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Budsprout
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Would you stay with your partner if
#23943115 - 12/20/16 11:20 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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My girlfriend is going to Hawaii for 3 weeks and then a road trip from sf to Denver. She planned to do this alone before our relationship. I don't have the cash to go. I know she's completely monogamous and would be. But I don't feel like this is something you do without your significant other. What would you do?
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#23943136 - 12/20/16 11:28 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I wouldn't break up just because she is going. But if its not what you want, than its up to you to decide.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout] 7
#23943138 - 12/20/16 11:29 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Why wouldn't you stay with here? Lol. That seems really far-fetched to end a relationship on that.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: camerinkw] 5
#23943140 - 12/20/16 11:30 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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How could she be your significant other if you're considering breaking up with her over that fact?
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Budsprout
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: camerinkw]
#23943212 - 12/20/16 12:02 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I was thinking I would just give us a break until she came back but I've decided I should support her. Her communication and cooperation skills in our relationship have been a problem so part of my decision was based on that
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout] 4
#23945002 - 12/21/16 12:00 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Talk about clingy dude, wow. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you need to spend every waking moment together.
I've been with my wife for 9 years. Early in our relationship there were times where we were apart for months because we went different ways for the summer, weeks because she'd go to her families for Christmas or I'd go to see family in the spring. To this day I take a couple weeks out of the year to hang out with friends in other states, go to music festivals, travel, visit family - whatever - and she does the same for a few weeks out of the year too.
Being apart for a brief moment in time is not a deal breaker dude. If you can trust your partner to be away from you, your relationship will go a lot further. Your issues have little to do with being apart for the time being, there must be something bigger at play.
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Budsprout
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: PatrickKn]
#23947230 - 12/21/16 07:52 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nah man I'm not clingy and in our case we only spend maybe one day a week together because we're on different work schedules. I'm not insecure about cheating, aside from her spaz outs here or there, we don't have any issues. She actually makes me confident that I can trust her with my everything, I've never had that comfort before.. Everyone is different you may like spending great moments apart your partner but I want to remember them together. I weighed out if this was worth letting go and I don't know why I would leave. We're going to make plans together in the future anyways
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#23955058 - 12/24/16 08:26 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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My most recent relationship had a similar problem.
I saved and made plans to go to Denver to visit a friend of mine (we're both male, albeit.) I wanted to go alone so that I could spend time with my friend.
Long story short, my SO at the time could have saved to go, but it wasn't something I wanted her to be a part of. Personally, I think that's okay. She didn't see it that way, and I didn't change my stance on it.
To this day, I don't regret it.
Would you up and quit something you had planned long before you met her simply because she couldn't go?
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Make plans of your own to go out and have fun with friends while she is away. Show her you can have fun without her and that you aren't clingy.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Starstepper]
#24055328 - 01/31/17 06:19 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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sometimes you have to be independent
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Budsprout
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I ended up going, we had a blast.. I see it looks to some as clingy but assure its not. We have you our own things w do without each other, whatever we do together is great ttime. I still feel I'd want her there for anything I plan out of state and it good goes both ways.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#24152395 - 03/10/17 08:21 PM (7 years, 19 days ago) |
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Congrats.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#24176653 - 03/20/17 02:11 AM (7 years, 10 days ago) |
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Glad it went well!
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#24255162 - 04/18/17 07:04 PM (6 years, 11 months ago) |
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If you want to leave her, it's not because she is going on a trip.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Sacik] 1
#24313685 - 05/12/17 07:55 AM (6 years, 10 months ago) |
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to consider ending a relationship because of that sounds selfish, possessive, and needy. You sound like my ex.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Sacik]
#24463107 - 07/06/17 07:27 PM (6 years, 8 months ago) |
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Quote:
Sacik said: If you want to leave her, it's not because she is going on a trip.
this guy got it.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: lillFish]
#24640594 - 09/18/17 11:58 AM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
lillFish said: to consider ending a relationship because of that sounds selfish, possessive, and needy. You sound like my ex.
and a bag of chips!~
To the original poster... You really need to grow up and not hang onto someone so tight. Sometimes people need some alone time. I realize this happened awhile ago, but you are still you.... Grow, change, and you will have a better relationship. Personal growth is never ending. I'm 57 years old and I'm still evolving!~ lol
tc, Road
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Roadkill]
#24645443 - 09/19/17 11:34 PM (6 years, 6 months ago) |
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Even having to ask... means you should let her go find someone more mature.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#24788274 - 11/16/17 09:46 PM (6 years, 4 months ago) |
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whatever bro. think of it like this. she gone? time for strange. lol. you know she playin' the same darn game.
you really gonna be hurt if you cheat on her? she more like property? you care if she get's D'd up? yes right. oh well if it happens. nothing you can do about it. : / so F it.
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Re: Would you stay with your partner if [Re: Budsprout]
#24796064 - 11/20/17 03:57 PM (6 years, 4 months ago) |
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She Planned it before she even started dating you? Then why are you even complaining then?
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