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Mental Taco



Registered: 07/02/14
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Ahhh Its that time of year again ehhh The most magically depressing months of thee year
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Reprobate420
Adrift in the Abyss



Registered: 11/02/16
Posts: 440
Loc: Nova Scotia
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moonrockmushy said:
that's true love right there. Tell her you want to rub your copper spool over her magnet.
We have jokingly talked about kinky sex by using scientific metaphors lol Actually quite the turn on. I think I will ask her soon if she wants to make it official and be in an actual relationship... things have been moving in that direction anyways
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twighead
mͯó



Registered: 08/27/08
Posts: 29,560
Loc: Glenn Gould's Fuck Windmill
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rogue_pixie said: Is he worth it? Tell me more...
Just search his posts Mad_Larkin
This ones worth the effort!
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Enjoywho
Rags to Bitches



Registered: 07/06/09
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I'm lonely all the time. Big whoop who cares. The hardest part is realizing nobody cares. Stop being a little bitch. If you actually look around you and notice the people that do care you just wound whiny.
-------------------- "I don't give nothin' to nobody, I just pay the cost to do business." - Riley "Young Reezy"-Boondocks "The road to hell is paved with good intentions." "In the days of kings and queens I was a jester." "And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies "Can you start speaking words instead of your damn filthy lies!"- Louise "Bobs Burgers"
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yogabunny
fancy cat



Registered: 11/01/09
Posts: 11,281
Loc: Nasty Women Get Shit Done
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RP, if I may offer some advice sister to sister -
The journey you're on right now is about becoming completely OK with your loneliness. That moment where you're finally so in love with yourself that you'd rather stay alone then settle for "just anyone", THAT is the moment that you will find someone special.
So, what can you do to fall deeply and madly in love with YOURSELF? Find the answer and then do it. What you attract when you do will be like night and day to what you're going to attract with the energy of loneliness.
Also, PLEASE be wary of BOYS who will seek to capitalize on and exploit your loneliness.
With all that said, I met my partner online. We've been together for 4 years, and we're very very happy. I don't necessarily think it's the medium of online that's not working for you, but perhaps the energy you're putting out or putting into it. If you want to chat more.
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daz01
Learning


Registered: 09/30/10
Posts: 4,652
Loc: Scotland
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yogabunny said: The journey you're on right now is about becoming completely OK with your loneliness. That moment where you're finally so in love with yourself that you'd rather stay alone then settle for "just anyone", THAT is the moment that you will find someone special.
So, what can you do to fall deeply and madly in love with YOURSELF? Find the answer and then do it. What you attract when you do will be like night and day to what you're going to attract with the energy of loneliness.
So true. I experienced severe levels of loneliness when I was ill with schizophrenia. I eventually had an epiphany this loneliness was in my head and though humans ARE social creatures, I am completely happy working on myself and everything will click into place with time.
Now I've been clean from opiates and experiencing healthy normal human emotions once again, my instinct for sex and socialising has ignited. I am horny and lonely, yes, but it doesn't bother me. And I believe in sexual transmutation now. When I don't masturbate, I feel alive, especially at the gym in terms of endurance, power and stamina. I've socialised with more people and women in the last 6 weeks than I have in last 4+ years 
If you can't find inner peace with yourself, find a hobby RP.... gym, fitness classes, whatever. Please don't sit in your house, feel like crap and then making it worse when you try to drink your feelings/loneliness away
-------------------- Pain is temporary. It may last for a minute or an hour or a day or even a year but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it will last forever.
Edited by daz01 (12/04/16 05:14 AM)
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Lucis
Nutritional Yeast

Registered: 03/28/15
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yogabunny said: The journey you're on right now is about becoming completely OK with your loneliness. That moment where you're finally so in love with yourself that you'd rather stay alone then settle for "just anyone", THAT is the moment that you will find someone special.
Good advice.
I have constantly seen two of my family members flit from one relationship to another, they ended up defining who they were through acceptance from others, which is not healthy.
One of them has said they didn't know who they were, and this is one of the pitfalls of defining your happiness through being accepted by others. Nothings wrong with wanting others to accept you, it's a very real feeling, but know who you are first.
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moonrockmushy
High on Spite



Registered: 07/01/05
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Re: Loneliness [Re: Lucis] 4
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Hey hey hey lets not get carried away here. I don't want her to get too confident. It's not easy to find someone who finds my drunken blathering charming that late on a Saturday.
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finalexplosion
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Registered: 11/04/16
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venetianblinds said: being lonely isn't as bad as being a newcastle united fan
Or worse, A Man U fan. lol
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rogue_pixie said: Witherspoons!!!Hahahaha 
She sounds interested lol Take that loneliness!
-------------------- The light of wisdom is driving away the darkness. Look at the ground. Now you can see your own shadow. If you are scared by the shadow that follows you, just remember, wherever shadows fall, light is always nearby.
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finalexplosion
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Registered: 11/04/16
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yogabunny said: RP, if I may offer some advice sister to sister -
The journey you're on right now is about becoming completely OK with your loneliness. That moment where you're finally so in love with yourself that you'd rather stay alone then settle for "just anyone", THAT is the moment that you will find someone special.
I heard this before. Its actually the second time I have heard it. It sounds narcissistic but, there definitely is bit of truth to that. It seems to happen when least expected.
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So, what can you do to fall deeply and madly in love with YOURSELF? Find the answer and then do it. What you attract when you do will be like night and day to what you're going to attract with the energy of loneliness.
Also, PLEASE be wary of BOYS who will seek to capitalize on and exploit your loneliness.

