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Offlinebeforethedawn
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Hitting on women successfully
    #23858516 - 11/22/16 07:41 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

God I have no idea.

Say you like a girl that works at a coffee shop or a servo . . .

What then?

I mean outside clubs and pubs I don't really see how anyone but the most ultra confident guy could start to make moves.

Do you just be yourself, try to be friendly? I mean I understand desperation is weird, I get that, so I don't act desperate (I have come on strong a few times), but I find just acting friendly each day doesn't exactly lead anywhere.

I bet I am desperate I just don't realise . . .

If you saw a girl sitting on a bench in the mall and you liked her, how would you proceed?

Just give me a basic idea.

Spoiling them... I bet that's stupid also.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: beforethedawn]
    #23858759 - 11/22/16 08:59 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Just like your post in PSP, there is nothing but now.

When you are truly in the moment, you're feeling the flow and evolution of eternity.
Communication is an aspect of that, your intuition will pick up the scope of the signal.
Watch how movement expresses within her physical appearance, which stems from the movement of her mind and energy.

At least in my experience, it's the knowing before thinking that reveals the "truth".
If the spark of chemistry and attraction builds, it will also flow through you, and you won't have to think about "hitting on women" as that will be your natural expression.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Khancious]
    #23858941 - 11/22/16 10:28 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Learning the art of the pick up is hard. So here a trip. Trick them, proven throughout physiology, scareing someone then back tracking leads people to trust you. Walk up and say there is a spider on your shoulder. Then instinct flick it off. Of course they freak out and then clam down right after. You have the next 75 seconds to get them to like you, be asked out. Works on 86% of people. Even for sales and politics


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: tump]
    #23858968 - 11/22/16 10:43 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

The art of the pickup is the art of how well you can stay confident while bullshitting someone else.

Be approachable, be a friend and be happy with yourself.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: beforethedawn] * 2
    #23859070 - 11/22/16 11:34 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

the art of the pickup is a deceiving term. confidence, good conversation, and a subtle joke here and there goes a long damned way.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: rackem] * 1
    #23859163 - 11/23/16 12:13 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

I dated a barista. Don't hit on baristas or ask them out while they are at work. They are just trying to get your tips. So many men trick themselves into thinking the girl at the coffee shop who puts a heart in their latte foam wants them :facepalm:


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #23859207 - 11/23/16 12:36 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Haha yeah, I hear the people at Maccas are great for trying to date too. :rofl2:


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #23859220 - 11/23/16 12:42 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

ive dated plenty of bartenders/waitresses etc. all it takes is a little face time man.

they get hit on all the damned time. a little common courtesy and a conversation goes a long way.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: rackem]
    #23859838 - 11/23/16 08:20 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Hitting on women successfully is easy man.

Have you ever played baseball as a kid? Same process, bigger target.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Patlal]
    #23859846 - 11/23/16 08:25 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Sometimes hitting on a women just means being a patient friend.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: rackem]
    #23862199 - 11/23/16 11:19 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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rackem said:
ive dated plenty of bartenders/waitresses etc. all it takes is a little face time man.

they get hit on all the damned time. a little common courtesy and a conversation goes a long way.




very true. That's how I dated a barista :lol:


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Black_Sunset]
    #23862411 - 11/24/16 01:29 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Hell it's a lot of hit and miss. I've said some dumb shit and just laughed. Facepalm. Moving on.

Oh well live and learn. Talking to girls is more about confidence than anything. A numbers game. Say there's 10 pretty girls in a given social setting. You only need 1 to say yes. :cheers:


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Enjoywho]
    #23862444 - 11/24/16 02:12 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

You should just start banging transsxual women.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: beforethedawn]
    #23862476 - 11/24/16 02:43 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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beforethedawn said:
God I have no idea.

Say you like a girl that works at a coffee shop or a servo . . .

What then?

I mean outside clubs and pubs I don't really see how anyone but the most ultra confident guy could start to make moves.

Do you just be yourself, try to be friendly? I mean I understand desperation is weird, I get that, so I don't act desperate (I have come on strong a few times), but I find just acting friendly each day doesn't exactly lead anywhere.

I bet I am desperate I just don't realise . . .

