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Skizor1337
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The one that came back - Question about sex
#23847955 - 11/19/16 09:59 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I will make this short and not include a bunch of details that are not going to do this question any good.
I am not dating this girl I am seeing. We have been hanging out and taking things slow for a couple months now. We are on the same page with everything. She only has sex with people she is in a relationship with which is totally fine by me So no we have not done anything besides a couple kisses.
My question is about having sex with a bother girl that I have also known for a while. Since we are not dating I technically should be able to see other girls and have sex if that happens.
I want to but I kinda feel a little bad about it. Then again at my age I can't go without sec for a while And the last thing I will do is push this girl I'm seeing into having sex. We have something great but I just have some needs that's all. Nothing crazy
Can I have some thoughts please
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337]
#23848064 - 11/19/16 10:27 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Tell her straight up, I want to be with you but I hate waiting to know if you want to be with me. We're going to go out (whenever) and let's see where this goes. If she wants more she will say yes. If she says no then you already know how you feel. Tell her.unless you're in high school dude, talking to a girl about wanting sex is not a big deal. You should be telling her you want to fuck her, in any assortment of ways. Make her feel wanted, and important. If she cares she will reciprocate with as much feeling as you give out.
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Skizor1337
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23848137 - 11/19/16 10:43 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I guess I didn't make things clear haha.
We are going to date that's a fact. We are really open with one another.
We have both been single for 2 years now and are just chilling and taking it easy. I learned that the quicker I get into relationships the more I miss the small moments that could have happened.
I am strictly just asking if I should feel bad going and having sex with a friend since me and the girl I am pursing are not dating yet.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337]
#23848166 - 11/19/16 10:51 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Just be honest with her.. that's what I would do. Honesty can hurt, and is complicated, but it's usually the best course of action. I know that's not what you're asking though. My answer would be yes. Find out if she's seeing/talking to other people and take it from there. Or don't. She has intent and sounds like she likes you, for all I know she's not interested in anyone but you and would be very hurt by these actions.
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Skizor1337
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23848167 - 11/19/16 10:52 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yea she doesnt like anyone but me.
I dont like anyone but her.
I just want to have sex but not with her because I dont want to rush anything yet.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#23848177 - 11/19/16 10:55 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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If she doesn't want to fuck you and only fucks people she dates, and she doesn't want to date you, seems like she could use a little reality check. Go meet some other cool chicks.
Women tend to get all excited when men want them and can't have them, and forget that there are lots of other, probably hotter women out there that are competing for your attention all the time. They like to use sex as a tool to control men.
Thus is the nature of women.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337]
#23848181 - 11/19/16 10:56 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Sometimes people only ask for advice because they want their bad ideas validated in spite of their houghts on the matter. If you like her then there shouldn't be conflicting interests. Maybe if you tell her you're hard up she will take mercy on you and you can start fooling around more.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: WeAreMushroom]
#23848183 - 11/19/16 10:57 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Men say women are controlling for the same reasons women say men are dumb. The sexes think differently, I think it's a little much to assume she's being controlling.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: WeAreMushroom]
#23848201 - 11/19/16 11:03 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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you are right.
But for some reason this girl is different. I have met a lot of girls and dated a bunch as well.
Also she does want to date but we just didnt want to jump into something right away. There is no bullshit with this girl she just has been played before and wants something REAL for once in her life. And so do I. Hookups are old as fuck and I get no enjoyment in it antymore
I am 25 years old. She is the same age.
Its impossible to explain but I have never had a stronger connection with anyone then this girl.
This is why I want to pursue this one and not try to just kick her out for not fucking me right away. Most guys to day just want to fuck girls and not care about who they are. I actually do care about this girl and I don't just want her for sex. We have some serious potential but she is just taking things slow. I would rather be moving slow then standing still or moving backwards.
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Edited by Skizor1337 (11/19/16 11:08 AM)
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337] 1
#23848492 - 11/19/16 12:46 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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You want to have sex but not with her? Seems like you need to figure out what YOU really want. If this girl is worth waiting for then give up sex for a while. If not then go out and have sex with your "friend", but the girl you are pursuing will not like it if she really is into you.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: FruitOfLife]
#23848508 - 11/19/16 12:50 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Her name is Amy
I do want to have sex with Amy obviously.
