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I might have gotten a girl pregnant...
#23777594 - 10/27/16 05:38 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Long Story. Bare with me.
In march of this year, I began working at a screen printing shop. I loved it from the moment I started and knew that the job was meant for me. About two weeks into working there I met a girl. Lets call her T. She happened to be working with me randomly one day. I didnt think much of the encounter until I began to open up to her. I told her that I had been going through a strange time in my life. I told her that my friends mother had just been murdered that week. She opened up to me and shared that her good friends sister had commited suicide. I could tell she was a caring and actually very cute girl.
I began to visit her on break. We would talk until we realized it was already the end of our break and I would rush back to my station. I could tell I was getting very interested in T. Within the next couple weeks I asked her out. At first I could tell she wasnt sure if it was a good idea, but I could also tell that she was interested in me as more than a friend. She said we could hang out at her house. This is less than a month into meeting her. I come over, act very proper, don't make a move. We watch a movie and I head home after I give her a big hug.
The next week at work we are hanging out on break and I invite her to a movie. She says that she has a boyfriend and that theyve been together for 4 years. I immediately feel bad. I like this girl. Alot. She's smart, funny, and so adorable. I tell her that's fine that she has a boyfriend and I'd still like to hang out. She agrees.
Eventually, we begin to have sex. She flirts with me constantly and I like it, so I dont see a problem. I have a bad habit of not backing off when I should, and when I did actually make attempts to not visit her on these breaks at work, she would text me and say that she misses me. I think she likes the attention, and that Im new and exciting to her. She must not feel the same when she first began to date her boyfriend. I keep visiting her and often ask her to come over.
We keep having sex. Fast forward to now, October. We have been having unprotected sex since may or june. She calls me on the weekend crying, saying that she is pregnant. T asks me if I came in her, which I will fully admit I did not. She asks me about pre-cum and if I could have gotten some in that way. I tell her its likely. I tell her that its going to be ok.
I immediately think its mine and am not sure if she's been having unprotected sex with her boyfriend. When I ask her, she says that she has sex with him without a condom. I think ok, now there is a 50/50 chance that its my kid.
When I tried to discuss with her the possibility of getting an abortion, she does nothing, says nothing. She is a church going christian and I believe her religious beliefs are holding her back from making that kind of decision.
I can tell that she is going to keep this baby. She told her boyfriend and her mother as soon as she told me. Now there is a 100% chance she will be having this kid. I dont know if I will be able to get her to take a paternity test once she has the baby. Im not sure how im going to be able to cope with the possibility that it is my child. I never thought it would get this far.
My main thought now is, What if that child is mine. I wont be able to act as a father to my own offspring, and that boyfriend of hers will be fathering a kid that might not be his. I am ashamed and disgusted in retrospect of my actions and wish I can take this all back. I hope somehow that I found out if the child is mine.
Thanks for reading, I just need an outlet. I will never tell my family about this and only my closest friends will ever know this about me.
Edited by GeorgieBoy (10/27/16 05:41 PM)
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 1
#23777611 - 10/27/16 05:42 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well what do you expect to happen if you don't use protection.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: koods]
#23777627 - 10/27/16 05:47 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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koods said: Well what do you expect to happen if you don't use protection. 
This girl has been the only person that I have had sex with on a weekly basis. I couldnt stand having the condom on and she didnt seem to mind when I told her I didn't want to wear one. I wasnt fully aware of the likelihood of her becoming pregnant.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: koods] 1
#23777629 - 10/27/16 05:48 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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She has a boyfriend who she likely has regular unprotected sex with, more commonly than you. I don't know how regularly you two have been having sex, but chances are it's more likely she's doing it more regularly with her boyfriend.
Fact is, you didn't cum inside her, and it's actually very difficult to get pregnant from pulling out if you are doing it properly. Pulling out is like 94% effective or something if you are doing it properly. If you may have gotten a little bit of cum inside of her accidentally, this increases your chances of pregnancy.
So, based on the information you have given, I would say it's more like a 10% chance it's yours, 90% chance it's her boyfriend's.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G] 4
#23777659 - 10/27/16 05:56 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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lol that sucks
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: sanchothestoner] 1
#23777676 - 10/27/16 06:00 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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sanchothestoner said: lol that sucks
classic sancho answer. just dont be fucking stupid man, they made protection for a reason. I feel for you just because i know what that situation is like but i dont really feel bad because like....come on.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 3
#23777677 - 10/27/16 06:00 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I pretty much only feel sorry for T's boyfriend.
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sanchothestoner said: lol that sucks
yeah its fucked man. im a big dumb dumb.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: trees] 1
#23777684 - 10/27/16 06:01 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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trees said: I pretty much only feel sorry for T's boyfriend.
and dont be fucking another dudes girl man, you got what you deserve
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23777685 - 10/27/16 06:01 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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If I was you, I'd need to know if the kid was mine. If she refused to have the paternity tested, I would petition the court for a paternity test. She would be legally obligated to have the test done, and that way I could either put the matter to bed or be a father, but I wouldn't be able to handle not knowing. You should convince her to legally establish paternity first, but if she refuses to handle this situation like an adult, you might consider going through available legal channels.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G]
#23777689 - 10/27/16 06:02 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: She has a boyfriend who she likely has regular unprotected sex with, more commonly than you. I don't know how regularly you two have been having sex, but chances are it's more likely she's doing it more regularly with her boyfriend.