I love smashing and stage 5ers make it all the more easy.
-------------------- The light of wisdom is driving away the darkness. Look at the ground. Now you can see your own shadow. If you are scared by the shadow that follows you, just remember, wherever shadows fall, light is always nearby.
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Svetaketu
The Devil's Avocado 🥑



Registered: 10/08/15
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yogabunny said: The journey you're on right now is about becoming completely OK with your loneliness. That moment where you're finally so in love with yourself that you'd rather stay alone then settle for "just anyone", THAT is the moment that you will find someone special.
So, what can you do to fall deeply and madly in love with YOURSELF? Find the answer and then do it. What you attract when you do will be like night and day to what you're going to attract with the energy of loneliness.

Damn that was inspiring, hope you stick around
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rogue_pixie
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Registered: 07/28/04
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Loc: UK
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A person can be perfectly healthy, confident and happy with themselves and still be lonely. An isolated individual does not a healthy individual make. We are social creatures. We NEED relationships with other people (of all kinds) to be fully healthy.
It is one thing to love oneself, but quite another to expect someone to be happy in complete loneliness living essentially as a social recluse/hermit. It just isn't in the human nature to be like that and there is nothing wrong in admitting that.
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
Edited by rogue_pixie (12/04/16 04:21 PM)
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mt cleverest
clevendafodil

Registered: 08/19/12
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well, it is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society, I always say.
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Middleman

Registered: 07/11/99
Posts: 8,399
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Yeah some of us NEED to spend a few years alone in the middle of desert. I'm mush more of a patient and appreciative person because I did.
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yogabunny
fancy cat



Registered: 11/01/09
Posts: 11,281
Loc: Nasty Women Get Shit Done
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Well, I guess I misinterpreted your OP then. It seemed to that you were saying your loneliness was the direct result of lack of romantic love at this point in your life.
Hope you find what you're looking for!
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MrBlueYoMind
Don't do drugs (Without me)

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-------------------- Confucius say: He who sticks drugs in butthole has head up ass. EVOLUTION REQUIRES REPRODUCTION
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rogue_pixie
faerydae



Registered: 07/28/04
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Loc: UK
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'...I don't have many friends, not any whom I feel close to, because I never seem to meet people who are on my wavelength...'
Not just about romantic love no, just about being very isolated in general.
Thank you. I hope so too. You lovely folks are certainly helping. Been some nice supportive words and helpful advice, and a lot of LOLs hehe 
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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moonrockmushy
High on Spite



Registered: 07/01/05
Posts: 19,067
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You might be lonely, but you're never alone. I've got to sleep but you've got my undying affection.
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rogue_pixie
faerydae



Registered: 07/28/04
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Loc: UK
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You certainly stand out from the crowd
-------------------- "Whatever you do, you need to keep moving. Because when you stop moving you die (physically and emotionally). Good luck and blessings of happiness and fortune." ~ RandalFlagg RIP
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finalexplosion
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Registered: 11/04/16
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rogue_pixie said: A person can be perfectly healthy, confident and happy with themselves and still be lonely. An isolated individual does not a healthy individual make. We are social creatures. We NEED relationships with other people (of all kinds) to be fully healthy.
It is one thing to love oneself, but quite another to expect someone to be happy in complete loneliness living essentially as a social recluse/hermit. It just isn't in the human nature to be like that and there is nothing wrong in admitting that.
Agreed. I think her point was, the more you embrace you freedom, practice self love, be completely in love with yourself, the higher the probability you will meet your ideal partner in crime. You wont put off a stage fiver vibe, you wont be in a place of scarcity, needy or clingy (not to say you are).
I have been single for sometime but, I date a fair bit, and with apps as well as being ballsy, its a great time. I think your routine does not lend to much opportunity and I am picking up on a lot of unproductive redundancies. A trip to the grocery store, likely not a single interaction. A trip to the gym, I have chatted up a handful of chicks before leaving and likely, picked up at least a few numbers. The trip is to lift but, the rest is just bonus. As for conversion, it takes much better IRL vs online.
I know what you mean. I just think you could shake up your routine a bit. What New Yrs resolution do you have for yourself? A simple guy membership opens up a bunch of doors. For guys, taking up a few classes (yoga, spin, hot yoga etc.) is money. For one, its accompanied with your membership and as a bonus, the ratio of women is ridiculous. I am fascinated by chaos theory. That one decision and the ripple affect that decision has. Mess with it a bit. Ask someone out. Ask a guy if you find interested in if he has a gf? Any guy that does not suffer from low testosterone will presume interest, and request your digits.
Opportunity favors the brave.
Ps: I was in my study reading today. I came across a segment in a book on the topic of "loneliness." I thought of your predicament and post. The author says its the perspective of being alone. Its a call to action to connect with people again. Ask yourself, is it a friendship, intimacy or other that you would like? Be vulnerable in the sense of remaining open and expressing what you want all the while, moving towards what you want no matter the results. No regrets.
-------------------- The light of wisdom is driving away the darkness. Look at the ground. Now you can see your own shadow. If you are scared by the shadow that follows you, just remember, wherever shadows fall, light is always nearby.
Edited by finalexplosion (12/04/16 09:58 PM)
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