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GeorgieBoy
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23777745 - 10/27/16 06:13 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jokeshopbeard said: You started fucking her even after she revealed she was in a four year relationship?
I stopped reading after that. I think you're a fucking scumbag for doing that, I cannot fathom why you would pull such a cuntish move, given you had prior knowledge. I have zero sympathy for men that cannot control themselves for the sake of a fuck when there's millions of other single women out there. And FWIW, I've had several women in that situation come on to me, one of whom was the hottest girl that has ever come on to me, but at least I kept my conscience clear, as hard as it was when I had a solid 9.5 begging to suck my dick.
How the fuck would you feel if you were in his shoes? I think you deserve whatever comes your way.
I decided to go a route im not proud of. You're right I am a scumbag for doing this and can only learn from my actions. I deserve it and can only hope that the baby is the boyfriends.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23777754 - 10/27/16 06:16 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: dude trust me I am going to make a point of finding out. She is a kind person so I think it could happen...
If she is willing to do a paternity test in secrecy for your sake, you should probably know that you can get paternity tests done while the baby is still inside the womb. Neonatal paternity tests. They cost about $1,000.
In fact, it might be good option for her to get this done ASAP. I know for me personally, if I was in her situation, finding out who the father is would dramatically affect whether I have an abortion or keep the baby.
Like I said though, it's very likely the baby is not yours though. So cheer up.
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Boomer The Great said: Or you could have been a stand up guy and not fucked around with another mans girl.
Don't put pussy on a pedestal man, should of moved on.
some pussy shit imo. there's so many girls out there why would you want to go chase after another guy's. karma
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G]
#23777772 - 10/27/16 06:21 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: dude trust me I am going to make a point of finding out. She is a kind person so I think it could happen...
If she is willing to do a paternity test in secrecy for your sake, you should probably know that you can get paternity tests done while the baby is still inside the womb. Neonatal paternity tests. They cost about $1,000.
In fact, it might be good option for her to get this done ASAP. I know for me personally, if I was in her situation, finding out who the father is would dramatically affect whether I have an abortion or keep the baby.
Like I said though, it's very likely the baby is not yours though. So cheer up.
I've looked into pre-natal testing and I just dont think it will work out. She is without a doubt keeping the baby. Thoughts of uncertainty is all that she will know for 9 months. When that baby arrives she will have the option of finding out.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23777779 - 10/27/16 06:23 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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You absolutely should find out paternity dude. If it's your kid, she's got no legal right to keep you from your child. You may have to fight for it, but I think you should find out.
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GeorgieBoy
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Boomer The Great said: Or you could have been a stand up guy and not fucked around with another mans girl.
Don't put pussy on a pedestal man, should of moved on.
some pussy shit imo. there's so many girls out there why would you want to go chase after another guy's. karma
I completely agree man. I kept trying to back off and she would want to hang out even more. I wanted her too so I just ignored the fact.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23777793 - 10/27/16 06:25 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: You absolutely should find out paternity dude. If it's your kid, she's got no legal right to keep you from your child. You may have to fight for it, but I think you should find out.
I will try. I have put my own philosophy into question while doing this. I have to rebuild my life now.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 2
#23777815 - 10/27/16 06:31 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: I decided to go a route im not proud of. You're right I am a scumbag for doing this and can only learn from my actions. I deserve it and can only hope that the baby is the boyfriends.
I applaud you for recognising this. We do all make mistakes, after all, and your admittance of your mistake is admirable, provided you commit to not making the same mistake ever again. Cause a lot of people are gonna get hurt here.
I don't know if you've ever been in a long term committed relationship, but in future please try and put yourself in the shoes of the poor bastard you are going to cause HUGE amounts of emotional suffering to, because of your actions.
Life has a way of punishing such acts IME, so you'll likely suffer badly for such a heinous act in due course, but it will be worth it if you use the momentum that suffering can provide to pay your dues and make up for this in any way you can.
Good luck.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23777836 - 10/27/16 06:39 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: I decided to go a route im not proud of. You're right I am a scumbag for doing this and can only learn from my actions. I deserve it and can only hope that the baby is the boyfriends.
I applaud you for recognising this. We do all make mistakes, after all, and your admittance of your mistake is admirable, provided you commit to not making the same mistake ever again. Cause a lot of people are gonna get hurt here.
I don't know if you've ever been in a long term committed relationship, but in future please try and put yourself in the shoes of the poor bastard you are going to cause HUGE amounts of emotional suffering to, because of your actions.
Life has a way of punishing such acts IME, so you'll likely suffer badly for such a heinous act in due course, but it will be worth it if you use the momentum that suffering can provide to pay your dues and make up for this in any way you can.