If you saw a girl sitting on a bench in the mall and you liked her, how would you proceed?

Just give me a basic idea.

Spoiling them... I bet that's stupid also.




Yes be yourself...yes be friendly if you are friendly. Just be you. Play your angle. Being friendly gets you friends. You gotta break some walls down if you want a date. Say you have been "friendly" and hopefully light flirting with someone...you see her one day and talk briefly and you guys have a laugh, just be like "hey im doing ___ tonight with some friends would you like to come." yes? great, let me get your number. No? right on, see you next time.

Approaching people in public just give a funny icebreaker. I take my dog to the beach and let her off the leash. She runs up to girls all the time and I have to chase after her like oh no. You just have to talk to people and have a good time.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: tump]
    #23862569 - 11/24/16 04:30 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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tump said:
Learning the art of the pick up is hard. So here a trip. Trick them, proven throughout physiology, scareing someone then back tracking leads people to trust you. Walk up and say there is a spider on your shoulder. Then instinct flick it off. Of course they freak out and then clam down right after. You have the next 75 seconds to get them to like you, be asked out. Works on 86% of people. Even for sales and politics




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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: 100_the_cat] * 1
    #23863107 - 11/24/16 09:52 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Talking to women like normal human beings has always worked well for me, with some compliments and jokes thrown in the mix from time to time...


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23863573 - 11/24/16 12:46 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Talking to women like normal human beings has always worked well for me, with some compliments and jokes thrown in the mix from time to time...




Pretty much this. There are times I do go into a conversation with that intent. But I'd say it's more or less the minority I just like to chit chat with anyone and make people laugh. If they're a pretty girl that's just a bonus. :thumbup:


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"In the days of kings and queens I was a jester."

"And then the great lord created bears... too many bears... shoulda really dialed back on the bears." Squidbillies

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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: beforethedawn] * 3
    #23864738 - 11/24/16 09:29 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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beforethedawn said:
God I have no idea.

Say you like a girl that works at a coffee shop or a servo . . .

What then?




Frequent the place especially if it is a venue you like, good environment, great energy, interesting people.

chatter. Make small talk with every server that isn't just "hi, how are you" rubbish. As in, real convo. Chatter.

Something I found works for me is talking to strangers like I already know them. No awkwardness. Yes, some people are weird, no receptive or reciprocating whatever. So be it. Inject person self interest, genuine desire, and leave the rest to god or the universe; whatever you believe.

Make friends everywhere. I have a coffee venue I frequent. I picked up quite a bit. One is a friend. One girl I went out with. Another is a work in progress.

Discretion is ideal. Be sleek. Make small talk and then stack onto it going forward. When she is receptive, break rapport, like, if the convo is going nowhere, change the topic. Cut threads. And go. Realize, you only have a few minutes so, make it quick. Don't ask her out. Don't aggressively hit on her. Be cool. Be welcoming.

What happens with a bit of rapport, she reciprocates, you share convo, talk about life or whatever, and she bites. She shares.

Girl mentioned she is a student. I said so too. We ended up talking about a school party event. I suggested she should come. When she asked how would she know if I came, I took her number. Do the same.

Be relatable.

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I mean outside clubs and pubs I don't really see how anyone but the most ultra confident guy could start to make moves.




Likely, you crash and burn a few times. Life goes on. I suggest not picking rush hour but not waiting for "the perfect moment." It does not exist. Every moment is the perfect moment. Once you are a regular, convo is just the norm. Chat with every server, yes, zone in on what you want but, be "that guy" who is just social.

If a girl likes you, when she walks by, she will make the time, and effort. Women make it obvious when interested. Women pursue men more then society lets on.

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Do you just be yourself, try to be friendly? I mean I understand desperation is weird, I get that, so I don't act desperate (I have come on strong a few times), but I find just acting friendly each day doesn't exactly lead anywhere.




You gotta be alpha as f but, within reason. Don't low talk. Don't whisper. take up space. Be bold. Be blunt. Make a little noise. Make comments no matter how Donald Trump like. Even be willing to offend. Just take a shot. If it goes nowehere, cool, you took a stand. Just start talking.

