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Unfolding Nature Shop: Unfolding Nature: Being in the Implicate Order

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The Tyranny of "Should" * 1
    #23757754 - 10/21/16 11:29 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

The mind can have an aggressive harassing demanding habit of proclaiming things "should" be a certain way.

Attachment to "should" thinking (AKA "must-er-bating") often leads to anger, rage, anxiety and depression.

This kind of demandingness (an unwillingness to accept things as they are) can fuel much suffering.

I "should" all over myself!  Here are a few of my shoulds.  Do you have some?


  I shouldn't make so many mistakes. I should do better.

  I shouldn't feel this way.

  I should be totally self-reliant

  Mom and dad should have been better parents.

  My life should be better. I should be happier.

  Others should treat me fairly and politely.

  My coworker shouldn't be so aggressive.

  My partner should appreciate me more.

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #23757760 - 10/21/16 11:31 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

so,
what should we do about it?


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23757767 - 10/21/16 11:33 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

:rofl2:

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202]
    #23759498 - 10/21/16 10:39 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

I think I'm a piece of matter in a quantum field experiencing perceptual relativity therefore I have a conscience.




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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: sudly]
    #23759581 - 10/21/16 11:16 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I should be able to comprehend this, but I don't.

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202] * 1
    #23759589 - 10/21/16 11:19 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

It's a modern take on 'I think therefore I am'.


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: sudly]
    #23759602 - 10/21/16 11:25 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I should have known that.

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23759673 - 10/22/16 12:12 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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redgreenvines said:
so,
what should we do about it?




It's a method to learn what gives birth to our emotional disturbances.

When we look at the thinking that creates turmoil, there are patterns.

There is nothing to "do" but to notice when we should all over ourselves.

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202] * 1
    #23759932 - 10/22/16 03:55 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I try not to do that, but if I do a nice shower helps.


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202] * 1
    #23759954 - 10/22/16 04:25 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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RJ Tubs 202 said:
:rofl2:



oh cosmic irony, isn't it grand. :wink:

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: redgreenvines] * 1
    #23762458 - 10/22/16 10:01 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

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redgreenvines said:
so,
what should we do about it?




This didn't settle well with me

what shall we do about it?

that's better


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Look around you... Everything you see exists inside the mind.
Consciousness, the awareness that is experiencing this mind,
is peering in from outside the universe.

Our individual experiences are all part of the universe's experience of itself

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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: ComebackKid]
    #23762641 - 10/22/16 10:53 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

semantically, maybe.
But I think it is just an allergy to the word habit.
Awareness of the pitfalls does not require aversion to the word or idea of should,
there are many times to accept duty gladly and with vigor.


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: RJ Tubs 202] * 1
    #23762983 - 10/23/16 01:09 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Therapists often tell clients "Don't should yourself." :wink:


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: MarkostheGnostic]
    #23764161 - 10/23/16 12:29 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

we know that, Mark
but we have to get past it too.


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Re: The Tyranny of "Should" [Re: redgreenvines]
    #23765144 - 10/23/16 07:36 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

:lolz0rz: You shouldnt make threads like this man! Shouldnt you know what will happen?  Should I tell you? Should We wait and see for ourselvs? Maybe we should maybe we shouldnt! :pipesmoke:


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