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I don't even know why I'm posting this.
Because you need to attract in your life awesome energy like the kind I'm about to bring right now 
Trust the process dude, trust your intuition, we co-create awesome events and interactions together, whatever needs to come out DOES come out
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Somehow I ended up living in a new city where I didn't know a single person.
Good. Nothing like a fresh start 
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I've lived here for a year now but it has all went to shit and it's making me depressed.
Bullshit. "IT" is making you depressed? I call major bullshit on that. "IT" is not making you anything. YOU make yourself depressed, specifically by doing repetitive negative thoughts about this situation, coupled with shallow breathing or forgetting to breathe, while engaged in worry, negative repetitive thinking. YOU do it, don't blame the "IT".
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At this point I'm trying to avoid making more friends here since that will just make the moving process more difficult.
BS excuse mate, BS excuse to not mingle, interact, have fun.
Now don't take this the wrong way, I've been in your shoes as well, I've spent months and years living in a computer, just school-home-school-home, and shop for stuff when absolutely necessary. This can be done but is a total drag on your emotional well-being.
Please note for comparison, a fairly regular day in my life now.
Note that I mention a lot of people, beginning interactions, but at no point is it implied that all, or even any of them, should in fact lead anywhere. It's like going to a festival. You may bang three people there and befriend two different groups, but there's no requirement to send Christmas cards or anything. It's just spontaneous friendly interaction for the sheer joy of it. Maybe something longer develops, maybe not. Either way, the show goes on.
Suppose there's a couple of people in your city that are either traveling, there for business for some short time or whatever, and they too have been employing this logic, of not making friends because leaving soon. Well if you both do this, notice that a lot of potential good vibes and cool adventures aren't happening, because everyone is at home or in some hotel room waiting, getting bored and annoyed around the waiting, maybe making Shroomery posts about how crap the waiting is. Meanwhile they could be banging the neighbor, joining some class or other, whatever it is.
Try a few of these activities, see how they feel:
- Go to a nearby park and hang out, open-ended, no plan, for a few hours. Bring pen and paper to write or doodle, soap bubbler for spreading good vibes, colored chalk for making mandalas on asphalt, oranges or bananas for food or to share with awesome people you may meet. Do some weird shit, try some weird form of exercise. Turkish pretzel Yoga, freestyle yodeling improv, ghetto workouts with whatever stuff is out there.

Holy smokes! These guys are real! Oh dear Jesus I had no idea - Go to a mall, supermarket, home improvement place, any kind of larger store with isles and tons of space, and go there not to buy items from the shelves, but to interact with awesome people there, if there be any you vibe well with. As a meditation, just go there and observe IF any convos show up. Needless to say, don't bother people, don't pester, don't force it. Sometimes it works sometimes not, but give it a try, guaranteed less boring than home alone. - Go to library, read random stuff there or take pen and paper and draw / write there, but as with the store idea above, keep an eye out for interesting characters. Be ready to mingle and converse, if anyone fascinating shows up. Depending on where you be, library can be full of the most amazing students and youngsters, very fertile ground for sparking up interesting convos. Fill your time somehow that's social and pleasurable, also get some kind of friends with benefits, massage friend, find someone to cook and eat your meals with while there, while being totally open about your intention to move soon. Even after you move, never hurts to have a nice fwb someplace that you can visit over the weekend, it breaks the routine and monotony
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