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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23996834 - 01/09/17 10:28 PM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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I lived with a girl for a year of college. She was also a really good friend of mine. We didn't sleep together, but we hung out regularly. I actually started a relationship with another girl while in this living situation. I just wanted you to know it is possible.
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Patlal
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23997725 - 01/10/17 09:59 AM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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Anonymous said: Hey shroomerites. I'm gonna go anon on this one because there are pics of me on here and this is a very personal post.
I need some halp regarding my gf's roommate.
So I've been seeing this girl for 10 months and everything is excellent; its the best relationship I've ever been in (the first serious adult one for me even). We have great communication, fantastic sex, my family and friends like her and her's like me too, we're both level-headed and nerdy.
Uno problemo.
She lives with this fellow who shes known for 10+ years, they are best friends. Always hanging out together at home, they have their own lives of course but share many of the same friends.
And I just can't let go of the thought that I will always be no.2 to this guy, her bff. It doesn't help that he is incredibly charismatic, funny, good-looking, and smart. He also can be crazy and sometimes an asshole if he's in a bad mood.
I'm not normally a jealous person. I hate feeling possessive.
Would it be different if her roommate were female? Honestly, it probably would be less of an issue for me. 
I think my problem is insecurity 
I haven't expressed any of this to her. I don't really want to, I want to get over it myself and move on in this awesome relationship.
Any tips for feeling more secure?
That dude has been in the friendzone for 10 years. You don't recover from that. The only way this guy is getting in her pants is if he rapes her or she's coming off a break up with you and she wasted. Other than that she thinks of him as a family member. Chicks don't fuck their brothers.
Trust me on this. You're good. You don't need to feel secure about this... It's practically guaranteed they never fucked and if they did it was early on and they decided to stay friends.
The friendzne is a powerful thing. don't worry
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Patlal]
#23997899 - 01/10/17 11:21 AM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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This dude is probably so deep in the friend zone he has to choose one out of two outfits for her when she is getting ready for a date with OP.
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Patlal
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Starstepper]
#23997934 - 01/10/17 11:32 AM (7 years, 20 days ago) |
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This guy gets it.
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Patlal]
#24000602 - 01/11/17 09:26 AM (7 years, 19 days ago) |
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Any updates OP?
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Psilosoulful] 1
#24001991 - 01/11/17 06:29 PM (7 years, 19 days ago) |
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Nawt really. Things are still going really well. I didn't bring this issue up nor did I broach the idea of moving in together.
You guys definitely helped me feel more secure, esp. with those level 10 friendzone comments I'm going to remember that
The problem is really just with me though, and my feelings of inferiority to her roommate.
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Re: Girlfriend's roommate... halp. [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#24002897 - 01/12/17 12:45 AM (7 years, 18 days ago) |
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Just chiming in to say this: Most married couples can't even keep the fire going for 10 years. Even if they did potentially bang at one point, you're pretty much guaranteed that they aren't banging now. If there are no obvious signs pointing to any kind of foul play, why ruin a good thing? 
I would work on just getting to know the dude. Maybe befriending him will help him seem less threatening to you.
Also, 1 year is pretty short. 10 years of friendship something that is reasonable to feel inferior about. Just work on directing those feelings in a proactive way rather than trying to play in an imaginary pissing contest.
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