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JustForToday
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Pretty sure i'm a father at this point..
#23904961 - 12/07/16 08:07 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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7 years ago I had sex with this chick I knew from school twice in a month. Next thing I knew I heard she was pregnant. I asked someone and they told me it was some others dude's.. Last year I was looking at facebook and came across the little girl who is now 7 almost.
She looks exactly like me. MY smile, my eyes, everything. This has been in my dreams it's bothering me. She has some other dude paying child support. She won't talk to me at all.. I Don't know what I ever did wrong to her.. I got really messed up on pharms after we had sex and had a mental break so that was the last time we seen each.
Now she is married to a friend I know and they've already had another kid.. IF this is my daughter I want something to do with her I just don't know how to move forward with this..
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday] 9
#23904967 - 12/07/16 08:10 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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oh no. religious meltdown initiated.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: akira_akuma] 3
#23904975 - 12/07/16 08:12 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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^^this.
No. Just no OP.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: akira_akuma] 1
#23904977 - 12/07/16 08:13 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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What is almost? It takes 10 months for gestation. Figure it out. If you want something to do with her, then make her tell you, and let her know how serious you are.
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JustForToday
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XLCaps said: What is almost? It takes 10 months for gestation. Figure it out. If you want something to do with her, then make her tell you, and let her know how serious you are.
It doesn't really seem that simple.. My old sponsor told me to forget about it. How can I?
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday] 9
#23904990 - 12/07/16 08:16 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Youre probably mistaken, and really its not important considering you havent been around in 7yrs. Unless proven otherwise, assume the kid isnt yours.
Also, get your own life and stop stalking people
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23904995 - 12/07/16 08:17 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said:
It doesn't really seem that simple.. My old sponsor told me to forget about it. How can I?
Pshshshshs
You dont have a reason to give a shit
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23905002 - 12/07/16 08:19 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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You're right, it isn't simple. Make it so. If you think that's your kid and you think she will be benefitted by having you in her life, then convince her. But if you want it then you need to compromise. Maybe offer to be a 'friend' until she's ready, if she would be ready at all. Idk what she knows but not having a parent in your life is devastating, and a hard thing to deal with... even for a kid.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Repertoire89]
#23905004 - 12/07/16 08:19 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Repertoire89 said:
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JustForToday said:
It doesn't really seem that simple.. My old sponsor told me to forget about it. How can I?
Pshshshshs
You dont have a reason to give a shit
My 9 year old neice goes to therapy because my sister is a deadbeat.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: larry.fisherman] 2
#23905011 - 12/07/16 08:21 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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This child has a father, minding your own business doesnt make you a deadbeat
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: larry.fisherman] 6
#23905012 - 12/07/16 08:21 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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The greatest gift OP can give to his child is to stay the fuck our of her life. Jesus Christ, OP IS THE LAST FUCKING PERSON ON EARTH THAT SHOULD HAVE A CHILD.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: koods] 1
#23905021 - 12/07/16 08:24 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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but-but...it'll bring joy to his life.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: koods]
#23905030 - 12/07/16 08:25 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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He doesn't have the kid, and won't. He's said some dumb shit on here before but honestly I have no idea who he really is anymore than you do.
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Repertoire89 said: This child has a father, minding your own business doesnt make you a deadbeat
I didn't say he was, but if it's true then that kid is an important part of him. Having kids changes a person, hopefully for the better..
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: larry.fisherman] 3
#23905040 - 12/07/16 08:28 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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... this is going to end in a clusterfuck.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: falsereality]
#23905041 - 12/07/16 08:29 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Well that goes without saying.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: larry.fisherman] 2
#23905137 - 12/07/16 08:58 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JERRY! JERRY! JERRY!
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23905150 - 12/07/16 09:04 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said: 7 years ago I had sex with this chick I knew from school twice in a month. Next thing I knew I heard she was pregnant. I asked someone and they told me it was some others dude's.. Last year I was looking at facebook and came across the little girl who is now 7 almost.
She looks exactly like me. MY smile, my eyes, everything. This has been in my dreams it's bothering me. She has some other dude paying child support. She won't talk to me at all.. I Don't know what I ever did wrong to her.. I got really messed up on pharms after we had sex and had a mental break so that was the last time we seen each.
Now she is married to a friend I know and they've already had another kid.. IF this is my daughter I want something to do with her I just don't know how to move forward with this..
Don't get on the 'holier than thou' path. Today, women be out getting skull fucked by the alphas. Children out of wedlock. Crazy weight gain. And that's your baby?
Real talk, DNA that chit or GTFO! Did not happen.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: finalexplosion] 2
#23905221 - 12/07/16 09:30 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday] 3
#23905272 - 12/07/16 09:52 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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In the case u are the father, do u really want to be paying child support every month or wutever?.. Just sayin..
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: zZZz] 4
#23905287 - 12/07/16 09:58 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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No self respecting father complains about child support, atleast not enough for it to warrant an excuse as to not contact their kid.
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Get her fucking DNA ninja style and test that shit!!!!
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: PumpJackTeX] 4
#23906008 - 12/08/16 07:57 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Sooo Just for Today, how bout....just for today, you take care of your side of the street working on becoming a better person. You put it out there, she rejected it...let it go for now. Maybe the future will hold something different but just for today, that is not the case.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Thayendanegea]
#23906034 - 12/08/16 08:13 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Be a creep. follow the kid around. get a hair. Have it tested.
