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Moonlightblue



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Don't know but o well about this girl
#23793361 - 11/01/16 11:02 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I met this girl from a yard sale my mom was having. Right away we hit it off. After talking to her for a while I got a vibe that she wansnt all there. But shes reasonable and we've had long interesting talks (maybe I'm not all there too?)lol. She's been around for a year now, and we've finally had sex.
I don't know where I'm going with this post.. But should I finally try to settle with her? She's great, curious and funny (which I love in a girl). I can't help to think about her and maybe help her change.. if she can. Like I mentioned.. I feel like she's not all there sometimes.. maybe she needs a trip? Or would that send her over the edge.. I haven't mentioned I do phycs to her.
She mentioned she's againts drugs. Maybe she used to do drugs I've never asked her about her past like that.
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Edited by Moonlightblue (11/01/16 11:27 PM)
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littleton
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: Moonlightblue]
#23793405 - 11/01/16 11:23 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Honestly, Some women will try and be friends with everything you are. Even though they are nothing that you are. If you two can maintain a positive relationship and attitude 24/7 that good right?
Try to find weird or odd subjects to talk about and see how that goes. If it makes sense, don't try and pick the obvious side of the subject, But pick something weird odd or bad to talk about. You could tell a girl is just trying to be what you want if she starts to seem a bit lost on these subjects.
Does that make any sense?
Its odd that a girl seems so clueless sometimes, It might be because she doesn't know what to say, that you would like? If a girl is trying to be what you like and: IS NOT, what you like, she is NOT the one. That is a problems with lots of girls, They find guys to try and impress by acting similar and dumb or "cool" when they are really not that person and are hiding who the really are. Which some girls are good at that and can lie to men their whole lives without knowing. Had a neighbor who was married to a man like 30+ years and she tried cheating on the guy with me. Turns out the lady likes nothing about the man and was only using him.
Be careful, Be over patient, Be overly extent. Be very fucking aware.
Best of hopes ~bunny
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: littleton]
#23793412 - 11/01/16 11:26 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Like is she curious about the right things? How will she react in a situation that's non-implementable. (there wasn't any reason)
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Moonlightblue



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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: littleton]
#23793455 - 11/01/16 11:48 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey bunny, Ur response was totally what I didn't expect, but I wanted to hear in other words besides mine.
Makes sense.
I can say any random thing that would make her burst out a more positive response in a mil second.. That's wheres I'm at right now.. Does she think before she talk? I like her responses, but some not 100%.
But there's more to say a about her..
Maybe you can pick my brain more
Also I'm not judging her, I'd like to know more about out woman.
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: Moonlightblue]
#23793481 - 11/02/16 12:11 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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This is non judge-mental. And If she is a good girl, she could understand the obsession, for trying to get to know more about her. See how much of a woman she is, Maybe by seeing what limits she has. Make sure she is not lying to you. Talk about personal things, God, politics, Those matter can make a big difference. Like praying together? Im not sure if you two are religious or spiritual but try something along those lines. It usually should end up all is fairly well. Figure out how she will like you when you do something wrong? Like use her nice towel to clean up a spill in the bathroom. Or come off as a complete ass hole to some other person (when shes with you) Like example, somebody is smoking a cigarrete, Walk by and make a smart ass remark, could be something like what a joke, or fuckin idiot, or something NEGATIVE. Girls read you entirly off positivity. So if you do something negative like that, If she is truly smart and understanding, shell be by your side no matter how jerkish you were or how much of an ass hole you sounded like. (the guy really shouldnt be smoking that cigarette its bad for his health)
I know in my case i had a girl who got upset with me and didnt stick by my side when i would do just as the example i said above. (sorry but tough love) So obviously she didnt understand my viewpoint of love, You do something bad for you, Your going to get bad. I wont say hey nice job keep smoking that cigarette! no its going to be you stupid idiot get that trash out of your mouth, in no nice manner whats so ever (thats just my type of love)
But really focus on particular things. A girl that is trying to impress you will try and do just what you do, in her own way.
I highly advise everything from the first post.
Its important to know this girls values and goals.
Theres the good the bad and inbetween. What does this girl find good what does she find bad, and whats inbetween the two? I highly suggest doing more things with here one on one. Like start out something simple and small. A date out for dinner. Than maybe something a bit more physical or mental maybe a movie? (what did she like about the movie) Than maybe a date bowling, Than a date swimming, Than a weekend date in the mountains and have a night or two that you stay at a hotel. See how you two get along during the time, See if the way she acts out on the dates is complete 100% the same person she says she is.
Like i said if she is just trying to be the girl you like, thats okay, (morals are what matters a lot now) But if she IS the girl you like, she could probably be the one. Not that a girl that trys to be everything you like is bad, Those type of girls just tend to have moral problems and own personal issues that wont show until later on, Unless you can try and find those problems early.
When you get more serious... Take some risks. Talk about deepest darkest things. What if i were to treat my children this way? What if i did this? What if that. What if.
Edited by littleton (11/02/16 12:11 AM)
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: littleton]
#23793482 - 11/02/16 12:13 AM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Its good you can keep up a good and fun conversation. That leads to the next question though, Can you two hold and keep other happy and together through thick and thin? Will you be by her side when this. Or will she be by your side when that.
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: littleton]
#23794978 - 11/02/16 03:56 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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What I like to do more and more, is something like more doing and being, less talking, verbalizing.
Meditation, massage, drawing, music, dancing, whatever you can DO together, or just simply BE together, I think that's where it's at.
If you wish to also be talking, here try some of this out (End of second paragraph, that should be a nice convo starter right there)
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: They]
#23795362 - 11/02/16 05:55 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Also, Really do not rush anything, Or try to over force things. They will happen in the right times.
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: littleton]
#23795427 - 11/02/16 06:13 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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That's all good ideas above. One thing I do like of shroomery, is very supportive. I also like that it is anti-supportive too. Not just a bunch of nice people, nor a bunch of assholes, the balance is here.
Hope you get this figured out moonlight. As Littleton said just above, everything will happen on its own..... how do you think she feels, about long term .
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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: Moonlightblue]
#23796219 - 11/02/16 10:55 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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I want to know what you mean by "she's not all there"
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Moonlightblue



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Re: Don't know but o well about this girl [Re: Lucis]
#23798075 - 11/03/16 03:30 PM (7 years, 2 months ago) |
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Hey guys,
What I mean that she's not all there is,
She can be smart and clever, but she's still missing common sense; Intuition, patience .. she doesnt think before she talks. Although 92 percent of the time she's positive, she can still get on my nerves. Know what I mean?? I'm not a psychologist but I know something is going on with her in her head. But I'm not gonna pressure her or say anything about it to her. I accept her for who she is. I'm just thinking in the long run.
Thanks for all the support
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