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ThatKidWithTheFace
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BDSM Thread
#23847265 - 11/19/16 12:04 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey, Shroomery cats. I was wondering how many of y'all had any experience with BDSM relationships.
I've always liked rougher sex, and bondage has always been a kink of mine. But when me and my girl got serious, she told me that submission was a big fantasy of hers. She hadn't really got to experience it, and I never thought I'd get to be truly dominant.
Well, we did some research and some experimenting, and now we live a 24/7 total power exchange relationship. More on the Domestic Discipline side of things. And let me tell you, we have never been happier. We don't fight like we used to. It's just the best.
Anyways, how do y'all roll? What are y'all into?
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ShroomerInTheRye
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I'm really glad to see this thread.
According to my FetLife account, I am into the following:
spanking, bondage, kinbaku, face slapping, cunt worship, fisting , boots, boot blacking, panty sniffing, tease and denial, rough body play, predicament bondage, lesbian domination, face fucking, and breath play...among other things. This is just the short list.
I identify as a switch, which is kind of hard in the community. You're, like, the bi-sexual of BDSM. Everyone's afraid you're going to switch sides on them. I like giving it, but I also like taking it sometimes too. I also think that, if you're going to top someone, you really need to know what you're going to put them through.
One thing I can't get into is humiliation. I tried it a few times, but it really messed me up kinda bad for a few days. Not really into the violet wand either. I guess if I had to break it down, I'm really more into the S&M aspect, and not so much the B&D.
Otherwise, I'm pretty open minded. I have 5 basic no's:
1. No kids. 2. No animals. 3. No poop. 4. No puke. 5. No pee (but this one's been broken once or twice, accidentally, and it wasn't terrible, just not my thing).
It's hard to be into S&M as a lesbian, I find, because it scares off a lot of women. They just automatically associate it with getting the shit beat out of you, and that's not it at all. It's more of like a raw, emotionally connected type bond.
I used to be a member of this group called "The Next Generation" wherein we learned RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink). We had doms, subs, and sissies come in and teach us proper technique so sex injuries were minimal. I learned everything I ever wanted to know about sounding in those classes.
I'd like to try to build a St. Andrews cross one day.
Funny story...I ended up on the front page of the Sun Sentinel's Society/Culture section a few years back in this get up. I wore it to a fetish ball and I remember someone with a really complicated camera taking my picture.
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100_the_cat

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I think it's fucked in the head
I don't think any of that stuff is truly consensual, it's people acting out a sexualized version of dysfunctional roles they were forced into in childhood. At least on the part of the people who get hurt. Doms are just abusers who want to legitimize their abuse. There's still psychological suffering going on, the difference is nobody's admitting it.
Same shit as with the sex trade..."let's pretend this stuff is great and makes us happy!"
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By your logic, where do people who are switches fall? Are we legitimizing our abuse or acting out past abuse?
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koraks
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100_the_cat said: I think it's fucked in the head
It's unfortunate that in this day and age, people who are into bdsm still have to face the kind of uninformed prejudice that you display here. I encourage you to educate yourself, as your response makes it painfully clear that you know virtually nothing about the people you speak of.
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CookieCrumbs
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It is well to note that cat has referenced alot of consensual sex that she didn't actually want. That does shift your opinion on these things.
I'm down with bondage. S&M stuff might come into it slightly but I'm not big into that. I don't own anyone and no one owns me. Even if it is confined only to the bedroom it conflicts with my ideas of freedom and openness.
...but if they are bound and gagged that is another story isn't it?
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koraks
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CookieCrumbs said: It is well to note that cat has referenced alot of consensual sex that she didn't actually want.
If she didn't want it, it wasn't consensual. Moreover, her views aren't consistent with the behavior and views of most people who are into bdsm stuff. Nasty experiences don't justify prejudice.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: koraks]
#23863530 - 11/24/16 12:33 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Not saying it's justification. I do think it helps to understand where people are coming from if you want to make them understand you.
You've never had guilt sex? Or pity sex? You can consent to alot of things you don't actually want. People consent to searches all the time and you know damn well they don't want anyone going through their stuff. People with contraband on them consent to searches too.
I dunno how often that sort of thing happens to guys but it seems to happen alot to young women.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: koraks]
#23863535 - 11/24/16 12:34 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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It works for me and mine, I don't care what anyone thinks about it. 
Doms are just abusers? Dom =/= Sadist. I'm not huge into pain. How am I am abuser?
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Often times acting out a sexualized version of dysfunctional childhood role is healthy because it leads to catharsis.

