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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: qman]
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I figured you'd have reservations, thank you for being so honest.
There may be more exceptions to your expected outcome than you may realize though.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009343 - 01/14/17 10:00 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Crystal G said: I just find the whole concept of GoFundMe to be so shameful and embarrassing. I would never ever want to put up a GoFundMe of myself begging for money from my friends and family. I would have to be dying of cancer or HIV or something very serious before I ever considered airing out my laundry and humiliating myself like that.
Seriously, i remeber when it first started getting popular, these people i know used it to try and pay for their honeymoon... what a horrible way to start a marriage.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: ReposadoXochipilli]
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ReposadoXochipilli said: Seriously, i remeber when it first started getting popular, these people i know used it to try and pay for their honeymoon... what a horrible way to start a marriage.
Hah, when my friend got married she requested the guests to donate money to her honeymoon instead of buying them wedding gifts.
I'm pretty easygoing and laid back so I didn't mind throwing down a $100 bill for her honeymoon, but a lot of people apparently thought it was uncouth and tasteless for them to ask such a thing.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: qman] 1
#24009367 - 01/14/17 10:06 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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qman said: Well, I'm going to give you my honest opinion instead of the "popular" answer, yes I would have issue with the scenario.
Why? Because she would more likely to be entering a lifestyle of domestic violence, single motherhood, a deadbeat father, financial turmoil, misogyny, interactions with the criminal justice system, ect.
She would also bring mixed children into a world that can be very cruel to that outcome. Marrying into a different race with different customs, values, heritage and culture is too challenging for most couples even under the best of circumstances. I just see it being a major hurdle.
I will say this, I have a male first cousin who was a academic and musical superstar in his childhood, he converted to a Jehovah Witness and married a black woman over 25-30 years ago. They had two male children and remain married to this day. He lives on the other side of the country so I don't even know this person or his family, but I would say they might be the exception to the rule when it comes to this topic.
What about other races? Asian, Hispanic, etc?
It's almost ironic, because everything you just said about domestic violence and misogyny and deadbeats and everything, I feel like it could easily apply to your own ethnicity (I know you are are Polish). Almost everything you just said could just as easily apply to a Russian or Polish guy, almost any Eastern European guy really, that and they also have the alcoholism stereotype going for them too.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009386 - 01/14/17 10:14 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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I don't see anything wrong with that, is like those baby shower lists so people don't get multiple items. Straight money might be considered crass but i totally understand not wanting people to have to think about your gift. Always thought gift cards were a great idea.
Now if they wanted money and money for the honeymoon that might be a little whack.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009388 - 01/14/17 10:14 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Re: Crystal_G
Indeed as an european I can say, yes that is totally the stereotype for polish and other eastern european males domestic violence, sexism, alcohol abuse.
So yes, it IS ironic.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Asante]
#24009406 - 01/14/17 10:22 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: Re: Crystal_G
Indeed as an european I can say, yes that is totally the stereotype for polish and other eastern european males domestic violence, sexism, alcohol abuse.
So yes, it IS ironic.
I mean, I know that Brexit happened largely because of that type of sentiment. It wasn't just Muslims that the English hated, they also hated Polish immigrants too. They believe a lot of those Eastern European immigrants are largely responsible for crime in the UK (and statistically it might be somewhat true, I was reading that close to 40% of crime in the UK is committed by either Middle East or Eastern European immigrants).
Apparently right around the timing of Brexit, the Polish Cultural Association was vandalized with the words "Go home," laminated cards were distributed with the message "Leave the EU! No more Polish vermin," and one Polish guy ended up getting murdered in a hate crime.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Asante]
#24009407 - 01/14/17 10:22 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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I love the fact that in my generation the two oldest males one a cousin, then other my brother are both with black women. They stuggle with societies expectations but i think it is great, both appear to be wonderful women and make them happy. Who the hell wouldn't support that?
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Asante] 1
#24009412 - 01/14/17 10:25 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: This is entitlement pure and simple, not as much white entitlement as girl entitlement
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009418 - 01/14/17 10:26 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Crystal G said:
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qman said: Well, I'm going to give you my honest opinion instead of the "popular" answer, yes I would have issue with the scenario.
Why? Because she would more likely to be entering a lifestyle of domestic violence, single motherhood, a deadbeat father, financial turmoil, misogyny, interactions with the criminal justice system, ect.
She would also bring mixed children into a world that can be very cruel to that outcome. Marrying into a different race with different customs, values, heritage and culture is too challenging for most couples even under the best of circumstances. I just see it being a major hurdle.
I will say this, I have a male first cousin who was a academic and musical superstar in his childhood, he converted to a Jehovah Witness and married a black woman over 25-30 years ago. They had two male children and remain married to this day. He lives on the other side of the country so I don't even know this person or his family, but I would say they might be the exception to the rule when it comes to this topic.
What about other races? Asian, Hispanic, etc?
It's almost ironic, because everything you just said about domestic violence and misogyny and deadbeats and everything, I feel like it could easily apply to your own ethnicity (I know you are are Polish). Almost everything you just said could just as easily apply to a Russian or Polish guy, almost any Eastern European guy really, that and they also have the alcoholism stereotype going for them too.