Good luck.
I will NEVER AGAIN sleep with another mans woman. I have always gotten the short end of the stick when it comes to women. I weighed 270 pounds all throughout high school and until I was 20 years old. I lost 100 pounds within 6 months and became a different person. I really only have 5 years of experience with dating and sex in general. I decided to try something different. I strayed away from my romantic ideals and it came back to ruin me. I have learned all too well to stay away from taken women.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 1
#23778298 - 10/27/16 08:34 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: I strayed away from my romantic ideals and it came back to ruin me.
I hear ya man, I have suffered through a very hard lesson in that also. After my wife left (it's a very long and sad story, full of suicide attempts, alcoholism, abuse, etc - she had the most beautiful soul, but she was so damaged) I went a bit fucking nuts and strayed from my romantic ideals. Played the polyamorous game for a while, which is nice because it allows for multiple partners and total honesty, and the arrangement provided more sex than I could shake a stick at, with one partner it was actually, physically alone, the best I've ever had.
But there was no real connection. I've had connection is sex that I can only alike to the most perfect state of union between yourself, your partner, and 'god'. Never knew such a thing was possible. I tried to fill the whole that left in me with quantity, without working on the emotional bonding that brings the quality. All it did, really, was leave me feeling hollow afterwards. Like I was just betraying myself. So I broke it all off months later and have been celibate for 10 months now - the longest I've gone without for 14+ years - as I feel life has made it absolutely apparent that breaking my romantic ideals for sex does more harm than good. And I also know that the kind of person that will fulfill them again will only come into my life if I'm NOT looking for them.
It's so fucking hard. I'm a really sexual person and I feel like 'life' has taken one of the things I love most about being alive away from me. I can feel an angry child stomping around inside me when I think about it, petulant and annoyed because his father has refused to let him have it for now. Plus I'm scared. Because I dunno when that person might again come into my life - it could be 10 years or 10 months.
I've total faith they'll come when the time is right though, the more I've worked at connection with myself and life the more I've noticed that the right kind of people, who will help guide your life the right way, will just appear. It's come to the point the last few months that people have started to just approach me - I end up in deep conversations with strangers more and more frequently as I work on healing my wounds, opening myself up, and over and above everything else, showing love and compassion to myself and others. I'm far from the only person I've known this to happen to - my therapist, amongst other people I've met, know of this phenomenon, and it's the most life changing thing I've known by far in my 32 years here.
What it seems to all stem from; the healing and the huge benefits that follow, is learning how to really love myself. And that means, as fucking hard and painful as it is when I feel such a strong pull to just cave in, not breaking my ideals.
You seem like a good guy man so I hope this turns out as best as possible, for you and all involved. But please take a little of what I've said here and mull it over. It's a clusterfuck alright, but you have to learn what you're not, before you can learn what you are, and you can use the force of emotion you must be feeling right now to push towards changing your future actions to find out who you are deep down. I think it's pretty likely you'll find a good person in there, but it's hard work to shed the fucking layers of hurt.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 1
#23778304 - 10/27/16 08:36 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Long Story. Bare with me..
it doesnt have to be, you could have just said "fucked girl, now she's all knocked up"
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Prisoner#1]
#23778425 - 10/27/16 09:08 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: I strayed away from my romantic ideals and it came back to ruin me.
I hear ya man, I have suffered through a very hard lesson in that also. After my wife left (it's a very long and sad story, full of suicide attempts, alcoholism, abuse, etc - she had the most beautiful soul, but she was so damaged) I went a bit fucking nuts and strayed from my romantic ideals. Played the polyamorous game for a while, which is nice because it allows for multiple partners and total honesty, and the arrangement provided more sex than I could shake a stick at, with one partner it was actually, physically alone, the best I've ever had.
But there was no real connection. I've had connection is sex that I can only alike to the most perfect state of union between yourself, your partner, and 'god'. Never knew such a thing was possible. I tried to fill the whole that left in me with quantity, without working on the emotional bonding that brings the quality. All it did, really, was leave me feeling hollow afterwards. Like I was just betraying myself. So I broke it all off months later and have been celibate for 10 months now - the longest I've gone without for 14+ years - as I feel life has made it absolutely apparent that breaking my romantic ideals for sex does more harm than good. And I also know that the kind of person that will fulfill them again will only come into my life if I'm NOT looking for them.
It's so fucking hard. I'm a really sexual person and I feel like 'life' has taken one of the things I love most about being alive away from me. I can feel an angry child stomping around inside me when I think about it, petulant and annoyed because his father has refused to let him have it for now. Plus I'm scared. Because I dunno when that person might again come into my life - it could be 10 years or 10 months.
