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Anonymous #1
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A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend
#23994397 - 01/09/17 05:03 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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So over the past couple months, I have been kinda broke so I have been only able to pick up a little at a time. My dealer was someone I was associates maybe even friends with before I started buying from him again.
Some of the nights I would go over there he would be chilling with his friend and not engaging at all with his girlfriend. This is when she started giving me the flirting signals, these are the tried and true women flirting signals so I know I'm not mis reading.
As it has progressed she has made more and more of an effort to keep in touch with me. She asked for my number and said we should start lifting together at the gym we live near by.
This girl is quality. Very beautiful and a nice cute fun personality.
Why would she be acting this way when she has a boyfriend who she has been with for a good while?
There is not much ties between me and my dealer so it's not like i would be losing a friend if things did end up going well.
At this point she has shown enough interest to where her boyfriend is even starting to pick up on it
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Anonymous #2
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23994409 - 01/09/17 05:19 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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What do you want to hear You know it's wrong so don't do it.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23994419 - 01/09/17 05:28 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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Why is she acting like this?
to tease?
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Anonymous #3
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #2] 4
#23994421 - 01/09/17 05:31 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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Dont do it. Youll regret. Shell leave you for someone else aswell at some point
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Anonymous #1
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #3]
#23994433 - 01/09/17 05:45 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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probably, im not trying to settle in my 20's
im just looking for some insight
this is quite a bold way to act for being in a 1+ year relationship
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Anonymous #2
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23994444 - 01/09/17 06:00 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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Like you say she is probably frustrated and looking for someone to get funky with, it's life. Now the decision is your's short term thrills or principles.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23996053 - 01/09/17 06:12 PM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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Like you said, her boyfriend/your dealer/your friend is not showing her enough attention and women love to be recognized. If she isn't going to get attention from her boyfriend then she is going to seek it elsewhere. Not saying she would go as far as cheat on him with you or anyone else, but its possible. A lot of times women will have a backup lined up before they break up with their current partner, and it sounds like this might be one of those times.
If she tries to hook up with you while she is still in a relationship with your friend then it's up to you to go through with it, but know that once a cheater always a cheater. She will do the same thing to you if she gets bored with you. So treat it as an open relationship or even a one time hook up, but don't count on anything long term unless you feel like getting cheated on in the future. But hopefully she breaks it off with him first and pursues you because then you'll have no guilt and know you can somewhat trust her. Good luck
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: FruitOfLife]
#23996141 - 01/09/17 06:31 PM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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A great man once said, "No matter how pretty she looks, there's always some dude, somewhere, who's tired of f***ing her."
Maybe the dealer figures he's got a sure thing going (clearly, he doesn't) or she just needs more attention than he's giving her (does that mean she's high-maintenance?).
If you meet her at the gym, you're definitely gonna need to find a new dealer. I'd tell her you do NOT get involved in love triangles, because that's where this is headed.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: FruitOfLife]
#23996902 - 01/09/17 10:56 PM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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After thinking about this some more and reading the replies I think she is using me as a tool.
Her playfulness feels like it is almost a taunt on her part to her boyfriend because some of the times she is pretty open about spending time with me. My gut feelings are that they are too serious but I have also yet to spend time alone with her.
she is high maintenance, which is not something I would mind.
Edited by Anonymous (01/09/17 11:04 PM)
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23997058 - 01/10/17 12:23 AM (7 years, 21 days ago) |
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Yeah maybe she's using you to show her boyfriend, "see, I am desirable..." To make him jealous in hopes shell give her more of whatever it is she wants. Playing games man..... Respect their relationship, even if it's headed to an end, and make that clear to her when you are alone, if ever. Go from there. She'll respect you for that. And you'll respect yourself.. not easy, I know, very tempting, but not worth it. If that's too much for you, which it understandably may be, then you could just give in and let her cheat with you, and have that physical pleasure, but karma is real, and what goes around always comes around..... Might be a while down the road, but it will come back and it'll hurt.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23997629 - 01/10/17 09:10 AM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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Sounds like she is using you to make him jealous and also saving your info as a potential option if they break up. Don't get in the friend zone. You may be getting a call after they break up.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Starstepper]
#23999716 - 01/10/17 10:21 PM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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you can hang out as friends but don't flirt unless they're broken up
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Konyap]
#24003916 - 01/12/17 12:13 PM (7 years, 18 days ago) |
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If shes single whatever. Dating somebodys girlfriend is a stupid thing to do, there are so many girls out there. Probably ones who look like that one as well.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Prem. Kissoff]
#24004037 - 01/12/17 01:06 PM (7 years, 18 days ago) |
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she was just using me to get him to try harder
my dealer sees this girl as the one. I see this girl as someone who I would have fun with for a couple of months then get bored.
