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Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.

I chose what is love, and dickbutt.

A glorious poll.

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demiu5 said:
i haven't lived forever and therefore can't claim if love is forever.  however, based on observations of others' relationships, i would say "true love", whatever that is (seems like this turns into tolerance in the long-run), has the potential to last a lifetime and endure much hardship; that being said, "true love" is also like a car or a nuclear reactor, needing regular inspections and semi-frequent maintenance, depending on the conditions it is exposed to.


it's been said many times, but i feel most peoples' interpretations of their feelings of "love" is strong infatuation at best.  infatuation is a lot like poppy pod tea.  it has a hell of an afterglow, but always leaves a bad taste in a parched mouth

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Tmethyl said:
I've never had an ex, so I don't know. (been with my same GF since I was 13)
I would still love them because I love everyone.

I chose what is love, and dickbutt.

A glorious poll.

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13? Are you married?

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demiu5 said:
i haven't lived forever and therefore can't claim if love is forever.  however, based on observations of others' relationships, i would say "true love", whatever that is (seems like this turns into tolerance in the long-run), has the potential to last a lifetime and endure much hardship; that being said, "true love" is also like a car or a nuclear reactor, needing regular inspections and semi-frequent maintenance, depending on the conditions it is exposed to.


it's been said many times, but i feel most peoples' interpretations of their feelings of "love" is strong infatuation at best.  infatuation is a lot like poppy pod tea.  it has a hell of an afterglow, but always leaves a bad taste in a parched mouth

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Love for a woman is little different for me than the love I have for family or a pet, no maintenance needed, no wearing down with time.
The big difference being sex and excesses of expression in general

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considering the title of your post, and the poll attached, i assumed we were discussing love in the "romantic" sense.  Familial love is completely different, friendly love is different still, and love for a pet falls, ime, in the familial bracket.


Why these divisions of, seemingly, the same emotion are so different, i can't fully explain, however endorphins and hormones are likely culprits.


my experience with familial love, specifically related to family, is complicated.  i don't really feel love for my brother.  there is no hostility, no anger, or deep-seated resentments.  we never built memories together.  most of my memories of us together as children, aside from one specifically, was us fighting or being antagonizing as young children.  he did prevent our father from beating me late one nite and subsequently learned that my father had abused me multiple times previously.  i have only four other positive memories of our interactions, and he had moved out of the house by then.  we are virtually polar opposites and never really bonded deeply.


i love my mother and grandparents, but i've grown to accept that i can barely stand them. my father was rarely in the picture, first by his choosing, later by mine, and caused much emotional damage that took years for me to forgive and  work through.  there is certainly no love there.



friends.  well, i spent a day hanging out with an older friend who i've always felt a strong connection with.  however, in his presence this time, i felt few of the emotions i previously held.  it was verging on uncomfortable at times, even though we had fun.  i have no friends from childhood or even university.  Derx, from here, i still consider a friend, and we are there for each other when needed, but we've drifted apart.  i've a neighbor and friend who is 66; he and i get along well, though we end up as co-workers or business partners more often than not.


i have non-blood family whom i love, who are also friends.  however, much of our relationship is symbiotic, with constant and equal give and take.  i find this to be the kind of relationship i prefer with other humans.  rarely is my presence expected, and consequently, i try to be there for events that are important to them or in times of poor health.



Gravy.  i will probably love her forever.  i'm still not over her.  she traveled with me everywhere.  she understood me, and i her.  she didn't put up with shit, nor i hers' when she got her nose outta joint.  often, she would work alongside me. she was a shining light in my life, snuffed out too early



Gravy




love is complicated, to say the least

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No, we don't really believe in the concept of marriage.
Just another one of them bullshit things humans do.
And I'm about 29 now.

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considering the title of your post, and the poll attached, i assumed we were discussing love in the "romantic" sense.  Familial love is completely different, friendly love is different still, and love for a pet falls, ime, in the familial bracket.


Why these divisions of, seemingly, the same emotion are so different, i can't fully explain, however endorphins and hormones are likely culprits. 

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