I will add that, not thinking critically about a fetish will retard a individuals psychological growth. But, I've found the majority of people involved in the scene are using BDSM in a introspective and critical manner. However, my view is very limited.
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I only had one GF who was into BDSM, and that was the best sex I can remember! There is nothing deplorable about 2 or more consensual adults agreeing to dominate each other. It can actually feel very empowering to dominate, and exhilarating to be dominated. It's kind of like a therapy session mixed with the always awesome act of lovemaking.
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SARAtonin
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: FishyAl]
#23871375 - 11/27/16 08:54 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'd definitely consider myself a Domme. The idea of someone serving and worshipping me is a big turn on. I'm not really into the pain aspect super much, but there's nothing wrong with a little flogging. I checked out a presentation on Kinbaku a while back and it was super interesting. Just wish my wife was less vanilla. but that's not to say she doesn't have a little kink in her. 

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Lucis
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SARAtonin said: Just wish my wife was less vanilla. but that's not to say she doesn't have a little kink in her.
You have to find what she likes, everybody has some sort of fetish.
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100_the_cat said: Doms are just abusers who want to legitimize their abuse.
Not all, maybe some, but not all.
By that logic every Satanist kills little animals for fun, or every Christian is a bible thumper, which we both know is not true.
Some girls will let you know that they want to get sexually destroyed, they have been having sex with average guys for so long, it feels good for them to just let it all go, it's important to keep proper channels of communication open regarding sexual matters, you know the first few times you have sex with a new girl you don't want to go to far, just keep it simple and then talk about new things to try, eventually you will find out what works for both of you, and this is a lovely point to be at.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: Lucis]
#23871970 - 11/27/16 12:46 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I know it's not all BDSM and it's incredible diverse but so often I'm reminded of sado-masichism and that's just something I'm not turned on by.
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ThatKidWithTheFace
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23872781 - 11/27/16 05:07 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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sudly said: I know it's not all BDSM and it's incredible diverse but so often I'm reminded of sado-masichism and that's just something I'm not turned on by.
I'm not big into S&M either. Pain isn't what turns me on. Submission, though . . .
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sudly
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If you're a BDSM dom and find someone willing to submit to whatever then blessings but I would think a lot of people find the salve/master side of BDSM degrading.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23872902 - 11/27/16 05:48 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I take a very 50/50 stance on it. I like playing sexually in almost every way, but consistently playing a role, or having a partner that consistently likes to play a role, bores the fuck out of me. Even playing sub/dom is too much for me, I like it to just flow natural as the experience flows. Sometimes my mood is aggressive as fuck, sometimes I just wanna lay back and get sucked/fucked.
As much as my own mood comes into play, I look for subtle cues in my partner and play into that a lot more (mostly).
As some wise cunt once said, variety is the spice of life, and I'll try almost anything once. A lot more than once if I enjoy it. But I'm a man of many, many moods, and my sex life reflects that.
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sudly
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As long as you're honest that's what matters.
Though my standards are relatively high because I think too many people wear a facade these days.
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Re: BDSM Thread [Re: sudly]
#23873079 - 11/27/16 06:47 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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sudly said: If you're a BDSM dom and find someone willing to submit to whatever then blessings but I would think a lot of people find the salve/master side of BDSM degrading.
I am not talking about degrading anyone, I don't get down like that, I should have been clear above, I meant girls that like to be fucked hard, thrown around in bed, dominated that way, not talking down to them, or treating them disrespectfully at all, unless that was their kink, then I would try my best to give them what they wanted. As long as I didn't feel like I had to sign a pact with the devil to please them, I am all for it.
My ex was boring as fuck, I wish she would have been down for more toys. My next girl better be down with butt plugs and vibrators, I don't feel threatened by them, I don't get guys that do, most girls are not going to pass up a warm piece of cock, for an artificial one.
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