for me and shes got a defective vagina 
Anyways she says she's had this problem for as long as she can remember and she thinks it's called vaginismus or something and it's possibly treatable.
If anyone can Please help or let me know what the typical treatment for this kinda thing is let me know. I know she probably needs to talk with a doctor about it but if anyone could offer some help I'd be so appreciative. Thanks guys
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pslyke
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24018256 - 01/17/17 07:16 PM (7 years, 13 days ago) |
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Intravaginal botox injections
other approach is vaginal 'dilators' (aka increasing sized dildos)
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Murzelpfrumpft
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: pslyke]
#24019149 - 01/18/17 05:10 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Psychotherapy. High likelihood of underlying problem, maybe a traumatizing event. You may not be ready to devote the effort this needs, to be resolved, to her. What I'm trying to say, is, you might need to drop her.
But I'd have my go with lots of talking and trying.
Nevertheless I've heard that this can happen without any reasons, though I don't believe that.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Murzelpfrumpft]
#24019410 - 01/18/17 09:10 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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It's not your job to get her vagina fixed up for your pleasure, or do you think you called dibs on it since she's a virgin?
The entire tone of your post is creepy, like you are grooming her for your pleasure.
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Edited by koods (01/18/17 09:13 AM)
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods] 2
#24019445 - 01/18/17 09:29 AM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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I think what koods is saying is that you still have bjs and anal to enjoy!
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87] 2
#24020132 - 01/18/17 02:12 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Lol geez, can I get some ketchup with my judgemental sandwich? I didn't mean to sound creepy, I just really fucking love this girl and I wanna be able to get her off. I'm not just gonna fucking drop her because she's got some psychological intimacy issues. :/ I just enjoy being with her and she's like the coolest most chill person i've ever met so i'm gonna try to help her work through her problems.
If I had Erectile dysfunction or a problem of my own I know she'd be willing to help me work through it. She came to me and asked me to help her with this shit, it's not like I called dibs on her pussy or whatever the fuck you're getting at koods.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#24020504 - 01/18/17 04:01 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Uhhh...
Trolly shit aside, how old is your girl?
Murzle is right that it could very likely be a psychological problem. Not a terribly uncommon one either.
There are lubricants that help to numb and relax muscles, so that might be worth looking into.
I understand you're young and you wanna get your rocks off (I'm old and I wanna get mine off too ) but you really need to be patient and ease your girl into it. Ease yourself into it. Be patient and gentle in every aspect of it. Start with oral, focus on the clit, focus on making her feel comfortable and appreciated. If you/she is open to toys there are also vibrators that do no penetrate. I believe there are ones that offer mutual pleasure at that. That might be a good next step.
If/when she does let you have sex with her you need to go stupid slow. Start with whatever you find her favorite foreplay and warm up is and then just gently push the tip in. Then wait. Then a little more, pull back a fraction, wait, push in a little more, repeat until you hit a wall if she doesn't stop you. Once you get there just settle for kissing and petting for a while. Don't hump her. Don't pound her. Go with a slow gentle rocking motion. Hold her close and gently grind, try your best to rub her clit with your navel (ur body).
But before all that I'd stick to foreplay and oral for a few months unless she says she's ready to try more. Studies show that sexual arousal is one of the most effective natural pain killers so if you get her worked up enough, and are careful enough, I think you could pull it off.
Most importantly though, be supportive. Be considerate. Be understanding (even if you don't entirely understand.) show your love and appreciation for her in every way you can. And wank off to her photos at home till it's time for you to make a move.
No seriously. If it is a psychological issue pushing for sex is going to ruin your chances. It'll probably ruin the relationship. You gotta be patient and considerate. When it comes to physical intimacy you need to care more about her feelings than yours. And if she looks or says she's uncomfortable you need to back off and wait to try again later.
That's all I got for now.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24020573 - 01/18/17 04:29 PM (7 years, 12 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Lol geez, can I get some ketchup with my judgemental sandwich? I didn't mean to sound creepy, I just really fucking love this girl and I wanna be able to get her off. I'm not just gonna fucking drop her because she's got some psychological intimacy issues. :/ I just enjoy being with her and she's like the coolest most chill person i've ever met so i'm gonna try to help her work through her problems.
If I had Erectile dysfunction or a problem of my own I know she'd be willing to help me work through it. She came to me and asked me to help her with this shit, it's not like I called dibs on her pussy or whatever the fuck you're getting at koods. 
Ok, well, the way you worded it, it sounded like she simply told you about her problem, and you had taken it upon yourself to get it fixed.
If you are going to be exploring treatments or other remedies to this problem as a couple, I think you two should be exploring the problem together. You should wait until you have access to her vagina and see how things go and what limitations you will have.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods]
#24022046 - 01/19/17 06:00 AM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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I would suggest looking at the numbing lube and also go sloooooooow
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: psilly the kid]
#24022437 - 01/19/17 09:36 AM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: koods]
#24023033 - 01/19/17 02:06 PM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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koods said: It's not your job to get her vagina fixed up for your pleasure, or do you think you called dibs on it since she's a virgin?
The entire tone of your post is creepy, like you are grooming her for your pleasure.
OP sounds like he doesn't respect her personality. If he did he would appreciate her for who she is and not for her sexual abilities. Besides, I'm sure her hand works and her mouth and if he puts his tongue in her for a few hours her vagina might loosen up.
If she won't take a shower with him it's obvious she knows he just wants her for sex and doesn't really appreciate her. That's real talk.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #2]
#24023143 - 01/19/17 02:52 PM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87]
#24025219 - 01/20/17 10:10 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24025258 - 01/20/17 10:36 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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i bet she has a dick
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24025310 - 01/20/17 11:04 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Shit I do, I love pleasuring my girl orally man.
OP, CookieCrumbs advice is the best on here, if you're really into this girl it's going to take time and patience. Ask her if she'll let you eat her box and start from there, maybe introduce a finger once she's really turned on.
Good luck
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87] 1
#24025398 - 01/20/17 11:41 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Me. If she isn't grabbing my hair and pulling my face close to lick the juices off and get me inside her, there's still work to be done.
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psilly the kid
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Matt87]
#24025427 - 01/20/17 11:56 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Matt87 said: Whos going down on a lady for a few hours?!
Ooo ooo over here pick me pick me
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: psilly the kid] 1
#24027025 - 01/20/17 11:10 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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Definitely have her let you get some from one or three of her girlfriends, while she sticks to giving you head and going easy with cone . When she gets that down, maybe she'll be ready for one on one time.
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: DoneKildatReason]
#24027028 - 01/20/17 11:12 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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this guy knows whats up
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Re: Girlfriend vagina problems - desperately need some help [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#24027096 - 01/20/17 11:44 PM (7 years, 9 days ago) |
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