Fact is, you didn't cum inside her, and it's actually very difficult to get pregnant from pulling out if you are doing it properly. Pulling out is like 94% effective or something if you are doing it properly. If you may have gotten a little bit of cum inside of her accidentally, this increases your chances of pregnancy.
So, based on the information you have given, I would say it's more like a 10% chance it's yours, 90% chance it's her boyfriend's.
makes me feel a bit better. I still feel 100% responsible for my own actions, but thanks for cheering me up a bit. Also hope the cock hunting is going well.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy]
#23777703 - 10/27/16 06:04 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have nothing of substance to add, and am just boosting my post count and fake internet points by saying this, but nice sig.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Crystal G] 1
#23777704 - 10/27/16 06:05 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree with crystal, if you know you didn't cum in her chances are the baby isn't yours. I know the likely hood that it can happen but like crystal said they are probably having a lot more sex
you have to be careful with girls who sleep with multiple guys, it seems like this happens often. Usually she freaks out and tells the boyfriend about the side dick. BF gets mad and leaves, side guy gets stuck with the whole situation and feels bad and sticks around. Finds out later the kid wasn't his and has already been around long enough to consider the kid his. Idk I've seen this to many times, poor girls who aren't on birth control or believe in abortion.
I don't get when they talk about their religious beliefs holding them back when they aren't supposed to have sex before marriage in the first place lol.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Burke Dennings]
#23777705 - 10/27/16 06:05 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: If I was you, I'd need to know if the kid was mine. If she refused to have the paternity tested, I would petition the court for a paternity test. She would be legally obligated to have the test done, and that way I could either put the matter to bed or be a father, but I wouldn't be able to handle not knowing. You should convince her to legally establish paternity first, but if she refuses to handle this situation like an adult, you might consider going through available legal channels.
I dont want to ruin her life through all that shit. I'd rather let her get on with what was already coming. I was a force that came out of nowhere for her. I want to make this as smooth as possible, and if that means if she refuses so be it. I just have to move on and start worshipping male contraception.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 1
#23777719 - 10/27/16 06:07 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Fuck that shit you deserve to know if you are the father or not.
Don't be such a fucking pushover. She doesn't get to decide if you know or not. Thats just wrong.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: SuperFly]
#23777721 - 10/27/16 06:08 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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SuperFly said: I agree with crystal, if you know you didn't cum in her chances are the baby isn't yours. I know the likely hood that it can happen but like crystal said they are probably having a lot more sex
you have to be careful with girls who sleep with multiple guys, it seems like this happens often. Usually she freaks out and tells the boyfriend about the side dick. BF gets mad and leaves, side guy gets stuck with the whole situation and feels bad and sticks around. Finds out later the kid wasn't his and has already been around long enough to consider the kid his. Idk I've seen this to many times, poor girls who aren't on birth control or believe in abortion.
I don't get when they talk about their religious beliefs holding them back when they aren't supposed to have sex before marriage in the first place lol.
RIGHT?! If you are going to church every goddamn sunday than maybe you should believe in fucking marriage before sex! She could have blown me off the second I started talking to her.
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Boomer The Great said: Fuck that shit you deserve to know if you are the father or not.
Don't be such a fucking pushover. She doesn't get to decide if you know or not. Thats just wrong.
dude trust me I am going to make a point of finding out. She is a kind person so I think it could happen...
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: Burke Dennings] 2
#23777726 - 10/27/16 06:09 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Burke Dennings said: If I was you, I'd need to know if the kid was mine. If she refused to have the paternity tested, I would petition the court for a paternity test. She would be legally obligated to have the test done, and that way I could either put the matter to bed or be a father, but I wouldn't be able to handle not knowing. You should convince her to legally establish paternity first, but if she refuses to handle this situation like an adult, you might consider going through available legal channels.
I don't know... I feel really conflicted about this.
On the one hand, I understand OP needs to know whether the baby is his. On the other hand, he would be breaking up a family that might have otherwise been able to give that baby a good life.
This would be wrong of OP to do, especially if he is not able to financially, physically, and emotionally care for the baby. I wouldn't encourage OP to go this route unless he is completely willing to step up to the plate if it turns out the kid is his.
But if he's just going to say "Eh you know what, I'm not ready" and flake out on his responsibilities once he finds out it's his, then no he should not petition for the paternity test. That would be a dick move to do, all because you "had to know."
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: trees] 6
#23777729 - 10/27/16 06:10 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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You started fucking her even after she revealed she was in a four year relationship?
I stopped reading after that. I think you're a fucking scumbag for doing that, I cannot fathom why you would pull such a cuntish move, given you had prior knowledge. I have zero sympathy for men that cannot control themselves for the sake of a fuck when there's millions of other single women out there. And FWIW, I've had several women in that situation come on to me, one of whom was the hottest girl that has ever come on to me, but at least I kept my conscience clear, as hard as it was when I had a solid 9.5 begging to suck my dick.
How the fuck would you feel if you were in his shoes? I think you deserve whatever comes your way.
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Re: I might have gotten a girl pregnant... [Re: GeorgieBoy] 2
#23777732 - 10/27/16 06:10 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Or you could have been a stand up guy and not fucked around with another mans girl.
Don't put pussy on a pedestal man, should of moved on.
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