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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Sheekle] * 1
    #23774831 - 10/26/16 09:19 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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OP call the cops for the domestic abuse and threats, man up.



Oh FFS, here you go with the snitching again! That's the antithesis of 'manning up' you moron, manning up would be taking a few lads over and breaking this guys arms and legs, and possibly raping his arse, depending on how badly you wanted to fuck him up (physically/psychologically), and making sure to cover your tracks along the way.

Snitching from a distance is bitch behaviour.

No matter what though, intervening without being asked to is bad news all round, no matter what path you take.

@OP - I feel your pain man, I've known similar situations in my time. You can't help someone that doesn't want help, so IMO you're making the right choice by walking away.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23774957 - 10/26/16 10:08 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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Sheekle said:
OP call the cops for the domestic abuse and threats, man up.



Oh FFS, here you go with the snitching again! That's the antithesis of 'manning up' you moron, manning up would be taking a few lads over and breaking this guys arms and legs, and possibly raping his arse, depending on how badly you wanted to fuck him up (physically/psychologically), and making sure to cover your tracks along the way.

Snitching from a distance is bitch behaviour.

No matter what though, intervening without being asked to is bad news all round, no matter what path you take.

@OP - I feel your pain man, I've known similar situations in my time. You can't help someone that doesn't want help, so IMO you're making the right choice by walking away.




Thanks :smile: But yea... the cops already know this shit pretty well... they have as much chance of helping her as I do.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23774976 - 10/26/16 10:13 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I think you should at least keep tabs on her from a distance, make sure she isn't killed by this guy, shit like that happens ..

If you guys truly care about each other, you should try to help her man! It may be difficult, but how can you just give up on her like that? I get it, his threats could be serious and life threatening to you, but still ... idk, I just hate to see this shit happen. If you back off from both of them in response to his threats, you're only enabling him to keep doing the horrible things he's doing, its just wrong.

Make sure she's safe and maybe do something if you can!! I pray for her


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23774985 - 10/26/16 10:15 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Knowing the kinda fella you're dealing with here, any intervention is just gonna make things worse, especially for your friend.

Sad truth of the matter is that she's obviously got some deep, unresolved psychological shit that's keeping her in a relationship like that, and only lots of self exploration, reading and therapy would cause her to wake up and see what's really going on. I lost my wife for similar reasons; some people are so fixated on being in a pattern of abuse, that they cannot understand a life without it. As I am not an abusive man in any way, she ended up tearing our whole relationship to pieces because it didn't fit in with the paradigm through which she viewed life.

She's something like 14 months in rehab now, and it'll probably take another dozen years for her to undo the harms that were done to her through childhood abuse. As you have, I have had to walk away from her to protect myself.

And yeah, cops are ok for cleaning up the mess, but they're never gonna be there at the exact moment you need them.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: lonelypsychonaut]
    #23775017 - 10/26/16 10:21 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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you should try to help her man!



I think this is very bad advice, personally.

People trying to help without being asked for it cause a huge amount of problems in this world. Aside of that immutable truth, in this specific case you also have the dangers of physical harm coming to OP or his friend, from a man who is obviously extremely unstable.

OP's friend isn't being held captive, she could get away if she really wanted to, there are plenty of services which could make this happen, and if she did want to, and wanted help, things would be be different.

But from what OP says she doesn't sound like she's intending on leaving this abusive man, as many women in abusive relationships don't. I've broken up fights several times when I've seen a man hit a woman on the street, putting myself in danger to do so, only to have the woman turn on me once. I also know anecdotally, women often go back to their abusers. Men also, but being the physically stronger gender we have the upper hand in this regard.

The psychological damage that causes this kind of behaviour is never straight forward.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23775020 - 10/26/16 10:23 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

world's full of buncha crazy psychos

"dont defend me let him hit me!" - haha wtf


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Sheekle]
    #23775031 - 10/26/16 10:26 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I know... I was just about to give her some of this LSD I took hoping it would unlock her mind... But I guess its to late now...

I will still fb stalk her to see how shes doing though :P


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23775269 - 10/26/16 11:59 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah, sounds like you just gotta play mega safe so that her BF don't catch it. I'm sure you know them well enough to devise a plan which would allow you to communicate without leaving an electronic/paper trail. Self destructing messages are a thing these days!!

Unfortunately they don't do it as dramatically as on Mission Impossible...


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23775316 - 10/27/16 12:22 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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I know... I was just about to give her some of this LSD I took hoping it would unlock her mind... But I guess its to late now...

I will still fb stalk her to see how shes doing though :P





Whats the malfunction in your brain man, leave her alone - drop it, and get your mind right. Maybe you should back off LSD too. And don't be giving this chick any drugs, dude finds out, it sounds like he will come fuck your day up. And your most likely going to dwell on this until one of 3 things happen..

1) you keep fucking with her, dude catches wind, kills you AND her,
2) you worry about YOURSELF and do you, and drop this chick like a fucking hot potato,
3) she leaves him, realizes how abusive he has been, and she falls in love with you (not happening).

So there are your choices. You pick which scenario plays out in your mind the best. If the guy has already told you to leave her the fuck alone, you should. I'm just telling you, there are people that will take it to the next level. You see it on the news EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. Don't become that guy, guy.

Get a different hobby. Stalking people on facebook isn't a hobby.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Exceed19_2000]
    #23775332 - 10/27/16 12:32 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I think you're taking his post a little seriously Exceed. I dunno if you read the whole thread, but OP has already made his mind up.

