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Need help meeting women
#23817570 - 11/09/16 08:30 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Well you see, I'm only 19 but I'm a Virgin and never had a serious girlfriend. I know I'm still young but I'm struggling with the intense loneliness. I LOOOOOOVE mushrooms and LSD but I have no one to trip with at all, not even any male friends which I'm also looking for but I don't even like tripping anymore cause I just can't escape the despairaging loneliness and fear of dying alone.
Im a bit of a shut in and I really want a girl who's into psychedelics, as Im sure most people on this board do. I'm just feeling hopeless and have no idea how to go about meeting people.
I've heard the typical advice, work on yourself, ect.. And I don't struggle with self esteem issues, I mean I love myself, I'm a really good looking guy and just a kind, loving, and beautiful person. I just really have trouble meeting new people and have no idea where to go our how to make it happen. I've tried dating sites with little success.
I do have a some trust issues, when I was in high school a drop dead gorgeous girl told me she really really wanted to trip with me. I was soooo fucking excited and we talked about it everyday for a long time. I was a bit nervous around her at first but it faded quickly and I was stoked just to trip with her. The mushroom experience to me was way more important than sex anyway. I kept trying to set up a date or get her to come over but she always came up with an excuse about why she couldn't. She then came to school one day and casually mentioned her new boyfriend in everyday conversation. I thought I loved this girl and she just used shrooms to hurt my feelings. I'm used to being fucked with about sex but I've never had a girl use mushrooms to fuck with me. It broke my heart cause I was totally obsessed with her and thought she was the one for a long time. She even asked me to trip and didn't have the decency to give me a chance.
Ive moved on mostly, but there's still a part of me that feels like it was my fault and I blew it. Like she was my one chance and I'll never be happy again.
If anyone can help, I just am at a point in my life where I need some female attention but psychedelics are a huge part of my life, their almost like god to me in a way, and I have no idea how to meet new people now that I'm not in school.
Thanks guys.
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FruitOfLife
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I don't think you loved the girl from high school. You may have thought you did because you're young and don't know what real love feels like, but trust me you weren't in love with her. I have been in your shoes where you think you love someone, but really it's just infatuation and in time you will learn the difference.
I think at first she really did want to trip with you and maybe she was into you. But then you must have done something to turn her off which is super easy to do with women/girls. When you would ask her to come over and she kept making excuses not do, that was her way of telling you she wasn't interested and was hoping you would get the hint because women expect us to know their secret fucking language which is always confusing lol. I think you maybe were putting on a flirty/relationshipy vibe which is why she kept "casually" mentioned her new boyfriend. She wanted you to pick up the fact that she is not interested in anything romantically from you.
I have also felt the feeling that when it doesn't work out with a girl that it's all my fault and I could have done things differently. I can even think of 5 specific things/times I wish I could go back and change! In a way that is true and I still think to this day about things I could have done differently with one particular girl. Maybe I'm right and maybe I'm wrong, but it doesn't matter either way because she is gone now so I have moved on. But I do understand where you're coming from and the feeling is literally sickening. But there are billions of women in the world and you eventually find the "one" when the time comes. Just be patient I mean after all you're only 19, you have TONS of time left in the dating world.
Where do you work? I have met a lot of good friends through work. Otherwise just try to think of fun things other people who are into psychedelics do, and get involved in those activities.
But don't feel alone, 99% of guys have felt and feel the same way you do right now. It's very normal, but people just eventually grow and learn what they need to do. Hope this help, good luck man!
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dating sites are pretty wack i mean if you have to go on a dating site to meet people why not get a job or talk to people at school
also the first thing you do with a girl shouldn't be tripping that for me would be something i do with her on vacation the first thing you want to do with a girl is talk hang out once you have that first real date see how far you can take it before you get bored of each other when you bring up someones place you're pretty much having sex at that point if not then your girl is just weird to me unless it's a friends gathering sort of thing after that it's can we live in the same house together
so yeah the internet isn't going to facilitate that at all, women are extremely picky on those sites and when they aren't they get called sluts as opposed to men who are just popular
Edited by Konyap (11/09/16 10:53 PM)
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Re: Need help meeting women [Re: Konyap]
#23818261 - 11/10/16 03:12 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Sounds like you need to go to Hobby Lobby..that place is filled with women of ALL ages. For real. Go check it out. They have some pretty cool stuff in that store if you are the least bit creative.
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Don't bring up psychedelics until you have got your dick wet from something besides your spit and/or POSITIVE they are down/cool with it. Hobby Lobby is where you want to go..it's one of the places I'd end up getting tail if I was not in a great relationship with a great women.
