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mike-ologist
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Having a hard time with loss.
#23908008 - 12/08/16 06:29 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I lost my mom when i was 8 years old. It left me with really bad ptsd and depression. I just recently lost a good friend, one of the last friends who understood me. Any help?
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WhoManBeing
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23908035 - 12/08/16 06:36 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Just imagine if the ones you lost were right there with ya. Sitting across the room, smiling back at ya. You can't go bowling with them and expect them to roll a ball, but they are there for ya if only you let them be.
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mike-ologist
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: WhoManBeing]
#23908365 - 12/08/16 08:21 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thats a good help. It just hurts so much sometimes :/
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23908514 - 12/08/16 09:30 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, I lost my mom when I was 15. I'm 35 now and I recently lost my best friend and his wife in a motorcycle accident. He was the kind of friend who made me feel like I was home when I looked into his eyes. I have some pretty severe depression.
What's helped me immensely is carrying on some of the things he used to do. Every Monday, he used to post on FB asking ladies to post the color of their panties. That's my job now. It helps because I know that, wherever he is, he's smiling knowing that it's being kept going.
Did he have a hobby or something maybe something that he always did that's kind of out of your comfort zone that you could maybe take up?
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mike-ologist
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He was a shaman amongst other things and i think im gonna take up some of his ways in that respect
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23915867 - 12/11/16 10:17 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Hey man...just checking in to see how you're holding up.
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mike-ologist
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Im doing better latley, i reached my point of acceptance. The waves are still hitting but i can breathe invetween now thanks again for the advice!
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23915951 - 12/11/16 10:47 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Glad you're doing better.
If you need someone to just vent to, feel free to me.
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mike-ologist
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Thanks man i appreciate that!
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23916653 - 12/11/16 03:20 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you want some medicinal help you could look for an Alpha-blocker such as prazosin(minipress).
Quote:
Treatment of Nightmares With Prazosin: A Systematic Review "The prazosin dose ranged from 1 to 16 mg/d. Results were mixed for the 4 RCTs: 3 reported significant improvement in the number of nightmares, and 1 found no reduction in the number of nightmares. Reduced nightmare severity with use of prazosin was consistently reported in the open-label trials, retrospective chart reviews, and single case reports." https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3538493/
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23918457 - 12/12/16 02:03 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I think my words in a recent post here also apply OP. I wish you the best of luck getting through this man.
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Jokeshopbeard said: Nothing I can say will lessen your pain OP, it is unavoidable in loss. I feel for you. The suffering is a bit of a different matter, as it's self imposed, but also necessary IMO. Try not to go too hard on yourself.
I will just say that about a year and a half ago I went through something very similar - and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: WhoManBeing]
#23918612 - 12/12/16 05:07 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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WhoManBeing said: Just imagine if the ones you lost were right there with ya. Sitting across the room, smiling back at ya. You can't go bowling with them and expect them to roll a ball, but they are there for ya if only you let them be.
I agree with this.
If you want to talk to them - TALK to them.
You'll be surprised how soothing this is, once you get past feeling silly about it. Also, writing letters is something I have done (Lost my grandfather and biological father)
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: yogabunny]
#23921129 - 12/12/16 09:45 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Thanks again for the help, and i like your outlook on this yogabunny
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist]
#23926428 - 12/14/16 03:06 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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When need to cry, please do so. Is one of the greater things us humans can do. That and flying, laughing and many other of the simple wonders.
-------------------- Hip, hip... WhoRAy!!! Eye was thinking the other day... ahh, thinking never done me no good.
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: WhoManBeing] 1
#23927230 - 12/14/16 06:32 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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That is a lesson im familliar with. I bottled a lot up when i lost my mom 15 years ago, im still working out issues from that mistake. When i need to let myself loose it, i go hide at work and loose it. Its gettin better, but ive got a long road ahead. My advice to anyone reading this, as ive found through this new experience, isto let the pain out so you can let the love in.
As WhoManBeing stated, if you gotta cry, cry. Our soul is a big bottle, and if you fill it up with pain and darkness, thats all you will have. If you let the pain out the darkness will leave,and the love of those around you and the light of the world can again fill your soul.
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: mike-ologist] 1
#23927260 - 12/14/16 06:43 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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^ your on a good one my friend.
-------------------- Hip, hip... WhoRAy!!! Eye was thinking the other day... ahh, thinking never done me no good.
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Re: Having a hard time with loss. [Re: WhoManBeing]
#23927282 - 12/14/16 06:51 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I try to be level, sometimes i tilt, bend, ect.. I am slowly learning lifes hard lessons. Your guys's input has been a tremendous help
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