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Still love your ex's?
    #23957534 - 12/26/16 12:05 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

There are a few of my ex's I love as much now as I did when we first met, meeting and falling into someone new doesnt change a thing. Granted most women I no longer have any feeling for, just a few.

What say you?
Love is forever
You may choose only one
How many licks to get to the center of a tootsie pop?
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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23957538 - 12/26/16 12:07 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

It would be kind of sick if love was forever.

There are things you can't take back, unconditional love is begging for a sick relationship. Imagine all the women who stay with their wifebeater husbands no matter what...


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: czech] * 1
    #23957546 - 12/26/16 12:18 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.

I chose what is love, and dickbutt.

A glorious poll. :heart:


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: czech] * 1
    #23957558 - 12/26/16 12:36 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

i haven't lived forever and therefore can't claim if love is forever.  however, based on observations of others' relationships, i would say "true love", whatever that is (seems like this turns into tolerance in the long-run), has the potential to last a lifetime and endure much hardship; that being said, "true love" is also like a car or a nuclear reactor, needing regular inspections and semi-frequent maintenance, depending on the conditions it is exposed to.


it's been said many times, but i feel most peoples' interpretations of their feelings of "love" is strong infatuation at best.  infatuation is a lot like poppy pod tea.  it has a hell of an afterglow, but always leaves a bad taste in a parched mouth


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: demiu5]
    #23957566 - 12/26/16 12:54 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Quote:

Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.

I chose what is love, and dickbutt.

A glorious poll. :heart:




13? Are you married?


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demiu5 said:
i haven't lived forever and therefore can't claim if love is forever.  however, based on observations of others' relationships, i would say "true love", whatever that is (seems like this turns into tolerance in the long-run), has the potential to last a lifetime and endure much hardship; that being said, "true love" is also like a car or a nuclear reactor, needing regular inspections and semi-frequent maintenance, depending on the conditions it is exposed to.


it's been said many times, but i feel most peoples' interpretations of their feelings of "love" is strong infatuation at best.  infatuation is a lot like poppy pod tea.  it has a hell of an afterglow, but always leaves a bad taste in a parched mouth




Love for a woman is little different for me than the love I have for family or a pet, no maintenance needed, no wearing down with time.
The big difference being sex and excesses of expression in general


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23957580 - 12/26/16 01:20 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Quote:

Repertoire89 said:
Quote:

Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.

I chose what is love, and dickbutt.

A glorious poll. :heart:




13? Are you married?



No, we don't really believe in the concept of marriage.
Just another one of them bullshit things humans do.
And I'm about 29 now.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89] * 1
    #23957583 - 12/26/16 01:23 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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Repertoire89 said:
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demiu5 said:
i haven't lived forever and therefore can't claim if love is forever.  however, based on observations of others' relationships, i would say "true love", whatever that is (seems like this turns into tolerance in the long-run), has the potential to last a lifetime and endure much hardship; that being said, "true love" is also like a car or a nuclear reactor, needing regular inspections and semi-frequent maintenance, depending on the conditions it is exposed to.


it's been said many times, but i feel most peoples' interpretations of their feelings of "love" is strong infatuation at best.  infatuation is a lot like poppy pod tea.  it has a hell of an afterglow, but always leaves a bad taste in a parched mouth




Love for a woman is little different for me than the love I have for family or a pet, no maintenance needed, no wearing down with time.
The big difference being sex and excesses of expression in general






considering the title of your post, and the poll attached, i assumed we were discussing love in the "romantic" sense.  Familial love is completely different, friendly love is different still, and love for a pet falls, ime, in the familial bracket.


Why these divisions of, seemingly, the same emotion are so different, i can't fully explain, however endorphins and hormones are likely culprits.


my experience with familial love, specifically related to family, is complicated.  i don't really feel love for my brother.  there is no hostility, no anger, or deep-seated resentments.  we never built memories together.  most of my memories of us together as children, aside from one specifically, was us fighting or being antagonizing as young children.  he did prevent our father from beating me late one nite and subsequently learned that my father had abused me multiple times previously.  i have only four other positive memories of our interactions, and he had moved out of the house by then.  we are virtually polar opposites and never really bonded deeply.


i love my mother and grandparents, but i've grown to accept that i can barely stand them. my father was rarely in the picture, first by his choosing, later by mine, and caused much emotional damage that took years for me to forgive and  work through.  there is certainly no love there.



