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sudly
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: Lucis]
#23873155 - 11/27/16 07:20 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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It's nice when people are comfortable enough with themselves to share their interests in that way.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23873188 - 11/27/16 07:35 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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sudly said: It's nice when people are comfortable enough with themselves to share their interests in that way.
Fixed. People are far too scared to share their true selves in our western culture (I know others not well enough to comment, but I feel some definitely have the upper hand).
It's why I'm just about to run away and hide from it all so I can properly get to know myself. How many even know themselves well enough to know who they really are?
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sudly
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I was specifying BDSM but the context is general.
I reckon some people are too scared to share their true selves because they have a lack of awareness or a fear of the spotlight effect.
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The spotlight effect is the phenomenon in which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are. Being that one is constantly in the center of one's own world, an accurate evaluation of how much one is noticed by others has shown to be uncommon.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly] 2
#23873320 - 11/27/16 08:19 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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My Sub was the one who introduced me to it. She doesn't find it degrading at all, she often describes it as empowering. I know it's done wonders for our relationship and my confidence. I feel more "man" than I ever have.
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Sounds like that probably ties in a lot with your last thread about lasting longer...
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I enjoy the release. I turn into a sopping wet puddle when I've gotten a really good spanking. Like the kind that stings a little the next day.
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I am a sissy.  But NOT a slut.
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sudly
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Sluts are not people who have a lot of sex because we have the right to our own bodies, a slut is someone who pretends to be in relationships while sleeping with others.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23875254 - 11/28/16 01:50 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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sudly said: Sluts are not people who have a lot of sex because we have the right to our own bodies, a slut is someone who pretends to be in relationships while sleeping with others.
I didn't say that to be anyway disparaging towards people with a very active sex life, I encourage that. I was saying it in reference to the stigma associated with sissies that we are all cock hungry bimbos when in fact I don't even like cock.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23875381 - 11/28/16 02:45 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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sudly said: I was specifying BDSM but the context is general.
I reckon some people are too scared to share their true selves because they have a lack of awareness or a fear of the spotlight effect.
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The spotlight effect is the phenomenon in which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are. Being that one is constantly in the center of one's own world, an accurate evaluation of how much one is noticed by others has shown to be uncommon.
With the internet very few things do go unnoticed. Worse, everyone has a cell with a camera.
How often have you some shroomerite's date naked? last I saw was unconscious and I'm willing to bet she did not give consent for him to take the photo, much less post it on the internet.
People are always trying to make a new meme, funny, 4chan, or reddit story. I don't trust alot of people to not share my personal business or my ass, in a positive, negative, or attention seeking way with the entire fucking world thanks to the "anominity" of the internet. Maybe that's why I can't go deeper in my BDSM quirks. Dunno. Comparatively some of that probably is less kinky than what I've done with my current partner. Who has thoroughly enjoyed coaxing me out of pretty much any boundary she's found.
... As a dom I'm a bit resentful of that
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sudly
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So much goes unnoticed on the internet such as peer reviewed journal articles and factual information.
Having access to the internet or a camera doesn't automatically provide someone with awareness or knowledge of psychological phenomena such as the spotlight effect.
I think there's a lot of anonymity in the real world too, it's not just on the internet that people use facades.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23875457 - 11/28/16 03:16 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Can't argue with that. Just trying to point out that such fear is valid in some cases.
How do you think bad luck brian feels?
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sudly
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Don't use a camera?
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23918692 - 12/12/16 06:32 AM (7 years, 1 month ago) |
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Okay, gonna add my part too, lol. I personally almost can't enjoy "normal" sex, it just seems too boring to me and have to force myself to actually come.
I need to be dominant, ideally using a leash, a ballgag and giving direct orders. First then I am really aroused, but I also find that I quickly get bored and need to search for something new to try.
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im kinky, def not listing my kinks here though 
But I have yet to really explore that side of myself just cause so much life bs getting in the way. Then again I've been wanting to check out the local scene but going to something like that alone terrifies me. Even if I had a friend to go with I still would be averse to actually going. Exploring things online is like also a no, just cause I dont feel like I can fully trust the person unless we met in person and people around here for online dating is like not even worth bothering with, been down that road too many times. Not to mention dealing with unicorn hunters, like being poly brings a whole other set of issues too.
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Your neck of the woods gets more conventions than mine does. I'd go with ya Cosmic.
My partner called me a furry not long ago. And I was... Not happy about it. I do not wish to dress up in a cartoon animal suit and have orgies with other cartoon animals. But I looked up the definition:
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The furry fandom is a subculture interested in fictional anthropomorphic animal characters with human personalities and characteristics. Examples of anthropomorphic attributes include exhibiting human intelligence and facial expressions, the ability to speak, walk on two legs, and wear clothes
And apparently I'm a furry  Though I'd like to think it's the other way around. I like people with animalistic behaviors.
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Edited by sudly (12/12/16 06:27 PM)
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CookieCrumbs said: Your neck of the woods gets more conventions than mine does. I'd go with ya Cosmic.
My partner called me a furry not long ago. And I was... Not happy about it. I do not wish to dress up in a cartoon animal suit and have orgies with other cartoon animals. But I looked up the definition:
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The furry fandom is a subculture interested in fictional anthropomorphic animal characters with human personalities and characteristics. Examples of anthropomorphic attributes include exhibiting human intelligence and facial expressions, the ability to speak, walk on two legs, and wear clothes
And apparently I'm a furry  Though I'd like to think it's the other way around. I like people with animalistic behaviors.
Aww thanks 
like lmao though, reminds of when I found out I was into certain kinks and I was like omg no way, just cause stigma attached or whatever but I've learned to embrace it. Its just healthier that way vs denying it forever.
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