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Anonymous #1
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Is it ok to date my sisters friend ?
#23808631 - 11/07/16 05:30 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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So ive been talking to one of my sisters friends lately and i really like her. I have the strong suspicion that she likes me aswell and plan on asking her out for a date.
Do you guys think this will be a problem ? Will it make things awkward between me and my sister ?
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automan
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#23808722 - 11/07/16 06:43 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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You and your sister aren't close enough to talk to her about it?
-------------------- No, no, you're not thinking, you're just being logical. ~ Niels Bohr
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: automan]
#23808733 - 11/07/16 06:48 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I guess thats what im gonna do
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sudly
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23809968 - 11/07/16 03:01 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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As long as everyone knows about it yeah.
If your sister has a problem with it that's her problem but you should still talk to her about it and inform her of your interests.
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#23810021 - 11/07/16 03:25 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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It is crucial your sister's friend knows you are dating her.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: vandago]
#23810193 - 11/07/16 04:35 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I'm guessing your a younger guy. Me at 29 I'd just talk to my sister if that were the case. Think before you do anything!
It would suck if she broke your heart and you had to see her whenever she came around your sister. Also possible tension on the relationship between your sister and her.
Follow your heart if you must but if she's just hot and you want to bone her I'd say pass.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: 2shoes] 2
#23810521 - 11/07/16 06:15 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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2shoes said: if she's just hot and you want to bone her I'd say pass.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#23817964 - 11/09/16 11:33 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I boned 2 of my sister's best friends and everything is still fine. I don't talk to them, but she still does from time to time. There was no problem from my end as they were down for boning their friend's brother too
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23818423 - 11/10/16 06:03 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Don't do it. You will destroy your self image to your family. The people you live with day in and out have a jaded veiw point because family feelings only allow then to see the good you do and not as a sexual monster. If you date your sisters freind then all they will take about when you come over is how you act as a dating man. If you forget her birthday, you hit her, you knock her up, have weird fetches, then your family all knows about it. Keeping different secret lifes is important if you ever want to find peace while around of people
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23819486 - 11/10/16 11:48 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Don't do it. You will destroy your self image to your family. The people you live with day in and out have a jaded veiw point because family feelings only allow then to see the good you do and not as a sexual monster. If you date your sisters freind then all they will take about when you come over is how you act as a dating man. If you forget her birthday, you hit her, you knock her up, have weird fetches, then your family all knows about it. Keeping different secret lifes is important if you ever want to find peace while around of people
wtf man? Is that what it means to you to 'date' someone? Being a sexual monster? You really gotta reevaluate some stuff, or you're just trolling. 
First off, feeling a little hot for someone and being interested in dating them are not the same as being a 'sexual monster'. Acting like a different person just because you're on a date is also whack, stressful and unnecessary. Leading 'secret lives' in order to be peaceful around others is only necessary for secret agents and serial killers.
Lao Tzu has a line about this which I will paraphrase because I don't feel like thumbing through my books to find it: "how strong is the man who wears the same face in public as he does in private!"
Anon#1 this is a really simple situation, but after reading these posts I agree, it all comes down to your intentions. If you just want to get laid, go to some parties or a club, sign up for tindr, don't sleep with your sister's friends. But if you really like her and think you might have a connection there, then talk to your sister about it and let her know how you're feeling about her friend. After that conversation, whatever you do will be more correct because the matter will be clear to all who are concerned.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Chakra Shock]
#23821714 - 11/11/16 01:23 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Damn this whole thing turned into a mess.
As it turns out her roommate isnt just her roommate but her boyfriend (my sister didnt know about this either).
Problem with this is that she told it to me AFTER agreeing to a date (and yes i made it 100% clear that i wanted a relationship).
Originally i was interested in her because i thought she was trustworthy and loyal but i guess i was wrong.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23821726 - 11/11/16 01:41 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Follow your gut that's a strong sign that she doesn't have the qualities you seek.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: pineninja]
#23821744 - 11/11/16 02:03 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Make the deal do it or not.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #2] 1
#23821885 - 11/11/16 04:22 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah fuck that OP, there's too much bullshit in this world to deal with as it is, without inviting a situation into your life that you know will guarantee more.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23821895 - 11/11/16 04:32 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yea this is not worth pursuing further. I cant trust her anymore
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#23821932 - 11/11/16 05:00 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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At least it didn't go any further than this. Better fish in the sea. You'll find one when you least expect it.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23825293 - 11/12/16 09:07 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Damn this whole thing turned into a mess.
As it turns out her roommate isnt just her roommate but her boyfriend (my sister didnt know about this either).
Problem with this is that she told it to me AFTER agreeing to a date (and yes i made it 100% clear that i wanted a relationship).
Originally i was interested in her because i thought she was trustworthy and loyal but i guess i was wrong.
Maybe she was interested initially, and you came off as a creep and she used the old my room mate is my bf, to steer you away because she began having second thoughts. Sound like she didn't have a good time on the date or you came on too strong...it would explain why she accepted the date and why your sister didn't know about her bf.
Edited by Anonymous (11/12/16 09:08 AM)
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#23825578 - 11/12/16 10:58 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's reaching a bit. She probably just lives with a boyfriend like she said and was trying to play two dudes at once.
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: 2shoes] 1
#23826118 - 11/12/16 02:51 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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2shoes said: You'll find one when you least expect it.
This has been told to me 4x by 4 different people in the last week. I'm going half mad refraining from finding women and/or sex. It's been 10 months now, and it's the hardest thing I've ever done. But I know in my heart and soul that it is true. Stay strong, focus on me, and I know the person who will walk through the next stage of my life will come - but ONLY when I least expect it.
I still have not yet mastered how to not expect her to turn up everywhere I go. I will eventually, cause I don't give in easily.
What 2shoes says is spot on IMO.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: Is it ok to date my sisters friend ? [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 2
#23826200 - 11/12/16 03:21 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Trying to impress a lady I feel is like putting up a fake front and that lady only knows your front not the true you. Being the true you is who you are so why deceive her into thinking your someone your truely not. I feel this is a major issues in new/recently established relationships.
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