friends.  well, i spent a day hanging out with an older friend who i've always felt a strong connection with.  however, in his presence this time, i felt few of the emotions i previously held.  it was verging on uncomfortable at times, even though we had fun.  i have no friends from childhood or even university.  Derx, from here, i still consider a friend, and we are there for each other when needed, but we've drifted apart.  i've a neighbor and friend who is 66; he and i get along well, though we end up as co-workers or business partners more often than not.


i have non-blood family whom i love, who are also friends.  however, much of our relationship is symbiotic, with constant and equal give and take.  i find this to be the kind of relationship i prefer with other humans.  rarely is my presence expected, and consequently, i try to be there for events that are important to them or in times of poor health.



Gravy.  i will probably love her forever.  i'm still not over her.  she traveled with me everywhere.  she understood me, and i her.  she didn't put up with shit, nor i hers' when she got her nose outta joint.  often, she would work alongside me. she was a shining light in my life, snuffed out too early



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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Tmethyl]
    #23957594 - 12/26/16 01:55 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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No, we don't really believe in the concept of marriage.
Just another one of them bullshit things humans do.
And I'm about 29 now.




I dont see what the big deal about marriage is, as long as you have a prenup
16yrs with your first is great though, at this point Im indifferent about being with my first or moving on, but it took time to adjust as I was definitely predisposed towards total monogamy


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considering the title of your post, and the poll attached, i assumed we were discussing love in the "romantic" sense.  Familial love is completely different, friendly love is different still, and love for a pet falls, ime, in the familial bracket.


Why these divisions of, seemingly, the same emotion are so different, i can't fully explain, however endorphins and hormones are likely culprits. 




I dont notice a difference other than the circumstantial nature of these differing relations, such as responsibility towards parents, competition with siblings, sex with ones spouse, etc. Past that it feels the same to me, water from the same well held in different vessels.

The bond of love could be broken with enough effort, and I dont think love springs up automatically with family anymore than it does with sexual partners, but at the same time it is the most resilient emotion in my experience. Unbroken by time or distance, springing back after much resistance and requiring violent effort to truly sever.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: demiu5]
    #23957598 - 12/26/16 02:00 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I just shed a tear from reading this.

Gravy looked like a sweetheart man r.i.p.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: czech]
    #23957634 - 12/26/16 03:16 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

No not really, would still bang though


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23957649 - 12/26/16 03:38 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

No, not at all actually. I sometimes look back on when I was young like 18 and miss certain aspects of those days, but I don't have any feelings whatsoever for the person I was with at the time. I remember how I felt, but I certainly don't feel that way anymore.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89] * 2
    #23957772 - 12/26/16 07:31 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

My most recent ex stole my dog and I'm not in a position to get him back cuz of a hard to explain legal reason so I hope she dies, soon


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Zombi3] * 7
    #23957782 - 12/26/16 07:43 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)





















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    #23957789 - 12/26/16 07:50 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

:lolsy: thanks for sharing tht


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Atreyu] * 1
    #23957792 - 12/26/16 07:53 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Tom is great. I love Tom.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: larry.fisherman] * 1
    #23957820 - 12/26/16 08:16 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Love is forever, lust is not.
If you don't believe love is forever you are probably confusing it with lust.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23957876 - 12/26/16 08:57 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Yes

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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Connoisseur]
    #23957894 - 12/26/16 09:12 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I believe that real love is forever, and unconditional.  Love does not mean you must be in someone's life; love can exist from afar; and love can be felt in the present from your memory of
the past.  Love for a deceased lover doesn't just disappear.

I can think of two ex-girlfriends that I have love for, and I am not some miserable person that is hung up on my past.  Even though I have love for those two people, it doesn't mean that I have any desire to reach out to them.  I am more happy with my current partner than I have ever been with anyone else.  But that doesn't change the meaning of my past relationships, they all had a part in shaping the person I am today.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Mojo]
    #23957901 - 12/26/16 09:14 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I did, until I saw her in a porno...

It was a blessing in disguise


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    #23957902 - 12/26/16 09:15 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Link?


