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I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection
    #23811889 - 11/08/16 07:39 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

HOW THE FUCK DO YOU DEAL WITH THAT??????


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23811940 - 11/08/16 07:58 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Don't beat your ego up.  It's great having an ego and for it to be strong.  A strong ego is not egocentric.  A strong ego survives storms and has peace.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 3
    #23811975 - 11/08/16 08:11 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

You need to find some type of balance.  It's not that the ego doesn't or shouldn't exist -- merely that it is not the primary aspect of our being.  It can't be permanently banished, except in very rare instances.  It must be integrated in a way that wholeness is maximized and fragmentation is minimized.


"Spiritual appeals to transcend the ego are vain.  Like any other level of consciousness of energy, ego is.  Karma is.  All we can do is center ego consciousness and see it in proper relationship to the other "I's."  The "social ego" is abysmally trivial when compared to the "atomic I," the "DNA I," but that's the glorious humor of the cosmic hide-and-seek.  That "social ego" can possess such eccentric, foolish power to camouflage the other divinities that lie beneath our skin."  --Timothy Leary


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #23812005 - 11/08/16 08:28 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Thanks guys, I really appreciate the support. A few mins after I posted OP, this happened:

So I suddenly got this urge to smoke DMT...

Which kinda doesn't quite make sense right now but it makes me feel a hell of a lot more confident as to what this being alive business is all about. Love.

Accepting and loving this ego with which I have been given must therefore be a part.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23812011 - 11/08/16 08:32 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

keeping whom from what total connection?

how would you imagine a total connection is different from what is happening already?


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23812031 - 11/08/16 08:39 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

You don't feel that RGV? The distraction from the true essence in dealing with day to day life?


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 2
    #23812105 - 11/08/16 09:04 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

qualitatively yes, compared to some idealization maybe, or to some memory of a better feeling.

but I don't feel that is is an imperfection or fault of ego which is damming up the flow; some days there is hardly any of that lovely flow, while others have a completely different character.

across all days I guess it averages out, but some days are less groovy and there is not much you can do about it.

at that point I begin picking up lint or calculating taxes or something humble to go better with the lowered posture and lack of expectation.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23812132 - 11/08/16 09:19 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Sage advice my good sir, and I thank you for it.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23812149 - 11/08/16 09:27 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Each person's ego is transparent to themselves. All you have to do is look.

And if you consider that it's your ego that's being frustrated that might make more sense.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 2
    #23812944 - 11/08/16 02:12 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

this just popped up on my fb newsfeed and it seems applicable to this thread :smile:

"As the old saying goes, whatever you resist persists. As so many people have found through their own experience, resisting and rejecting the ego only sustains it. It is also true that indulging the ego sustains it. However, whatever we bring love to can transform, because authentic love is a very transformational energy. When the ability to discriminate truth from falseness aligns with the transformational energy of Redemptive Love, it becomes an extremely powerful force for awakening and transformation. So, bringing some loving compassion to the divided ego can allow it to relax out of the center of consciousness and open the way for something more whole and complete to arise. As a guiding principle, when in doubt Love."

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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: deff]
    #23813102 - 11/08/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

what does it mean?


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23813160 - 11/08/16 03:29 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

hmm.. I thought he did a pretty good job of it... simply that making an enemy of the ego will also feed the divisive effect it has on the mind. and that loving it/ourself will release this and allow for positive transformation. it is an experiential truth rather than one based so much on logic I think :smile:


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: deff] * 1
    #23813352 - 11/08/16 04:52 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

What do you want out of these connections? Is it unconditional? I mean, do you want to give without expecting anything in return, or do you want to take more than you give?

That turns people off, they feel it, they feel the wanting, the hunger.

Best bet is to create a lightness of happiness in your life through good, sturdy, determined attempts at understanding your needs and wants and the nature of the situation of life.

Start by not being hard on yourself. The pain is trying to teach you this, it's trying to teach you to regulate.

Then when you have abundance, excess, of joy in your life, then you can approach people unconditionally and create very interesting connections.