if she flocks to me that is great, but so far everything has been initiated by her and it feels like a stupid game now that I have witnessed it more and thought about it more.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24005085 - 01/12/17 06:25 PM (7 years, 18 days ago) |
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Ya man lots of good advice and it seems like you're getting it. She very well just be using you. Hell maybe she does it with all the guys that swing by there. A lot of girls do that to try and send signals to their boyfriends. I've seen it happen a lot and even had t done to me when I was tired of girls and didn't give them attention. Hell she might actually like you but from what I've read it seems like more of an attention seeking move.
Tread cautiously, you could very well end up in a situation you don't want to be in. Like others have previously said if you somehow do end up with her expect her to do the same thing to you. People usually stick to their same patterns of behavior. Heck maybe that's what happened with her current boyfriend. Lots of red flags, be careful man.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24008009 - 01/13/17 06:44 PM (7 years, 17 days ago) |
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24008037 - 01/13/17 06:57 PM (7 years, 17 days ago) |
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lol as a girl i'm curious what the " tried and true women flirting signals " she was initiating were? Like what makes you think all these things about her in the first place? people always think i'm flirtatious, guys constantly accuse me of things I didn't do because they read into my words/behavior...gets so frustrating being made to feel like a slut just for being nice to people of the opposite sex. but yeah, you haven't provided any concrete evidence, y'all are just ripping on this girl.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #4]
#24008057 - 01/13/17 07:03 PM (7 years, 17 days ago) |
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sluts are only women who sleep around whilst in relationships, other than that we have the right to our bodies as intimate human beings.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: sudly] 1
#24010774 - 01/14/17 08:29 PM (7 years, 16 days ago) |
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She dates a drug dealer and goes after you while she's dating him but she's a quality girl. Like okay..
She wants your dick no question. If you want to get laid I'd say go for it. Invite her over to your place to chill. But if you're looking for someone to be with forget it. She's a skank dude.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: LackToast]
#24011448 - 01/15/17 08:02 AM (7 years, 15 days ago) |
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Some of the guys I know outright call woman stupid and they say it turns them on.
If they are maybe it's intimidating
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Anonymous #1
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #4]
#24013585 - 01/16/17 01:16 AM (7 years, 15 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: lol as a girl i'm curious what the " tried and true women flirting signals " she was initiating were? Like what makes you think all these things about her in the first place? people always think i'm flirtatious, guys constantly accuse me of things I didn't do because they read into my words/behavior...gets so frustrating being made to feel like a slut just for being nice to people of the opposite sex. but yeah, you haven't provided any concrete evidence, y'all are just ripping on this girl.
so much so that her boyfriend in a stern voice said her name when she was talking to me
tone of voice, body language, eye contact, exposing herself.
i have been around women enough to know when they want nothing to do with me
it has happened since i posted this thread. when he doesn't give her attention she taunts spending time with me. i barely know this girl.
Edited by Anonymous (01/16/17 01:18 AM)
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: LackToast]
#24013620 - 01/16/17 01:40 AM (7 years, 15 days ago) |
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Quote:
LackToast said: She dates a drug dealer and goes after you while she's dating him but she's a quality girl. Like okay..
She wants your dick no question. If you want to get laid I'd say go for it. Invite her over to your place to chill. But if you're looking for someone to be with forget it. She's a skank dude.
that comment was made from a place of lust
and good point
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24013766 - 01/16/17 04:28 AM (7 years, 14 days ago) |
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Coming into this one late - but OP, man, fuck this shit. She's with someone else. There's millions of single women out there. Do the fucking right thing and just drop it.
I promise you NO good can come of this situation.
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#24013772 - 01/16/17 04:37 AM (7 years, 14 days ago) |
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i dropped it
also realized i dont actually like my dealer as a person shortly after i made this thread
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Re: A sticky Situation - Dealers girlfriend [Re: Anonymous #1]
#24023028 - 01/19/17 02:04 PM (7 years, 11 days ago) |
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This situation feels really familiar. Just instead its usually either a friend or i knew the girl first and in my case i actually was into her.
If their your friend then don't ever, pretty obvious and would cause some real bad feels for anyone involved who has empathy. I think if you met the girl and were more friends with her and just knew her boyfriend then you should be close enough to ask in a very straightforward way she is behaving like this.
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