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    #23957911 - 12/26/16 09:17 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Haha I do still have it saved. You know, for science


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    #23957926 - 12/26/16 09:25 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

That poll was mean to me.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Patlal]
    #23957929 - 12/26/16 09:27 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

:hug:


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Tmethyl]
    #23957949 - 12/26/16 09:39 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Quote:

Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.







Holy shit, is that like some religious thing? That's gnarly being with the same girl that long, not saying it's a bad thing, just you're a good person for holding down the fort that long, bravo, good on you mang.

I agree with the love thing, I am incredibly sappy about love, which I think is from blowing my mind with psychs, seriously.  I feel like the world is broken, everyone telling me to be more hardcore, but I just can't get on board with that type of mentality, I tripped myself into a state of mind I can't change, I feel so full of love it makes me kind of embarrassed, I am a hardcore hippie in disguise, WTF!  My whole being feels at odds with the world, like I am not supposed to be here, like I should be working on a commune away from regular society because I just don't get along with how most people think.

My family acts like I should be angry with my ex, but I am not, I got nothing but love for her and her family.  We both got together too young, and we both did a lot of hard drugs, and we both had to much to fast which lead to some not so epic decisions being made, but those years are over, so no sense dwelling on them, I want the best for my ex and her family, and harbor no ill will towards them.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Lucis]
    #23957988 - 12/26/16 10:10 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I love my x from 9 years ago. We are not compatible in some ways so it's ok, but the love is still there. I wouldn't mind some sexy time but that is not in the cards.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: ReposadoXochipilli] * 1
    #23958027 - 12/26/16 10:31 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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ReposadoXochipilli said:
but the love is still there.





I don't see how someone could not love their exes in some type of way, I mean if you spent a long period of time with them like 5+ years, you probably still love them in some way, just not in the way a person has to love someone in order to make things work in a relationship.

I think if you and your ex went through a lot together, then of course you would have love for them still, there's a big difference between having love for someone, and not getting over someone, a huge freakin difference, I find I have love for everyone I have had serious relationships with, friends, exes, whatever, but that doesn't mean I allow those feelings to interfere with my future relationships, and think it's wise to learn from your past, in order to create a better future for yourself.

Being ignorant and acting like past relationships don't matter, is a great way to sabotage future relationships, we all make mistakes, learn from them and continue to grow.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Lucis]
    #23958035 - 12/26/16 10:35 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

That is a mature way of viewing love and you are open and honest about it.  I don't think many especially younger people have enough life under thier belt to be able to love like that or cope with life after it moves on. 

Lots of people only can love themselves and are clueless towards what real love is like.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: ReposadoXochipilli]
    #23958070 - 12/26/16 10:54 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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ReposadoXochipilli said:
Lots of people only can love themselves and are clueless towards what real love is like.






is self-love not "real love?"


imo, self-love is far more important than love of any other.



so long as one is aware that they don't have/aren't able to wholly love another beyond themselves, and aren't wrecking others' lives as a result, then no-harm-no-foul


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: demiu5]
    #23958094 - 12/26/16 11:08 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

It is the same love but enacted upon it is completely different.  Imo self love line that seeks out others to fit into it's ideals where as love with another is embracing change and growth.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89] * 1
    #23958187 - 12/26/16 12:05 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I l will probably always love my second real girlfriend.
But my current one is the bees knees.

My first gf and I bang like animals whenever we see eachother even though she hates me :lol:
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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Lucis] * 1
    #23958198 - 12/26/16 12:12 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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Fennario said:
Quote:

Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.







Holy shit, is that like some religious thing? That's gnarly being with the same girl that long, not saying it's a bad thing, just you're a good person for holding down the fort that long, bravo, good on you mang.



I have nothing to do with any religion, I just met her by chance and knew she was the one.
Sounds corny as shit and cliche, I know. But even at 13, you can know when you find the one.

She somehow felt the same, when I was 13 she was 17 though, but it all worked out.

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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Tmethyl] * 3
    #23958199 - 12/26/16 12:15 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I still love who they were or who I thought they were.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89] * 1
    #23958255 - 12/26/16 12:41 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Yes - i still love her dearly.  :sad:


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: PartoftheSource]
    #23958283 - 12/26/16 12:52 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

There will always be a place in my heart for my ex. God rest his soul.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23958287 - 12/26/16 12:54 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I'm still friends to some degree with every ex gf I've had, and two of them are what I consider to be very close friends.  I love them as I would any other friend, guy or girl.  But like romantically?  Not at all.  Nor do I wish anything would've worked out differently.