No one wants a relationship or connection with conditions. Boring.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: deff] * 1
    #23814423 - 11/08/16 10:24 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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What do you want out of these connections? Is it unconditional? I mean, do you want to give without expecting anything in return, or do you want to take more than you give?



It's not necessarily in relation to people (although it can be found through others IME), and it's nothing to do with taking or giving. I had a full on religious experience a few months ago, and felt like I practically stared at the face of 'god' (although it just looked like a sphere to me).

I could barely talk cause of crying and snot for a good 3-4 hours after that experience, cause I felt a feeling more powerful than any I have ever felt in my whole life - an absolute longing to reconnect with whatever that energy/force is. It literally brought me to my knees.

And it just kinda clicked for me earlier today that the only thing keeping from that connection is my ego. I made this thread in a frustrated moment but I believe what deff quoted to be the case absolutely:

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deff said:
"As the old saying goes, whatever you resist persists. As so many people have found through their own experience, resisting and rejecting the ego only sustains it. It is also true that indulging the ego sustains it. However, whatever we bring love to can transform, because authentic love is a very transformational energy. When the ability to discriminate truth from falseness aligns with the transformational energy of Redemptive Love, it becomes an extremely powerful force for awakening and transformation. So, bringing some loving compassion to the divided ego can allow it to relax out of the center of consciousness and open the way for something more whole and complete to arise. As a guiding principle, when in doubt Love."



(Thanks for that deff)

It's a work in progress. As a wise friend told me once, 'it's impossible to love everything about someone' - and I feel that is the case with ourselves also.

As much as I have learned to love myself over the past year, there's still this 'ego' thing there that is the root of my separation with 'the whole'. When I manage to quiet it, to bring it right in, then I feel a connection with life so strong it always brings tears to my eyes, happens quite often (weeklyish) these days, and it's a feeling so sublime if there were an easy path to it I feel it would bring peace to every member of our species.

I guess the ego waxes and wanes in its presence, and like anything, work is needed to achieve a joyful balance with it. I guess getting pissed off with aspects of our own or others characters is normal and unavoidable for the most part, but perhaps there is a way to free ourselves from all ill will. I'm certainly trying to find out if that's possible in my time here.

Thanks so much to everyone who chipped in on this thread, lots of love to you all.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23814592 - 11/08/16 11:18 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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. I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection
HOW THE FUCK DO YOU DEAL WITH THAT??????




of  course as a meditator you already know that that is only a thought arising as the result of previous conditioning and that 'you' will soon be preoccupied with another concern .... and another ... and ...


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog]
    #23814598 - 11/08/16 11:20 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

LOL, yes. But somehow is the ego not more tangible than a single thought?


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23814634 - 11/08/16 11:33 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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LOL, yes. But somehow is the ego not more tangible than a single thought?





ego ... tangible?

is it squishy? rough like sandpaper? wet? dry? hot? cold? ...


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog]
    #23814646 - 11/08/16 11:38 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Yeah, wrong word there. But it seems to me so much stronger than a single thought, which is relatively easy to observe and let go.

The ego by comparison seems to govern so many actions and responses. More like a rulebook that has to be re-written time after time.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23814813 - 11/09/16 12:48 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Everything I touch turns to ego. There comes a point when everything stops working and all you can do is go back to your breath, that's when lasting transformation begins.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23815043 - 11/09/16 03:26 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Yeah, wrong word there. But it seems to me so much stronger than a single thought, which is relatively easy to observe and let go.

The ego by comparison seems to govern so many actions and responses. More like a rulebook that has to be re-written time after time.




a thought arises because of your conditioning and some stimulus or cue arising in the brain (could be sensation from environment in the brain or a memory),

ego is the totality of all thoughts that would be expressed, i.e. all memory, i.e. it is the terrain of all your conditioning, i.e. it is all of thought, inclination, etc.

It gets highlighted because we observe thought and behavior that is not helpful, and we can rightly say, ego is responsible, though ego or memory or conditioning is responsible for everything.

SO we get into meditation to add the relaxing and contemplative edge, to build a PAUSE into our overall aggregate response body (ego) and to sit with ourselves as we moderate the unsuitable attitudes and engage more suitable ones.

the ego is reworkable this way. it is not escaped it is lived with and cultivated as a garden would be by a gardener.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Middleman]
    #23815049 - 11/09/16 03:30 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Oh I see.

