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Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home?
#23907636 - 12/08/16 04:33 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: shadyy]
#23907640 - 12/08/16 04:34 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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it depends how crazy they are luckily I've got two sisters so we could at least take turns babysitting the crazy old folks
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: shadyy] 3
#23907682 - 12/08/16 04:49 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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My kids better not...
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Ezuma] 1
#23907684 - 12/08/16 04:50 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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If you'd asked me this 5 years ago I woulda said "no fuck you asshole."
But well one of them is having dementia type symptoms and this year had been really rough as both my parents seem to suddenly be aging quickly. It sucks to admit but I really don't have the mental or physical health to take care of them. I can't trust my younger brother to do shit. And my older brother might be one to take them in and actually be able to do something for them but it would be a heavy burden and he works his ass off just taking care of himself and his pets (his wife makes decent money tho so that helps.) i just... I dunno man. It really does fucking hurt like hell to know that I can't take care of them.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
#23907699 - 12/08/16 04:55 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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It doesn't have to be like that if they still have a house of their own.. (your parents) - hiring competent caretakers between you and your siblings could be viable and allow them to stay in a comfortable familiar spot... It's not family personal care.. but its much better than a nursing home and some of the better caretakers have reserves of patience and compassion that even family doesn't a lot of the times.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: twighead]
#23907733 - 12/08/16 05:09 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah ideally I think that's what we'd try first but they've made questionable financial decisions. ..and are seriously considering more. And I don't know if we'd be able to afford that once they retire.
My great grandma lived in assisted living apartments. You get your own pad and someone just comes and checks on you every so often and gives you meals and stuff if you can't be trusted to cook for yourself (she couldn't cuz her arthritis was bad). But she had her own fridge and would give us jello and stuff. I really liked that set up. Have good memories of spending time with her in her very private personal apartment room.
My other great grandma tho (my dads parents had kids when they were really young) lived in a trailer park and eventually got alzheimer's and my grandpa and his wife took her in and it was such a burden on them... My grandpa is an incredibly strong man but it just about crushed him to see his mom in that condition.
So I hope for the best. But with how they're doing in their early-mid 50s I'm considering the worst. It has been a particularly hard year tho so hopefully things will look better as time goes on.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Ezuma]
#23907738 - 12/08/16 05:11 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Id throw them out onto the streets like dogs
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: shadyy] 1
#23907778 - 12/08/16 05:24 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Everyone in my family wanted to put my grandma in a nursing home and she didn't want to go. Me and my wife became responsible for caring for her and we took care of her until she died. Seems like as soon as she didn't want to go into a nursing home, all her kids just abandoned her because they almost never came to visit her or pick her up to go out to eat or any of the other shit they used to do all the time. I was the only one in the family that gave a shit about what she wanted.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Shroomslip]
#23907785 - 12/08/16 05:28 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Why wouldn't you? If your parents can't take care of themselves somebody needs to. Sure as fuck won't be me.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: King Klick]
#23907799 - 12/08/16 05:34 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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If they raised you, and you have the ability to care for them why would you? I'm sure it wasn't all cake and ice cream to take care of you when you wouldn't have been able to care for yourself.
I get that not everyone is going to be capable of doing it, some may need more care than you can provide, but I'd wager there are a lot of parents in nursing homes who don't really have to be there, but are only there because it would be inconvenient for their children to care for them. Which is kind of messed up IMO.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Shroomslip]
#23907812 - 12/08/16 05:38 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I would rather die in a nursing home with other old homies than sheltered in my kids bedroom
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Shroomslip]
#23907813 - 12/08/16 05:38 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Old people typically learn to love the nursing home. If they're crippled they still get a social life there.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: King Klick]
#23907909 - 12/08/16 06:02 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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If they were losing it yes. My mom already told me she wants me to put her in a home when she gets Alzheimer's.
A nursing home if the only place that has the time and training to deal with them. Its not fair to them and its not fair to the people looking after them. My grandma has really bas Alzheimer's. She gets sad and angery all the time and does weird stuff. Its so rough on my grandfather too.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: BANANA.MAN]
#23907914 - 12/08/16 06:04 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: shadyy]
#23907917 - 12/08/16 06:05 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Fuck no. My mom is dead, my dad is going to move in with me when he's old and live with me for the rest of his life. Fuck institutions.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Alyssa]
#23907979 - 12/08/16 06:23 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: Alyssa]
#23908002 - 12/08/16 06:28 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I always said no too....and tried to help with my mother but, when someone has dementia and needs to be tended to around the clock...it comes down to not being able to do it and even a danger to their health...my mom had a broken hip and because of her dementia , couldn't remember it so she kept trying to walk and kept falling. It was heart breaking but sometimes, you need to let others that can provide all their needs take over.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: shadyy]
#23908004 - 12/08/16 06:28 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
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My grandma does that. One time she kept getting up saying she needed to brush her pants off.
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#23908038 - 12/08/16 06:36 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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24 hours a day care is sometimes what's needed......those who say never have never had to seriously consider it. In the perfect world of course you should and would look after those who cared for and raised you.
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Re: Would you put your parent(s) in a nursing home? [Re: pineninja] 1
#23909829 - 12/09/16 11:14 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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So apparently East Asian and Russian cultures do this alot. They put their parents in homes and never visit them and its a huge problem because they don't have the same kind of assistance as us in the west do.
I remember more than a few "companion" robots being invented or old people in Japan. But that seems to be a very introverted society (judging from a distance I have no right to judge from.) but I've also heard it's sacrilegious to not take in and take care of your parents no matter how unwell they are if you're from China.
I used to be friends with a Russian girl and it kinda shocked me how she said more often than not older people just get abandoned when they can't really take care of themselves. They don't have programs like meals on wheels there.
I think alot of this is cultural anyway. But you are an asshole, culture or not, if your parents raised you well and you don't at least go visit them.
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