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    #23958306 - 12/26/16 12:59 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

When you know someone too well, like; better than they know themselves, your human mind never forgets that person cause we'r wired for compassion, and so you sorta permanently love them. This applies to everyone you might know, not just ex's I'd say.


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    #23958321 - 12/26/16 01:08 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Agreed. 

I have a friend (a guy) who I've known for well over 20 years.  2 years ago he got wrapped up in heroin again, and ended up stealing a bunch of shit from me.  As pissed off as I was about it, I still hope he gets better & if he were to contact me & apologize, I'd forgive him (but wouldn't really trust him for a while).  Not that I'm holding my breath waiting for that phone call, haha.  But I've loved him as a friend, we grew up together, and it's easier for me to care about people than to hate them.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #23958508 - 12/26/16 02:42 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I think I did, we recently reconnected and I still maintain he was the only person I loved and that doesn't disappear - there is still an undeniable connection - I think I just realized that I would never be happy as long as I was with him and that he isn't going to change into the person I need him to be for me to be happy - and far be it from me to try and change another human..the only person I can control is myself and I'm not gonna sacrifice my life waiting around for someone to change.


He's a good human being, but I feel like he keeps me at arms length and on the back burner so that I'm 'there' when he's ready to actually have a mature relationship...I think if you talked to him he would probably accuse me of doing the same exact thing, and I don't think he would be entirely wrong though it's partially a reactionary thing to protect myself emotionally from what he does to me...it's so stupid, we're so similar and the way we communicate is not healthy - I've hit the point where I have no ill will towards him whatsoever, I would love to be friends(though we are friendly..I don't think we can be in each other's lives as friends) if it were possible..but I know it's not gonna ever work out, and I'm okay with that. Certainly not going to waste the rest of my 20's chasing smoke.

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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: pirate-blues]
    #23958546 - 12/26/16 03:01 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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I think I did, we recently reconnected and I still maintain he was the only person I loved and that doesn't disappear - there is still an undeniable connection - I think I just realized that I would never be happy as long as I was with him and that he isn't going to change into the person I need him to be for me to be happy - and far be it from me to try and change another human..the only person I can control is myself and I'm not gonna sacrifice my life waiting around for someone to change.






This is kinda how I'm feeling about my current partner. Which rather sucks.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
    #23958617 - 12/26/16 03:41 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

For me it's a terrible mixture of love and hate. It would be so much easier if it were just one of those emotions. Just love and I could look back fondly on what we had, and truly wish her the best. Just hate and I could be glad we're not together. But the combination of those opposing emotions makes it really painful to think about her, and it's impossible not to.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23958682 - 12/26/16 04:13 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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There are a few of my ex's I love as much now as I did when we first met, meeting and falling into someone new doesnt change a thing. Granted most women I no longer have any feeling for, just a few.

What say you?




I don't hold on to old love forever, but sometimes it lingers for a very long time. For example, I only just recently stopped having fuzzies when I remember my middle school crush, and I'm fucking 30, and she was a cold fucking bitch to me for as long as we still hung out :lol: come to think of it, there's a second, more recent crush that I can think of which definitively ended around the same time.

I'm not really sure how it works. I think it's a matter of whether or not you find somebody else who has the same traits you find loveable about them. Ie, love can be "replaced" depending on what you're getting out of it. My current partner has a lot of the traits that I found attractive in those old crushes, so it's probably not a coincidence that I got over them around the same time this relationship began. But she lacks many of the traits of my most recent ex, so I still feel like I  miss my ex sometimes, though I would never go back to her.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Sophistic Radiance] * 1
    #23958716 - 12/26/16 04:29 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I bounce back from beer quickly.  So that makes it a function able substance.  Weed was like that with a tolerance.  But I couldn't take one puff and legally drive.  The cut off for ovi with cannabis is a super low 15ng/ml.  Beer is just good for legal reasons.

Been living on coffee, tea, beer and pipe tobacco for awhile.  It gets me thru desiring other things.  Beer is better when not strongly craving herb ot other substances.  That can take awhile to get to.  Mixes fairly well with invega.  I don't usually get dispondant.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Morel Guy] * 1
    #23958726 - 12/26/16 04:35 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Morel Guy still loves his empty beer cans.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Burke Dennings]
    #23958738 - 12/26/16 04:40 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Posted in the wrong thread.  Fuck'n iPad!