Sounds very powerful.

Out of body experience may be something to investigate if you're into the really harrowing stuff. Scary too though, because reality is strange and may be too strange for ANY model.

Doesn't get a whole lot more interesting than the dimensions of the afterlife. It's similar to non-breakthrough DMT.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23816121 - 11/09/16 12:35 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Yeah, wrong word there. But it seems to me so much stronger than a single thought, which is relatively easy to observe and let go.

The ego by comparison seems to govern so many actions and responses. More like a rulebook that has to be re-written time after time.




Ego can be considered the totality of selfish thought. It could also be considered the tendency towards such thoughts. I've had spiritual experiences and have viewed ego in the same light you are now... but as time has gone by the affinity for seeing the ego as a tangible thing has faded. I just see it as me being more than that blissful state. Emotions, instincts, etc. don't always lead to pleasurable experiences but still necessary for having an experience. Sure, not being human would be better but this is what we've got to work with. In that light, it seems better to not take a strong position on whether I like or don't like my ego, or to say that "it" is responsible for my supposed failures. It's all me. This does suggest taking a position of reduced expectations, but at the same time as I alluded to in my previous response taking the ego at face value (the source of frustration) isn't the best plan. Better to be curious about the ego and explore what is possible while at the same time being able to see past my own thoughts to something more central to my being. I'm sure you know what I mean in that regard. There may be a waning and waxing but it's always there if I care to look. As far as the ego, perhaps you can get to a point where you respect what it's doing. Ego is a problem (if it's considered a problem) when a person's standard mode is asshole/cold/flippant, etc. but if you're just a bit self centered it's not such a bad thing. Find a balance between spiritual and material pleasure, between self and other, between frustrated and content, ambitious and content. All these thoughts and feelings that pass before our eyes need some balance for us to use them well and form reasonable expectations we can be happy with.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Rahz]
    #23816206 - 11/09/16 01:11 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

ego is not just selfish mental activity, it really is all the mental activity.

It gets a bad rap because it operates like a machine, reflexively, and many expressions of it might be other than beautiful. Certainly not what you would do if you could think it through in advance.

Well since you can't think it through in advance, you need to plant new routines and practice them - growing your ego into the directions you want it to act.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines] * 1
    #23816235 - 11/09/16 01:23 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

I agree with RGV.  And I would say we can, on those rare occasions, seem to transcend the ego for fleeting moments.  But we sure feel like ourselves most of the time!  For every human, and possibly for many animals, this constellation is totally necessary.  Earth could in no way be negotiated without ego.  So it is best to make peace with this and find some sort of balance.  Fragmentation based upon an incongruous mindset is really what the problem is here.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: DividedQuantum]
    #23816253 - 11/09/16 01:33 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

it's more like gardening than video game play,
but actually it is very much like gardening a video game player.

ego can be a bitch but I would not want to play without him.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23816286 - 11/09/16 01:45 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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ego is not just selfish mental activity, it really is all the mental activity.




I tend to agree (as I made sure to address further into my post), but it's the perception that I was addressing. Note that I used the term "can be considered".

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Well since you can't think it through in advance, you need to plant new routines and practice them - growing your ego into the directions you want it to act.




I'm not sure where this is coming from. I addressed this when I mentioned "Better to be curious about the ego and explore what is possible".

Perhaps we have a misunderstanding?


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Rahz]
    #23816310 - 11/09/16 01:54 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

The whole ego thing seems redundant and ironic. We tend to operate a lot on assumption as a species, denying sober physical observation without evaluation, or concern. It's a cluster fuck because there are actually no rules to what can happen, should or shouldn't happen behind the surface of what is said or done.

There's some sort of fake cloud of thought controlling everyone.

We summarise each other and restrict ourselves so much for no real apparent reason...I don't get it.

Everyone tries to adhere to and fight over a single way of motion. When the flow is in fact totally free.