My brother has been married to a Japanese woman for over 10 years, she was born and raised in Japan and came over to the US for college.
I always liked her, she's a traditional woman. She takes care of the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry and bills. They have no children and my brother goes to work.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: qman]
#24009429 - 01/14/17 10:29 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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qman said: My brother has been married to a Japanese woman for over 10 years, she was born and raised in Japan and came over to the US for college.
I always liked her, she's a traditional woman. She takes care of the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry and bills. They have no children and my brother goes to work.
So are you the only one in your family that feels the way you do? I'm guessing your brother doesn't. This is so interesting...
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Niffla]
#24009431 - 01/14/17 10:30 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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I don't blame her. I blame the idiots that gave her money.
To be honest "earning" this much money for nothing, at such a young age, has probably fucked up her ability to be successful in the real world. College might be considered a worthy investment but it depends on what she's going for and it depends on how she invests the education she earns.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Prisoner#1]
#24009442 - 01/14/17 10:33 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Well its true, many girls matter of factly expect handouts because, like, they are a girl and we are men.
This totally backfires around me 
I am polite, but being gay women get no special treatment from me and this has led to hilarious situations. Female charm cast in my direction hits a brick wall with me and drops dead at my feet. It just doesn't take hold and I at times don't even realize an attempt at gender innuendo had been made leaving her completely baffled or even furious.
Sorry, i'm just not the kind of guy who gives off any sort of enticed signal if a woman acts flirtateous 
Its hilarious
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009452 - 01/14/17 10:36 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Crystal G said:
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qman said: My brother has been married to a Japanese woman for over 10 years, she was born and raised in Japan and came over to the US for college.
I always liked her, she's a traditional woman. She takes care of the house, cooking, cleaning, laundry and bills. They have no children and my brother goes to work.
So are you the only one in your family that feels the way you do? I'm guessing your brother doesn't. This is so interesting... 
My whole family loves her, she's sweet and takes good care of my brother. She's smart and very civilized, I never seen her get upset or throw a bitch fit. She's also very frugal, doesn't waste a penny.
I think my brother is happy with her, he has a good paying job that's very demanding. When he comes home he likes to relax and chill out.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Asante] 1
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Asante said: Well its true, many girls matter of factly expect handouts because, like, they are a girl and we are men.
sounds like a lot of black people with their crap about reparations
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: qman]
#24009465 - 01/14/17 10:41 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: Well its true, many girls matter of factly expect handouts because, like, they are a girl and we are men.
This totally backfires around me 
I am polite, but being gay women get no special treatment from me and this has led to hilarious situations. Female charm cast in my direction hits a brick wall with me and drops dead at my feet. It just doesn't take hold and I at times don't even realize an attempt at gender innuendo had been made leaving her completely baffled or even furious.
Sorry, i'm just not the kind of guy who gives off any sort of enticed signal if a woman acts flirtateous 
Its hilarious 
No offense but if I were to eat somewhere at a restaurant with you, I would probably be expecting you to pay.
But it's not because you are male.... it's because you are much older than me, and I'd consider you the "adult" in the situation. 
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qman said: My whole family loves her, she's sweet and takes good care of my brother. She's smart and very civilized, I never seen her get upset or throw a bitch fit. She's also very frugal, doesn't waste a penny.
I think my brother is happy with her, he has a good paying job that's very demanding. When he comes home he likes to relax and chill out.
She sounds like a very typical Japanese person. Rarely gets upset, frugal with money, has a strong sense of duty and responsibility.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Prisoner#1]
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I'm telling you Pris, all this talk of reparation is just a ruse to try to come onto you
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Asante]
#24009472 - 01/14/17 10:44 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: I'm telling you Pris, all this talk of reparation is just a ruse to try to come onto you 
I'd just fuck them and steal their wallet
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Crystal G]
#24009476 - 01/14/17 10:46 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: Well its true, many girls matter of factly expect handouts because, like, they are a girl and we are men.
This totally backfires around me 
I am polite, but being gay women get no special treatment from me and this has led to hilarious situations. Female charm cast in my direction hits a brick wall with me and drops dead at my feet. It just doesn't take hold and I at times don't even realize an attempt at gender innuendo had been made leaving her completely baffled or even furious.
Sorry, i'm just not the kind of guy who gives off any sort of enticed signal if a woman acts flirtateous 
Its hilarious 
No offense but if I were to eat somewhere at a restaurant with you, I would probably be expecting you to pay.
But it's not because you are male.... it's because you are much older than me, and I'd consider you the "adult" in the situation. 
Oh I don't mean that, that fits my etiquette too, i'm into all that gentlemanly stuff its just, some women expect every man to bend over backwards to accomodate them and that mentality doesn't work with me.
You wouldnt do it in a flirtatious way but as a matter of honor and etiquette and that's respectable, you wouldnt be imposing female charm on a stranger in expectation of a handout.
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Re: White chick gets "disowned" for dating a black dude, now has 20 grand in donations and counting [Re: Prisoner#1]
#24009481 - 01/14/17 10:48 AM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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Asante said: I'm telling you Pris, all this talk of reparation is just a ruse to try to come onto you 
I'd just fuck them and steal their wallet
#doublefuck't
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