Most people are fucking zombies Durrring through life. Inject a bit of life, bring enthusiasm, rattle a few cages. Make some noise. Go nuts. What you think is too much likely is not far enough.

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I bet I am desperate I just don't realise . . .

If you saw a girl sitting on a bench in the mall and you liked her, how would you proceed?

Just give me a basic idea.

Spoiling them... I bet that's stupid also.




I am highly fascinated by human nature, by consciousness, and self exploration. If you are aware of the Selfish Genes or the Rational Male, preselection, Darwin, survival of the fittest, and hypergamy, its kind of a mind fuck. It contradicts much of what society pushes and preaches.

You are over analyzing. Make bold and blunt statements, accuse her of being reckless. Be fun. Be playful. Show personality. If you are funny, be funny. If you are nerdy, geeky, be that. Inject personality, drop enthusiasm, be fun, playful, leave her wanting more, turn your back, and leave.

At a place you frequent, again, repeat. What you will notice is, people open up, real convo emerges, even flirty chatter happens. With dudes, make friends, with women, chat, light flirting nothing rapey, and have fun.


True story, met a guy who is a homosexual. He basically put his co worker on my d. Just be cool. its not a big deal. At the end of the day, we are all people, we have chemistry with some people, and not with others.

Cast your reel. Tell me how it goes.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: finalexplosion]
    #23865246 - 11/25/16 05:09 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Yes op stalk her she will surely be yours.


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Re: Hitting on women successfully [Re: Enjoywho]
    #23867885 - 11/26/16 04:49 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Seriously tho. I've only ever had success acting like a totally balls to the wall weirdo.

Like I act like I'm a dog and have my tongue out at every chick I see. They come up to me. Serous. And it's always the super hot babes too. Like ones who you are probably afraid of approaching normally cause they probably have a boyfriend who can kick your ass.

I sometimes start singing in public the most weirdest songs I know, shit like Syd barret songs, or songs that I normally feel accentuate my terrible terrible, yet really awesome voice.

Also I try talk to everyone. And joke around in ways that I find funny, which is basically something I think only an idiot would say. But then I laugh and other people do too.

At clubs I dance like I don't care and offbeat to music in a spastic way. No joke bartenders have told me I need to calm down or they'll have to get the bouncers, and no its not cause I'm hitting anyone. It's just cause I look so fuck8ng dumb and uncalibrated and drunk, when I'm not.

And sometimes I start pretending I'm a penguin, and sometimes I make weird faces, and sometimes I jump on high things and pretend I'm like the king when I talk to my friends, or I have deep conversations and make agreeable statements to Trees and plants and animals and insects, cause they're all alive.

But I do these things to get out of my head and to get over my self.

I'd say about 95 percent of the time I look like a jackass, but every time, a super pretty woman just magically appears out of nowhere. They sit near me and make sure I've noticed them. They smile and giggle.

But anyways. That's only thing I do that I know gets women's attention.

Lots of times I don't do nothing but walk my dog and women come up and talk to me.

It's at that point I leave you to figure out the rest. Cause I still don't know how to get them into my arms and into my life. I don't want to be the blind leading the blind here ya know? I just wanted to say you can be imaginative and silly and cute women will come up to you. Thinking it was their idea.

Like the other day I was at the beach and I was just listening to music and some older lady said she liked the music. So I got out pretending I couldn't hear her. And then because I could tell she was giving me the look I got up real close to her and asked her what she was doing at the beach. Then she mentioned my car. So I asked her if she wanted to go for a ride, and we can go fast. And then she said she was scared. So I said we can go slow too. And then she touched my arm giggling. And then I pulled her to me on the car and kissed her, and then I pressed my hard dick on her. And the she started rubbing it. And after abour another minute she just said she had to leave. And there I stood with blue balls. I still don't know what, if anything I could do differently.

But I guess it's still pretty fun cause I got to make out with an older lady after talking with her for less than 1 munute.


But yea that's my 2 cents cause I know most of the advice you'll get is open ended crap. And normally I wouldn't even respond cause my conversion rate is God awful. But you know what who cares. Every time I'm out in public, beautiful women respond to me and try to get me to notice them. So maybe this can help you...


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