I just know if I push Amy for sex shes not going to like that. We have talked about that before. Shes attractive and many guys have pushed her for sex pretty directly after meeting her and shes not like that. She wont just give it up to just anyone.
I don't want to ruin anything with Amy
I just asked if it would or would not be ethical to go sleep with a friend of mine named Sarah since me and Amy are not dating yet and are taking things slow.
Technically we are not dating and could see other people if we would wish.
Even though I know for a fact we both really like each other and are on the same page.
I hope that is easier to understand now. Sorry for confusing everyone
P.S. I haven't slept with Sarah recently either
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Edited by Skizor1337 (11/19/16 12:58 PM)
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337]
#23848723 - 11/19/16 01:46 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Either forget about Amy and go and fuck other girls or if you want to be with her in a relationship (and not just to have sex with her once you have her cos I think that would be really sad), then make the effort with her and just have wanks at home until she is ready.
If you keep on pursuing her while having sex with other girls personally I would deem that as being a bit wrong as she'd be putting a lot of her values into you or her "preservation" so to speak, hence her waiting.
Your choice obviously, just my thoughts on it so not lecturing
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337] 1
#23849656 - 11/19/16 07:12 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Try letting go of your attachment and desire for sex altogether. The more time you spend thinking about it in an abstract and logical manner, the more pitfalls and hangups you're going to come across, and the more clouded your judgment will be when considering the nature of your relationships. Projecting too far into the future is never helpful. Just clear your head and let your heart do the talking. You'll know it when you hear it, the right path to take.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23850242 - 11/20/16 12:07 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Tell her straight up, I want to be with you but I hate waiting to know if you want to be with me. We're going to go out (whenever) and let's see where this goes. If she wants more she will say yes. If she says no then you already know how you feel. Tell her.unless you're in high school dude, talking to a girl about wanting sex is not a big deal. You should be telling her you want to fuck her, in any assortment of ways. Make her feel wanted, and important. If she cares she will reciprocate with as much feeling as you give out.
This is where most guys seems to take advantage of women with soap opera complements and meaningless gestures for sex.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: sudly]
#23850554 - 11/20/16 06:14 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I just think honesty is important. Trying too hard is not what I was getting at, though after reading what you said I can definitely understand what you mean. I just don't personally need cheesy lines and like you said, meaningless gestures, to make someone feel wanted. If you have to do that then you don't really care about someone.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23850580 - 11/20/16 06:28 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Some girls truly only want to feel wanted. While girls can fake orgasms guys can fake compliments.
But yeah I think the best feelings come from honesty.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: sudly]
#23850599 - 11/20/16 06:43 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Quote:
sudly said: Some girls truly only want to feel wanted. While girls can fake orgasms guys can fake compliments.
But yeah I think the best feelings come from honesty.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: 2shoes] 3
#23851491 - 11/20/16 01:06 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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OP one of your early posts you say you jump into relationships too quickly and that you need to enjoy the little things in the early parts more. Is that correct? I'm paraphrasing.
Then if you actually like this girl, this is a test for you. You're going to want to fall into your old habits and jump the gun with sex, and if she won't give it to you you might seek it elsewhere. If you give in and fuck someone else you're just going to cause yourself grief because what you wanted was the willpower to resist those old behaviors. Take Anon #1's advice and figure out where you 2 stand. If you really want this you will do anything for it. Good luck
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Skizor1337
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Black_Sunset] 2
#23851675 - 11/20/16 02:32 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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You are absolutely right.
I am going to give it my all.
It's worth the effort in the end if everything goes the way I think it will.
Thanks for the advice. Really appreciate it.
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Re: The one that came back - Question about sex [Re: Skizor1337]
#23864754 - 11/24/16 09:37 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Skizor1337 said: I will make this short and not include a bunch of details that are not going to do this question any good.
I am not dating this girl I am seeing. We have been hanging out and taking things slow for a couple months now. We are on the same page with everything. She only has sex with people she is in a relationship with which is totally fine by me So no we have not done anything besides a couple kisses.
My question is about having sex with a bother girl that I have also known for a while. Since we are not dating I technically should be able to see other girls and have sex if that happens.
I want to but I kinda feel a little bad about it. Then again at my age I can't go without sec for a while And the last thing I will do is push this girl I'm seeing into having sex. We have something great but I just have some needs that's all. Nothing crazy
Can I have some thoughts please
Its 2016. Girls are not waiting kuz.
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