The ego doesn't exist if you don't give a fuck about what other people think (hopefully with good intention - i.e not physically or mentally inflicting pain or deprivation).

What people think and who you are as a person, and what you have done, or could do are all separate.

We don't trust each other, we don't trust ourselves.

You cultivate and develop yourself on your own terms. There's no reason to feel bad about this.

What you put out into the world does not define you as a person in any case, or it shouldn't at least, I believe.

But that's the beauty of it. An ordinary person can shape something extraordinary. And competition is also an illusion. There will always be a way in which we would be able to sustain ourselves, and maintain personal freedom and self-esteem.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23816388 - 11/09/16 02:26 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Yeah, wrong word there. But it (ego) seems to me so much stronger than a single thought, which is relatively easy to observe and let go.






Seems
A. J. Muste said: "There is no way to peace, peace is the way." long ago

and it got expanded into a poem by Thich Nhat Hanh - a vietnamese zen buddhist teacher:

“There is no way to happiness,
happiness is the way.

You should be happy right in the here and now.
There is no way to enlightenment.
Enlightenment should be right here and right now.
The moment when you come back to yourself, mind and body together,
fully present, fully alive, that is already enlightenment.
You are no longer a sleepwalker.”

Seems a good principle and perhaps one could substitute many words for ‘happiness’ or ‘peace’, like for instance ‘patience’ or … , and it could be helpful.

If I was to rewrite the poem I wouldn’t use the word “should” - just: “There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.”

In principle it is similar to recognizing reification. We turn verbs into nouns frequently, with unintended consequences. So if we change:
“How do I lose my ego, or how do I overcome my ego” sort of thing, to: “How can I act less egotistically?” it becomes solvable.

Also Similar to Glasser’s “reality therapy” where one might change: “why am I depressed?” or: “I am depressed.” or “ I am a depressed person” to: “How am I depressing?”

It seems surprising how something so simple might be so potentially liberating.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog]
    #23816457 - 11/09/16 02:45 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog]
    #23816469 - 11/09/16 02:48 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

" I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection"

what I get from: "there is no way to patience, patience is the way"
in this case, is something like:

it seems frustration is precisely wanting to be in the future where a 'problem' is already solved, rather than realizing the so called obstacles provide the opportunity, to realize the attitude of hurrying and resisting is actually what is causing the frustration.

probably many wouldn't want to consider this, and so,

"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way", might be a gentler introduction to the principle.

Then again many purposely use resistance in the form of weights to develop strength, and strangely seem to enjoy it.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog]
    #23816535 - 11/09/16 03:09 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

I kind of hover at unsatisfactoriness is the norm, and find my way around anyway.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: laughingdog] * 1
    #23816592 - 11/09/16 03:32 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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laughingdog said:
it seems frustration is precisely wanting to be in the future where a 'problem' is already solved, rather than realizing the so called obstacles provide the opportunity, to realize the attitude of hurrying and resisting is actually what is causing the frustration.

probably many wouldn't want to consider this, and so,

"There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way", might be a gentler introduction to the principle.

Then again many purposely use resistance in the form of weights to develop strength, and strangely seem to enjoy it.




Agreed, best to find some enjoyment in the "work" involved or at the least ambivalence. I try not to color too much the struggles involved with being alive.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Rahz]
    #23820688 - 11/10/16 06:42 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Like a man running around trying to find rest.  Just Stop It.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: The Blind Ass]
    #23821552 - 11/10/16 11:43 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

From Wikipedia,

"Satori (悟り?) (Chinese: 悟; pinyin: wù; Korean 오) is a Japanese Buddhist term for enlightenment that literally means "understanding". In the Zen Buddhist tradition, satori refers to a flash of sudden awareness, or individual enlightenment, and is considered a "first step" or embarkation toward nirvana."


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23821624 - 11/11/16 12:16 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Solid all around commentary you should reflect on OP.
Also, be careful of chasing that last step.
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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: phio]
    #23823727 - 11/11/16 05:50 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Solid all around commentary you should reflect on OP.
Also, be careful of chasing that last step.
:nicesmile:




Death Anxiety?

