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Marcus
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Ever had a slump?
#23932731 - 12/16/16 03:01 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hey! Just thought I'd post this here because I dont really know where to go to get advice for something like this. Just as a general sort of thing, I dont expect any problems to be solved instantly or anything like that, I guess im looking for advice frome people who have had a similair situation to me.
Heres some background: Im a university student studying pharmacology, im quite enjoying the first year of my course, I did a foundation last year and I made a few friends. We decided to rent a house out for out official first year of university and I ended up getting shafted and being given the smallest room (about a quarter of the size of the other rooms) and we eventually came to an agreement that if they didnt want to swap rooms halfway through the year that I should pay less rent, i agreed to a £50 deduction but I feel like it should have been reduced more. I know this seems so small but the other day they were asking me "whats happening about the rent" and I just told them that the fact theyre asking me whats going on with it is unnacceptable as we are due to pay rent soon, the conversation ended very quickly with no real answer.
I know what I described above is a temporary problem, and by that I mean its not going to effect me for more than 5 years of my life but it annoyed me quite a bit.
Ontop of all of this my now exgirlfriend and I ended a 3 year relationship too, I wont go into details as it really isn't necessary.
Generally I feel like I've been in a bit of a slump with everything, especially money issues. I know for a lot of people that money can actually be a serious situation, im thankful I actually have some support and I know I'll eventually solve it.
The only realy thing I have going for me at the current moment is academia and just a profound interest in what I'm studying, tied in to whatever I read on this forum.
The point im trying to get to is that im in a slump and I dont know how to get out. I want to try and fix it before things get significantly worse but I'm not sure what I should or shouldnt be doing. Im sure a lot of people here have been in a bit of a slump before, maybe not under the same circumstances but have had a similair feeling.
If anyone here has any advice or wants to share their two cents then by all means go for it.
And as always, thanks in advance
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus]
#23932776 - 12/16/16 03:32 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Why don't you try and keep the dialogue between your roommates more open, and explain why you don't want to pay that much rent? You made a mistake settling for 50 less when you didn't feel that was fair.
It's a lot harder to restart a difficult conversation than it is to continue one.
As far as i'm concerned slumps are an unavoidable fact of life. There are gonna be highs and there are gonna be lows personally best you can do is try every day to do something new/different than the last.
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Patlal
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You could also give a 2 months notice and leave.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus]
#23932804 - 12/16/16 03:43 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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What's the slump? The small room? The college breakup?
Most students are broke, so don't feel alone there.
What's really bothering you??
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ModestMouse said: Why don't you try and keep the dialogue between your roommates more open, and explain why you don't want to pay that much rent? You made a mistake settling for 50 less when you didn't feel that was fair.
It's a lot harder to restart a difficult conversation than it is to continue one.
As far as i'm concerned slumps are an unavoidable fact of life. There are gonna be highs and there are gonna be lows personally best you can do is try every day to do something new/different than the last.
You're right, I did ask at the time but they flat out refused and the landlord is fucking shit and wont get involved, nor will the estate agents. But thankfully I do have a contract on my side saying that because we are in a 3 year contract and we have a 12 month break clause that if I leave, because im the lead tenant it means if they (the current tenants excluding myself) cant find anyone to replace me two months before the contract ends they essentially get evicted from the property. I know better than anyone that they wont be able to find anyone to replace me for the price they want to rent the room out at, especially since only one of them uses social media and I was the one who found the house in the first place.
This house issue is a pretty solvable thing and I suppose you're right about mood too, there are highs and there are lows. I hope I don't sound rude but have you personally ever had low times? and what did you do to get out of it? I know it may not all be applicable to me but maybe seeing your view and what you did may help me a little.
Also thank you very much for replying, it really cheered me up a lot
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Patlal]
#23932811 - 12/16/16 03:45 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Patlal said: You could also give a 2 months notice and leave.
It's what I intend on doing, because I have a break clause i have to do it 2 months before the end, so around April/May next year before the end of the first year of my course
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus]
#23932813 - 12/16/16 03:46 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I don't need slump, I have Trump.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus]
#23932815 - 12/16/16 03:47 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sure bud

Im in a low point right now bud, but I see it like the winter/summer dynamic. My life is actually on an upswing because when you are low, you can only stay low for so long...
Mine was entirely self inflicted though. Learning the hard way how to be a man again and stop being a bitch. Not that feeling bad is being a bitch, but I acted in such a way. Lost trust of a lot of people, even still don't have it back but i'm climbing back.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: shadyy]
#23932841 - 12/16/16 03:58 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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i hate liz said: What's the slump? The small room? The college breakup?
Most students are broke, so don't feel alone there.
Something deeper going on??
I suppose its more of an inner battle with myself and trying to make myself excited and happy about something, I know all of this stuff going on may not be the root cause of my feelings but it doesn't help either thats why im trying not to get too hung up about it and not feel to upset.
I guess I want to be happy about something and just feel content but I can never really seem to achieve it. I look at myself in the mirror every morning and tell myself that today is just another step closer to me feeling happy with life and my ultimate goal is to walk out of my front door with a genuine smile on my face. Generally anything good in my life goes to shit, it does that with a lot of people too. I know that im not special and people are worse off than me but im just looking for a way to pull through.
Im not good at articulating myself very well and im extremely sorry about that. I know there is no perfect solution for my situation and I know that sometimes we just have to deal with shit but what do you do when you feel like you need to take action but dont know what to do ?
What do you do to strenghten yourself as a person and make yourself happy and content with yourself?
Thans for your reply, its given me a lot to think about over this holiday and maybe something will click, only time can tell.
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ModestMouse said: As far as i'm concerned slumps are an unavoidable fact of life.
This is trurth. Stay open to people and experiences life presents you with. Be patient and things will naturally get better. If something is wrong, fix it.
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Kush_Zombie said: I don't need slump, I have Trump.
Not really a big fan Trump personally but im a huge fan of democracy so I Trump over Slump I suppose . If he sorts shit out then fair play, if not then I doubt he can fuck up as much as previous presidents.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Bikerfool]
#23932862 - 12/16/16 04:04 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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For me, staying physically active and in shape helps keep my brain full of those happy chemicals.
Motivation can be difficult but it's always worth it.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus] 2
#23932865 - 12/16/16 04:04 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I read this as sump. I was prepared to talk about electrical requirements for sump pumps in basements.
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Thanks for everyone that replied. I know this is a delayed response but i'd fallen ill for the past few days and I had to travel back home and I had a lot of time to think about what everyone said, I even googled what a sump pump was (I wasted my time). I think I've learnt a lot from what everyone has said as "real" as it may have been I feel like it's helped me appreciate the good things I have going on in my life as opposed to the bad things and sometimes people do end up getting caught up in their negative emotions because of multiple things going on in their lives. Im extremely happy for everyone's response and you all deserved a belated thank you for helping me see that things may not always be as bad as they seem and that this shit happens.
Thank you all, you deserve it!...
and a lifetime supply of shrooms.
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Re: Ever had a slump? [Re: Marcus]
#23940321 - 12/19/16 01:14 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would move into a small apartment with good location. Have more money in a small place and lot's of silence to study.
If you are in school, try playing the field. Ask girls out and show signs of giving. Don't ask out the biggest crush, cause they usually reject. Go for the OK girls cause they are going to out out and appreciate you far more. Lot's of them are great lovers.
I would get my own place and fuck, fuck fuck!
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