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rogue_pixie
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Loneliness
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How do you deal with it?
It's a feeling that has plagued me for most of my life. However, I thought that by the time I hit 30 I would be married with children by now, but I am very much single. I don't have many friends, not any whom I feel close to, because I never seem to meet people who are on my wavelength. I'm about to officially graduate with a master's degree and I'm doing a PhD in psycholinguistics. So from the outside, my life looks as though it is 'going well', but in actual fact, it feels completely and utterly pointless because I am so lonely and isolated.
Don't get me wrong, I love my own company, and doing things by myself, but doing that for the REST of my life is not something that I want to do. I am getting so tired of 'me' time. Life is infinitely better when it's shared with someone else/others. I am starting to lose the drive to do anything. I feel like a total outsider and it's cripplingly lonely.
Just wondering if anyone else is in a similar position re loneliness and the inability to meet people? It certainly seems to get more difficult with age.
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rider420
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Try a dating web site. The worst thing that will happen is your murder lol good luck.
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akira_akuma
Φύσις κρύπτεσθαι ὕψιστος φιλεῖ


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raise your children in psycholinguistics, that'll be fun.
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ruaware
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Edited by ruaware (12/06/16 02:36 AM)
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akira_akuma
Φύσις κρύπτεσθαι ὕψιστος φιλεῖ


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Re: Loneliness [Re: ruaware] 1
#23885013 - 12/01/16 04:05 PM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Universaleyeni
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You just haven't met anyone as cool as you yet!
You will, and the contrast to the lonelier times will be the radiance of the glow
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AroundtheSon
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Loc: Midwest.
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Grass is always greener. There are sometimes I wish I had no one....and times when I have been lonely and wished for anyone.
Just try to find peace in what you have, and make attempts to change your plight when you see it's appropriate.
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Repertoire89
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Join a sports team, start a kiss coverband, start going to the mosque every monday or whatever they do.
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rogue_pixie
faerydae



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Quote:
Universaleyeni said: You just haven't met anyone as cool as you yet!
You will, and the contrast to the lonelier times will be the radiance of the glow

I love this Thank you. It gives me hope.
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searching



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You need to get on tinder or some other dating site. Some of my friends are on there and they have new dates like every week. One of them met a girl and they are still together now for like 2 years. If I was single I would definitely get on tinder. It's so easy to meet women now.
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rogue_pixie
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searching said: You need to get on tinder or some other dating site. Some of my friends are on there and they have new dates like every week. One of them met a girl and they are still together now for like 2 years. If I was single I would definitely get on tinder. It's so easy to meet women now.
I've tried countless dating websites and Tinder, and had MANY dates, and ended up being used and abused, or in dangerous situations...Online dating is much more dangerous for women. I've heard a lot of people (including women) having success with online dating though and even Tinder, but I seem to be very unlucky with it and it's just not worth the psychological and physical risk that comes with it. I'm like a magnet for players and psychopaths.
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spirit_shadow
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Quote:
rogue_pixie said:
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searching said: You need to get on tinder or some other dating site. Some of my friends are on there and they have new dates like every week. One of them met a girl and they are still together now for like 2 years. If I was single I would definitely get on tinder. It's so easy to meet women now.
I've tried countless dating websites and Tinder, and had MANY dates, and ended up being used and abused, or in dangerous situations...Online dating is much more dangerous for women. I've heard a lot of people (including women) having success with online dating though and even Tinder, but I seem to be very unlucky with it and it's just not worth the psychological and physical risk that comes with it. I'm like a magnet for players and psychopaths.
Learn to use a gun then carry said gun. You will feel much safer
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rackem



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a ton of people say online dating is the way to go.. it sure seems like the easiest way to "put yourself out there" but i would have to disagree.
rp, you will be ok.. go do something you enjoy outside of your comfort zone. big world of cool people that aren't psycopaths out there.
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wrestler_az
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i have no advice, but i can relate. i've pretty much given up though.
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mt cleverest
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There are plenty of other loners like yourself on okcupid. You just have to market yourself correctly. Don't put any sexy pics up and be sure to go on and on about your most boring and nerdy interests on your profile. This is how me and my girl met. we are very boring, antisocial people and it works great (sometimes I wish I was completely alone but like aroundthesun said, the grass is always greener. ultimately I'm probably as happy as anyone else). if you want to put off the partner search indefinitely, just get a dog. dogs exist to combat human loneliness.
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AroundtheSon
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I have had the same girl for the last 5. I am anything but lonely, but being alone is a nice feeling too. Just saying...
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rogue_pixie
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mt cleverest said: There are plenty of other loners like yourself on okcupid. You just have to market yourself correctly. Don't put any sexy pics up and be sure to go on and on about your most boring and nerdy interests on your profile. This is how me and my girl met. we are very boring, antisocial people and it works great (sometimes I wish I was completely alone but like aroundthesun said, the grass is always greener. ultimately I'm probably as happy as anyone else). if you want to put off the partner search indefinitely, just get a dog. dogs exist to combat human loneliness.
Really re not putting any sexy pics up?!?! I'd never considered that! I thought the aim was to put up your most enticing, sexiest photographs, but I actually think you might be onto something...That way hopefully it weeds out the perverts and creeps. Maybe I will give that a try...
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spirit_shadow
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What are you into?.....Go to places that involve that
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AroundtheSon
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You nailed it. I have always had dogs, and will as long as I am able. Truly man's best friend. Never lonely with a good pup.
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Morgenstern
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Or we can start here.
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