Enjoy the show, phio.  Strange Days,

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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: LunarEclipse]
    #23824039 - 11/11/16 08:12 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Quote:

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Quote:

phio said:
Solid all around commentary you should reflect on OP.
Also, be careful of chasing that last step.
:nicesmile:




Death Anxiety?

Enjoy the show, phio.  Strange Days,

Indeed.




Thread topic : I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection

There's seemingly a last step and the OP seems in hot pursuit of it.
He should necessarily be careful should he not?
Anxiety or Respect?
Anxiety is seemingly something that is present when you are unaware of something.
Respect is seemingly something that forms once you are made aware of that something's nature.

The strange days were postponed for a bit....
Just a little more commentary to tide you over.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23838651 - 11/16/16 12:10 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

You might not want to get through this book, but a clearly Western way to look at our predicament than absorption in an Eastern metaphor is to read Martin Buber's classic book I and Thou. His position is informed by a Jewish philosophical existentialism which does not seek to annihilate the dualistic poles which you disdain as ego, but looks at understanding certain basic types of relationship (like I and It vs. I and Thou). Similar to the philosopher Hegel's dialectic, where there is Thesis -> Antithesis -> Synthesis, in human relationships, regarding another as an It, or being so regarded by others as an It, as some-thing to be used like an object, THAT is the source of our problems, not merely being an I. As Wikipedia puts it:  "In Buber's view, all of our relationships bring us ultimately into relationship with God, who is the Eternal Thou."

The Synthesis is love wherein our boundaries do thin to the degree of full union with another. And from an Eastern perspective, we can connect chakra-to-chakra, like a zipper. Ideally, we should connect from head to toe (or loins), not the other way around. Many people mis-connect like a broken zipper which separates at points. Connecting with sex first and moving up the chakra ladder usually does not result in the satisfactory union that we crave. If we begin connecting intellectually with verbal communications, that enjoins the Head Centers and Throat Centers. That connection may open our Heart Center. Once the Heart Center is open and we experience another (Thou) in their uniqueness to open our Heart, that leads to the need for exclusivity, a restriction of social processes to us alone. This IS a power motive, but it is employed in the service of love. Therefore the Navel Center is opened and we come to feel that each of two beings 'belongs' solely to one another. Only then is a union at the Root Center (sexual union) really kosher. One has 'incarnated' the intellectual, spiritual, and social intercourse into sexual (physical) intercourse to complete the union. I am speaking about a sacred relationship of connection from top to bottom, not some profane hook-up. As Buber says, union with a Thou brings us into relationship with the Eternal Thou. This is the premise of Tantric Yoga [Union] in the East, and truly Holy Matrimony in the West. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_and_Thou



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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: MarkostheGnostic]
    #23838841 - 11/16/16 01:34 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

I loved reading that book back in '72, but I forget everything - a buddhist monk highly recommended it to me and to others.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23839227 - 11/16/16 03:41 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Surrender your ego to the Spirit. It's the only way.

Ego never conquers Spirit. Spirit never submits. Spirit is the unstoppable force and immovable object. Your ego just thinks it is.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23842089 - 11/17/16 02:59 PM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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I loved reading that book back in '72, but I forget everything - a buddhist monk highly recommended it to me and to others.




Thanks for the back up on this book. It is certainly worth rereading.


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: MarkostheGnostic]
    #23847890 - 11/19/16 09:38 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

Let it go, its not what you are, you are not your story, everything is a part of you, a part of your consciousness..
Reading eckhart tolle helps


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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: morpheus85]
    #23847916 - 11/19/16 09:48 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Let it go, its not what you are, you are not your story, everything is a part of you, a part of your consciousness..
Reading eckhart tolle helps




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Re: I'm so fucking frustrated that my ego is the only thing keeping me from true and total connection [Re: morpheus85]
    #23847978 - 11/19/16 10:07 AM (7 years, 2 months ago)

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Let it go, its not what you are, you are not your story, everything is a part of you, a part of your consciousness..
Reading eckhart tolle helps



I think you mean that
although your story is yours
you are not your story
but it is a part of you
as is everything else in the now
and what is not in the now
is in your story too
which is part of you too.


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