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XLCaps said: What is almost? It takes 10 months for gestation. Figure it out. If you want something to do with her, then make her tell you, and let her know how serious you are.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Patlal]
#23906042 - 12/08/16 08:17 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I guess all the other trolls rubbed off on you. Keep that up and I'll no longer like looking at your posts. Go back to posting good threads.
And I know. I just long to figure out the mystery.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday] 3
#23906127 - 12/08/16 09:08 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Keep them our of your path of misery & destruction. Give them a chance to have a normal life and just leave them alone.
You know you're unstable and seeping with 5 kinds of drama, do something responsible for once and leave them be.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday] 2
#23906149 - 12/08/16 09:21 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said: This has been in my dreams it's bothering me.
so your dream is to pay child support to a woman that mush have slept around a lot and has a kid you're just hoping is yours with nothing other than the circumstantial evidence that she favors you a little? most kids these days have 2 eyes, a nose and a mouth, they typically even have a couple of ears, once on each side of their head and based on that criteria, it seems most of the kids are yours
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: 1234go] 1
#23906152 - 12/08/16 09:21 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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1234go said: Keep them our of your path of misery & destruction. Give them a chance to have a normal life and just leave them alone.
You know you're unstable and seeping with 5 kinds of drama, do something responsible for once and leave them be.
Yeah that's actually a good point OP. If you're a fuck up and you know it. The best parenting you can give your kid is not to be bad influence in their lives. Let them grow up before engaging. No kid wants to see a tattooed up rotten teeth junkie and call him dad...
If you know who you are act accordingly.
If you're a outstanding person, then maybe talk to the mom first.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Patlal]
#23906171 - 12/08/16 09:34 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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That's why I suggested he be a 'friend' until both of them are ready, if they're ever ready at all.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: 1234go]
#23906172 - 12/08/16 09:35 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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1234go said: Keep them our of your path of misery & destruction. Give them a chance to have a normal life and just leave them alone.
You know you're unstable and seeping with 5 kinds of drama, do something responsible for once and leave them be.
It's the smart thing to do. Perhaps when I get well, maybe there is a chance?
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Patlal]
#23906175 - 12/08/16 09:35 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Patlal said:
Quote:
1234go said: Keep them our of your path of misery & destruction. Give them a chance to have a normal life and just leave them alone.
You know you're unstable and seeping with 5 kinds of drama, do something responsible for once and leave them be.
Yeah that's actually a good point OP. If you're a fuck up and you know it. The best parenting you can give your kid is not to be bad influence in their lives. Let them grow up before engaging. No kid wants to see a tattooed up rotten teeth junkie and call him dad...
If you know who you are act accordingly.
If you're a outstanding person, then maybe talk to the mom first.
First of all, i'm sober. My teeth are not rotten and I have only one tattoo.. Stop with the insults.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23906191 - 12/08/16 09:45 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said: Perhaps when I get well, maybe there is a chance?
Sure, with a great deal of emphasis on maybe and chance.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: 1234go]
#23906281 - 12/08/16 10:25 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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This thread lol.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23906327 - 12/08/16 10:44 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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I had a baby with a black girl and will probably never see her so i can kind of relate.
Just be glad that he/she has a family and let things be.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23906637 - 12/08/16 12:05 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said: 7 years ago I had sex with this chick I knew from school twice in a month. Next thing I knew I heard she was pregnant. I asked someone and they told me it was some others dude's.. Last year I was looking at facebook and came across the little girl who is now 7 almost.
She looks exactly like me. MY smile, my eyes, everything. This has been in my dreams it's bothering me. She has some other dude paying child support. She won't talk to me at all.. I Don't know what I ever did wrong to her.. I got really messed up on pharms after we had sex and had a mental break so that was the last time we seen each.
Now she is married to a friend I know and they've already had another kid.. IF this is my daughter I want something to do with her I just don't know how to move forward with this..
Terence had a lot to say about the obsession with male paternity. Let it go, she is not your child, she is the female's child. She went through labor to bring a child into the world; she's the only one that has a right to a say in raising her. It makes no difference who the sperm donor is.
Now, sometimes an adult male (biological or adoptive) plays a key role in the child's development. This is fatherhood. Who cares whether dad fertilized mom's egg, he's still dad; the child forms a bond with him not because of a genetic link but because of the nurturing role he plays in her/his childhood.
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: JustForToday]
#23906679 - 12/08/16 12:13 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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JustForToday said:
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Patlal said:
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1234go said: Keep them our of your path of misery & destruction. Give them a chance to have a normal life and just leave them alone.
You know you're unstable and seeping with 5 kinds of drama, do something responsible for once and leave them be.
Yeah that's actually a good point OP. If you're a fuck up and you know it. The best parenting you can give your kid is not to be bad influence in their lives. Let them grow up before engaging. No kid wants to see a tattooed up rotten teeth junkie and call him dad...
If you know who you are act accordingly.
If you're a outstanding person, then maybe talk to the mom first.
First of all, i'm sober. My teeth are not rotten and I have only one tattoo.. Stop with the insults.
Well that's great then hurdle #1 is out of the way. I didnt mean to insult by the way. Just know who you are before jumping a kids life, completely shattering the guy who thinks hes is father.
I would engage the mother alone and not be pushy at all about it. Just give her the heads up l, compare the similarities between her and the kid and give her time so she can wrap her head around it all
The wait and see
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Re: Pretty sure i'm a father at this point.. [Re: Patlal]
#23907949 - 12/08/16 06:14 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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So what's your play here OP?
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