I'm not sure how frequently you've dealt with similar situations in your life, but I've dealt with a few, and certainly a good few people like the dude described in OP. kakashi saying he's gonna look in on facebook from time to time out of concern for the friend he has (wisely IMO) decided he must walk away from is a pretty far cry from making 'stalking' a 'hobby'.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23775378 - 10/27/16 12:54 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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I think you're taking his post a little seriously Exceed. I dunno if you read the whole thread, but OP has already made his mind up.

I'm not sure how frequently you've dealt with similar situations in your life, but I've dealt with a few, and certainly a good few people like the dude described in OP. kakashi saying he's gonna look in on facebook from time to time out of concern for the friend he has (wisely IMO) decided he must walk away from is a pretty far cry from making 'stalking' a 'hobby'.




Surely you jest, the internet is all serious business!

First, look at HIS words. He didn't say "check on", he said FB STALK. So, you can twist that around to mean what you like, but that's what he said.

I was taking it as the OP is coming on here, complaining about a girl (as a friend), who has Stockholm Syndrome, and he wants the best for her, but still wants to check in after being threatened by her boyfriend. Is almost smart enough to leave her alone, then threw in the STALK on her FB at the end.

I'm thinking this motherfucker ALMOST got it. He almost understood. Then threw that shit in there.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Exceed19_2000]
    #23775461 - 10/27/16 01:47 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Meh, I don't do social media apart from this place, so it could just be a matter of semantics.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I think it would be better for OP and all involved to stay 100% emotionally detached, but he's a human, and I don't think many of us are able to do that.

I get his concern, and I still think he could find a way to communicate with his friend, but it'll have to be foolproof with a nutcase like that just waiting to find evidence that he's been in touch with her.

I think he's been quite good about it. I'd wanna break the cunts legs, personally.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Jokeshopbeard] * 1
    #23775596 - 10/27/16 04:28 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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Meh, I don't do social media apart from this place, so it could just be a matter of semantics.

I mean, don't get me wrong, I think it would be better for OP and all involved to stay 100% emotionally detached, but he's a human, and I don't think many of us are able to do that.

I get his concern, and I still think he could find a way to communicate with his friend, but it'll have to be foolproof with a nutcase like that just waiting to find evidence that he's been in touch with her.

I think he's been quite good about it. I'd wanna break the cunts legs, personally.




Yea believe me I want to fucking slit the cunts throat.

But yea... its just an expression. I just want to make sure nothing super serious has gone wrong.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23775635 - 10/27/16 05:11 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

1. stock up on food and water
2. shot her a text if shes down to fuck
3. camp out in your house and wait for bf
4. when you hear him entering your house shot him
5. in court claim that he was assaulting you

This only works if hes actually dumb enough to break into your house but might just be a matter of provoking him enough


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: howsyournaggerdoin]
    #23775654 - 10/27/16 05:31 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

That also only works if you don't live in a place like australia... No guns buddy. OP should really cut the white knight bullshit, there is nothing but negativity to gain from interaction with this girl. Not all women are reasonable innocent little angels some are batshit crazy like I'm guessing this girl is. Probably is licking the boyfriends asshole after telling OP he socks her.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Mescalean]
    #23775676 - 10/27/16 05:48 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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OP should really cut the white knight bullshit, there is nothing but negativity to gain from interaction with this girl. Not all women are reasonable innocent little angels some are batshit crazy like I'm guessing this girl is. Probably is licking the boyfriends asshole after telling OP he socks her.



You're fucking well out of line saying that. You know next to nothing of this situation and then you go and make sweeping assumptions like that, finishing your post by adding insult to injury. You're obviously a moron devoid of a) compassion, b) wisdom, and c) any knowledge of human psychology, so perhaps you should keep your mouth shut when it comes to such delicate matters as this.

Just thinking about our previous interactions, I recall you being very good at making uninformed and sweeping assumptions, so if that's what you strive for in this life then I suggest you give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Mescalean]
    #23775707 - 10/27/16 06:25 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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Hey if you are looking for a new best friend I have terrible judgement and will always let you down when you need me.  I know you go for that :shrug: think about it.



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Get a gun. If you are not good with guns get a laser sight properly installed on your gun




OP lives in the poop streak down under.  He's been brain washed to be scared of guns, so that's not an option.




plus, murder can put u in prison as well.




I actually own guns... so plis go away.



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That also only works if you don't live in a place like australia... No guns buddy.



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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: kakashi68]
    #23775716 - 10/27/16 06:35 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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The boyfriend controls the shit out of her life. He controls who she sees. Hes making threats against my safety... like yea... not worth...

He full on goes through ALL her messages. She was just a friend, I wasnt trying to get with her. I just cared about her alot. Hes fucking psychotic, and gets way to paranoid jealous.




I'm not really sure men and women (heterosexual) can really be "just friends".  There may be an oddball case here or there.  I don't want to argue that point really. 


You should take a good look at yourself and what you think you get from this relationship with her.  It must be really valuable to you if you are to keep it despite the jealousy and mistrust you claim this guy has.  It's kinda gross actually, maybe you should just not.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: RiverDweller1]
    #23775727 - 10/27/16 06:41 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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I'm not really sure men and women (heterosexual) can really be "just friends".



I used to think this when I was younger. As long as you've either had sex previously and stopped, or make a solid vow to never have sex, it can work just fine.

I couldn't have female friends in my early/mid 20's cause I was too sexually precocious - I had no self restraint. But I've got plenty of female friends now.


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Re: I lost my best friend today :( [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
    #23775742 - 10/27/16 06:54 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

doesn't having had sex with someone sorta cancel out the "just friends"?  That's more like just friends now that we fucked and aren't compatible.....


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