I've total faith they'll come when the time is right though, the more I've worked at connection with myself and life the more I've noticed that the right kind of people, who will help guide your life the right way, will just appear. It's come to the point the last few months that people have started to just approach me - I end up in deep conversations with strangers more and more frequently as I work on healing my wounds, opening myself up, and over and above everything else, showing love and compassion to myself and others. I'm far from the only person I've known this to happen to - my therapist, amongst other people I've met, know of this phenomenon, and it's the most life changing thing I've known by far in my 32 years here.
What it seems to all stem from; the healing and the huge benefits that follow, is learning how to really love myself. And that means, as fucking hard and painful as it is when I feel such a strong pull to just cave in, not breaking my ideals.
You seem like a good guy man so I hope this turns out as best as possible, for you and all involved. But please take a little of what I've said here and mull it over. It's a clusterfuck alright, but you have to learn what you're not, before you can learn what you are, and you can use the force of emotion you must be feeling right now to push towards changing your future actions to find out who you are deep down. I think it's pretty likely you'll find a good person in there, but it's hard work to shed the fucking layers of hurt.
Thanks Joke,
That makes me feel like I have so much more growing to do. I can't begin to imagine what those shifts in your life have done to you emotionally. You seem like a good person and very wise. I know, someday, you will have a person in your life that brings back those certain feelings. We allow ourselves to get hung up in sadness from time to time. We will bounce back, we have to.
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Long Story. Bare with me..
it doesnt have to be, you could have just said "fucked girl, now she's all knocked up"
Thanks for allowing me to share my story with others pris. Promise im not looking for a pity party!
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23778454 - 10/27/16 09:15 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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GeorgieBoy said: Thanks for allowing me to share my story with others pris. Promise im not looking for a pity party!
I feel for ya. the bad part is you're fucking with a chick that has a boyfriend, that cant say anything good about her or her christian values
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Prisoner#1]
#23778881 - 10/27/16 11:46 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Technically there's nothing against Christianity for cheating on a boyfriend. Having an affair on a husband or spouse, yes. But boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are not considered valid "under god" or whatever. So as long as she's not violating the sanctity of marriage, she technically didn't break any Christian rules.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G]
#23778896 - 10/27/16 11:54 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Having sexxxxxxxxxxxxxx while unwed to the person yuour bumping ugles with.. in violation
sinner.
i dont know what hppaned here but learn your lesson op
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#23778904 - 10/28/16 12:01 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Joke, you are a truly judgemental piece of shit. The things you tell us about you and then you pass judgement on others. So, the truth is your wife left you because you didn't know how to fuck her properly. She started fucking someone else. You begged her to stay. She left. Now you bad mouth her here. Nice.
Burke, while I definitely agree with you, I agree with crystal more. Say it is T's boyfriend's baby, T will probably dip if this all comes to light, and the baby suffers.
OP, definitely ask her to get paternity testing. If she says no, walk away with a lesson learned. Oh, and get tested. You might not have been the only dick besides her boyfriend's.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: azur]
#23778921 - 10/28/16 12:14 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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azur said: Burke, while I definitely agree with you, I agree with crystal more. Say it is T's boyfriend's baby, T will probably dip if this all comes to light, and the baby suffers.
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. It sounds to me like OP isn't too interested in being a father or in being in either of their lives. If this is the case, he should really be wise about seeking paternity, because he could be ruining this baby's chance at having a family.
There's really no reason for him to seek paternity if he's just going to dip out and say "peace out." You just ruined a bunch of lives for nothing except for some sick sense of knowledge and satisfaction. Like okay, the baby's yours.... now what? Unless he is going to do something with that knowledge, he did it all for nothing.
If he does seek paternity, he should do it in secret with the girl. And they should form some sort of pact about what to do, in case the baby turns out to be his. But if OP already knows he doesn't want to be, or is unable to be a real father, or even if he MAYBE thinks he might not be there in the long-run, he should not push the issue.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23778925 - 10/28/16 12:16 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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koods said: Well what do you expect to happen if you don't use protection. 
This girl has been the only person that I have had sex with on a weekly basis. I couldnt stand having the condom on and she didnt seem to mind when I told her I didn't want to wear one. I wasnt fully aware of the likelihood of her becoming pregnant.
You didn't think sperm made babies without condoms?
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He probably just means he got lost in the moment and wasn't thinking too heavily about the consequences of pregnancy. It happens to everybody, it's the oldest tale of all time, shit I'm willing to bet half of you were conceived in that way.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G]
#23778940 - 10/28/16 12:22 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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pretty sure i was conceived after my father had a vascectomy. and my daughter was conceived after my first round of chemotherapy.
my familys sperm is quite defiant
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