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What you need to work on is your pick up lines for ice breakers. Here is evil but great advice. All hot women are insane don't trip with them. Best advise is hit on every women you come across its a numbers game use pick up lines on the cute/ hot skinny ones youll need the practice for the late stages of the plan. First break the ice on a young chubby red hair girl, ask such a girl put on a date the third sentence. Success rate with this is 90%. You don't want to sleep with them just go out few times to meet her freinds who are on different scales of hottest. Remember the number one way to seduce women is to make them feel safe. So once everyone in the red heads groups likes you , then seduce her hot freind by asking about relationship advice over ice cream. Bang the hot freind and never speak to her again. In about a week thw red head girl will leave you for a new threading bf. Which you kind of know form her group of freinds while his ex gf is still in her hicth mode you make freinds with her. And she will be your shroom freind.
It's a simple thing to pull off. Ive couch two men to follow that to the letter and it works.
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Re: Need help meeting women [Re: tump]
#23818428 - 11/10/16 06:06 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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You should probably work on getting some friends first.
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Anonymous #1
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Yeah thanks for the advice everyone, I was a little drunk last night and I realize how silly I was being 
I've got a handful of friends, most are in college right now for like audio design and other shit. I don't really have the opportunity to go to college right now cause I have some family I need to take care of and money issues.
I work at a small restaurant with like two other people. It's a pretty sick gig and I could totally see making a career out of it.
I guess I'm not really trying to "just get laid" I mean I at least want it to be with someone I like first.
Sooo I've been talking to this girl on and off on kik for like 3 years now. She mostly likes girls but shes led on and even told me she's interested in me. Shes got alot of emotional issues and depression/low self esteem but she's a really badass girl. I took some mdma and talked to her for a long time a few weeks ago and she wants to come roll with me, we're supposed to do it this weekend. Even if I don't get laid she's still a really really good friend of mine and I think a solid roll will do her alot of good and be alot of fun for both of us if nothing else.
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Anonymous #1
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Also the hobby lobby thing is fucking great advice, id probably feel a little creepy trying to pick up girls there though.
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Re: Need help meeting women [Re: tump] 2
#23819068 - 11/10/16 10:05 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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tump said: Best advise is hit on every women you come across its a numbers game use pick up lines on the cute/ hot skinny ones youll need the practice for the late stages of the plan.
Oh god. You're one of those men that gives all the rest of our gender such a bad name in the eyes of the opposite gender. It's that attitude that makes me feel ashamed to be a male when I see it in action. It's the attitude of a man insecure in himself, desperate, and utterly unattractive. The fact that you're playing numbers is the only reason you'll get anyone, but it'll be fucking superficial.
Fucking numbers game. That makes me nigh on nauseaus. That attitude is what causes so much shit in our species between genders. You aint a fucking animal, you got consciousness. So please use it and don't slobber over women the way I see so many men do. They aint numbers, they're humans. They ain't a just a pussy on legs for you to fulfill your insecurities with, they're humans.
Fucks sake. If people would just focus on their true selves and not always be seeking to satisfy their superficial desires and insecurities this would would be a very, very different place.
@OP - We've all fucked it up with a girl we like at some point. It is hard for us as males to understand the subtleties of the female mind. Even with absolute dedication to understand my partners I'm often left baffled. At best, I reckon I can undertandt 60-70% of a partners emotiona; responses. Put a really girly girl in front of me and it drops to about 10%. The important thing, as you already know, is to move on and focus on you. Confident, secure, self-knowing you is the most attractive you there is.
I can give you some pointers on using dating sites if you want, they're pretty easy to make superficial connections with, but I wouldn't touch them with a barge pole these days - there's something so unnatural about it/them. I used them to play polyamorous for a while and my, it's very easy to get superficial satisfaction using them.
On the flipside, I've talked to a good 4-5 very wise humans recently about my own conundrum of being single after losing my wife to alcoholism over a year ago, and the message is always the same; when you're complete, and not looking for a woman at all, only then will the right one appear in your life.
It's hard. I've never gone more than a month or two without a partner for the last 14 years, since I was 18. I've haven't had sex in 10+ months, as much as I want to and know I could very easily. I'm choosing to instead to work on me, cause when I played poly for a while and just lost sight of me and just chipped away at my soul. I had some of the best sex I've ever had, but without true connection, it did more harm than good.
It's probably not what you wanna hear - it certainly aint for me. But I know in my gut, heart, and soul, that only when I stop looking for a woman will the right woman come into my life. That's a fucking challenge and a half cause when you know what it is to have a long term partner, you really miss it when it's gone.
But that's just me. I've had a lot of women and a lot of sex in my life. If you feel your experience is lacking, then just hone the dating site skills and play the numbers game like so many other men do. It will work, but if you're a man of integrity who knows himself well you'll only feel hollow on the flipside if you go looking for a partner, and likely end up with one that'll fuck you over or make your life more difficult in the long run.
It seems blindingly obvious to me that one has to relinquish the desire for a partner to get a good one.
Not an easy thing in our culture by any means. Good luck, whatever path you choose.
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