I do recycle a lot of booze bottles.  I am ashamed that I have so many.  I am like the only person on the street that makes that much noise when the recycling goes in the truck.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Morel Guy]
    #23958760 - 12/26/16 04:51 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Its a hard question, I still do feel love but its different. You accept the fact there will never be a future between the two of you, or even speak again for that matter. It is hard to not feel it when you have felt so strong for someone, would do any thing for her/him and always be there for them.
I never wanted any of my relationships to end but it happened. Each one I really still wanted to work things out but you do know in the back of your mind you know it has to happen. Sorry I am rambling now.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: SonicTitan]
    #23958918 - 12/26/16 05:58 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

No way. Im old fashioned and they played me like a fool. They were nothing but fake ass punks.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #23958937 - 12/26/16 06:09 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

There were terrible awful lack of options but beats being a 35 year old virgin.  Wouldn't want the drama again, not even for a fuck.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: SonicTitan]
    #23958977 - 12/26/16 06:30 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Well as for Exs and love - I still love two of my Exs.

One of whom is the only person I ever wanted to, and asked to, marry me.

I'm happy for the first one, whom is now married and has a bunch of kids.
But the other, the one that I asked to marry me, whom always told me "We'd be together forever" I'm still broken up about - and it happened eight years ago. I'm bitter about that (Can my feeling really be considered 'love' then?)


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: eeso]
    #23958981 - 12/26/16 06:33 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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eeso said:
Well as for Exs and love - I still love two of my Exs.

One of whom is the only person I ever wanted to, and asked to, marry me.

I'm happy for the first one, whom is now married and has a bunch of kids.
But the other, the one that I asked to marry me, whom always told me "We'd be together forever" I'm still broken up about - and it happened eight years ago. I'm bitter about that (Can my feeling really be considered 'love' then?)



Well it was for you. Now its just a broken shell of what used to be love....


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: spirit_shadow]
    #23959008 - 12/26/16 06:46 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I guess.
But that's what I see myself as now, since she broke up with me the second time, after my 'second chance'. "A broken shell"
(I had my second-ever psychotic episode the night she invited me over her new apartment after we broke up the first time)

I'll stop with the 'woe is me' shit now. It's OT.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: eeso]
    #23959028 - 12/26/16 06:58 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Only reason is ive been there. It sucks finding out your significant other turned out to not be that significant at all. Only cure I have found is my real significant other. Good luck.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: spirit_shadow] * 1
    #23959095 - 12/26/16 07:35 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I still love my most recent ex and still am on good terms and talk often. We were perfect for each other except I wanted a serious relationship and she just wanted some fun. Which I was totally fine with for a few months . She is an absolute freak in bed,is a preschool teacher,psych major,trips/smokes and she is so increbibly sweet and selfless. I gotta move on though


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Seriously_trippin] * 1
    #23959258 - 12/26/16 08:49 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

yeah, idk if I'll stop loving my ex that I was with for 3 years, as much as I would like to. she's been very shitty to me since we broke up and doesn't deserve any of my attention whatsoever. I don't actively have feelings for her but I know that if we were to reconnect those feelings would resurface.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: hex_enduction]
    #23959407 - 12/26/16 09:50 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

Im surprised how many people agree (in a general sense), I expected the poll to be 90% no and 10% stal.


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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Patlal]
    #23959409 - 12/26/16 09:52 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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Burke Dennings said:
Morel Guy still loves his empty beer cans.




:rofl:  that brought tears to my eyes


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That poll was mean to me.




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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89] * 1
    #23959482 - 12/26/16 10:38 PM (7 years, 1 month ago)

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Still love your ex's?




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Re: Still love your ex's? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23959630 - 12/27/16 01:09 AM (7 years, 1 month ago)

I still love my high school / college sweetheart, but being together for 15 and married 10 to another woman, the kind of love we shared has changed. We love each other for the love we had, I guess, but as two people leading completely different lives. I talk to her once or twice a year, but now it's so much longer later that it's just pleasantries and catching up, who's still around, who died, who had kids or got married. It's just having a special kind of appreciative love for all the great years we shared together.


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