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Repertoire89
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The Mycologist said: I live with my girlfriend now and its like we are married. I don't really like the institution of marriage it just seems weird to me.
"Let's get the government in on our relationship so I know you wont ever leave me."
I can see myself getting married when I have money for a nice ceremony and a super fun honeymoon, but just for the paperwork has no appeal to me.
OP do you guys live together?, cuz you might wanna try that first.
There are a variety of reasons to make it official with the gov, like hospital visitation rights.
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The Mycologist
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True and insurance premiums but that should really not have any weight in a marriage decision.
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Personally I dislike the idea of getting married. Typically if your marriage ends in divorce (which most do) the woman will get a nice chunk of everything you have, and can seriously damage your life. But this is my fairly jaded opinion based on the women I've dated
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Anonymous said: If you feel you need to do that. Your not ready for marriage.
^^^this. Don't cheat man.
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I am trying to put all those thoughts from the first post behind me but... My girlfriend is NEVER horny!! I am seriously going insane. Her sex drive is so low, its literally the last thing on her mind. Whereas, here I am, literally dying to blow a load. Trying to so hard to abstain from porn but how am I supposed to do that when Im stuck!!
She thinks all I care about is sex but I feel like she doesn't care at all! When she does want it, god shes amazing, probably the best. But thats like 2 times a month at the most.
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azur
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Maybe you don't turn her on....
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Re: Marrying young [Re: azur]
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That's how I feel sometimes... But she has always been this way, for as long as we have been together. And im not the one who went after her, she came after me and wanted me to be with her.
It's just discouraging, she doesn't even let me try to turn her on cause she's so out of the mood. I know how to turn her on, what will get her going, but she just resists so I stop.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Marrying young [Re: azur]
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Or maybe you're just not compatible, and you're just keeping each other from finding people you would be much happier with by staying together for... the sake of staying together?
IMO, you gotta sample a good few different types of relationship with different kinds of people for you to be able to hone in on what's really important to you. I feel like lots of people stay together just because.. maybe fear of being alone.. and then find out they just can't hack it years later and hurt more people more badly in the process of separating cause they tried to string something that wasn't working along. It seems a common theme these days.
Break the mold man. Go wild. Do what you gotta do. You owe nothing to anyone other than love for 1. yourself, and 2. anyone else.
And believe you me, life has taught me this the hard way; loving someone is in no way related to staying with them if you're, or they're, unhappy doing so. That's the opposite of love.
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Repertoire89
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Anonymous said: I am trying to put all those thoughts from the first post behind me but... My girlfriend is NEVER horny!! I am seriously going insane. Her sex drive is so low, its literally the last thing on her mind. Whereas, here I am, literally dying to blow a load. Trying to so hard to abstain from porn but how am I supposed to do that when Im stuck!!
She thinks all I care about is sex but I feel like she doesn't care at all! When she does want it, god shes amazing, probably the best. But thats like 2 times a month at the most.

Dump her.
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Unfortunately, I got married in the age of 21. I do not regret the woman I chose (I'm really lucky) but the actual "marriage" thing, looking back, we both think it was stupid and we did it because we thought we "need too".
I say live together, drop the official stuff, if you guys love each other, you won't break the package, and if you will, nothing happens.
Reading now you guys barely have sex.. DON'T GET MARRIED.
But that's just me.
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Chakra Shock
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Maybe she's testing you? I think JSB and Repetoir are right though, seems like the two of you really aren't as compatible as you thought. Definitely wait on the marriage since sex is a topic that you kind of have to tip toe around with her.
An alternative route is that you could just masturbate without porn, I mean fantasies are usually enough for me, and that's nothing like internet porn, psychologically speaking.
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find a chick that likes sex as much as you do op. don't waste your time in a sexless relationship. you're a man and have biological needs. my 2 cents
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wtfcrazymofo
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Anonymous said: That's how I feel sometimes... But she has always been this way, for as long as we have been together. And im not the one who went after her, she came after me and wanted me to be with her.
It's just discouraging, she doesn't even let me try to turn her on cause she's so out of the mood. I know how to turn her on, what will get her going, but she just resists so I stop.
BDSM is the cure for this. Tie her up don't give her any for an hour she will love it.
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Jokeshopbeard
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wtfcrazymofo said: BDSM is the cure for this. Tie her up don't give her any for an hour she will love it.
LOL, how you gonna get a girl to commit to that if she aint in the mood, just tie her up anyway?? Why not just bypass the BDSM and go straight in for a bit of rape, it'd save you the bother of finding rope and making sure the knots are secure.
I think you may have missed a step in your reasoning there man.
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wtfcrazymofo
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Jokeshopbeard said:
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wtfcrazymofo said: BDSM is the cure for this. Tie her up don't give her any for an hour she will love it.
LOL, how you gonna get a girl to commit to that if she aint in the mood, just tie her up anyway?? 
I think you may have missed a step in your reasoning there man.
Yeah your right... really the best option is to not splooge for about 1 month so you can get super powers.
OP you think jacken might make her not want you? I do.
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I married young, to the only woman I have ever slept with, I have no desire to ever sleep with another woman, sure I find other woman sexy and such, but sex isnt a purely physical thing, there is a lot of mental play at work.
Don't get married if you are just going to fuck someone else the day before.
Unless she's cool with it, if she's cool with it do whatever man.
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