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Anonymous #1
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Can't connect with people when sober
#23758401 - 10/21/16 03:44 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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So I stay sober most of the time aside from coffee every morning, green tea, about 5 cigarettes a day, a gram or two a week of weed, maybe 5 to 10 beers a week but I eat healthy and exercise a lot but I've noticed that I have a harder time connecting with people when I'm sober.
I take ecstasy like once or twice a month and everytime I have a lot of moments where I can come up with something that's really heartfelt and sincere and nice and it can actually gain the attention of people and they'll try to be my friend and a couple times, I have even talked a few women into going to have a drink with me when I was high on ecstasy and they didn't know because I can so easily connect with people when I'm ecstasy. I took it my first time like 3 months ago and I've always had a bit of a problem connecting with people. I'm INFP, kind of introverted.
Sometimes people are rude to me and I don't know if there's something wrong with me or something wrong with them. I believe a lot of people write their own story in their head about who I am because I am so introverted. I'm doing everything I can to stay healthy. I eat fruit, veggies and meat and a few things like oatmeal, cereal, bagels, etc. but 95% of my diet is healthy and I work out. I don't know why I can't open up to people when I'm sober and sometimes weed doesn't even help.
I kinda doze off when I'm really high and then I stay quiet for too long and then I'm sitting there trying to figure out how to break the silence without being too awkward. I'm actually high on ecstasy right now and I typed this out in like 5 minutes. It can give me the ability to actually put my thoughts in order and think and say things that I wouldn't be able to say if I was sober.
Edited by Anonymous (10/21/16 03:54 PM)
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Morel Guy
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Re: Can't connect with people when sober [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23758431 - 10/21/16 04:00 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I know this doesn't help but it's all in your head. People feed off of energy. You must not project much energy when sober? Imagin conversations with people when you are sober and analyze the energy.
-------------------- "in sterquiliniis invenitur in stercore invenitur" In filth it will be found in dung it will be found
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Can't connect with people when sober [Re: Morel Guy]
#23758938 - 10/21/16 07:24 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Stop drinking caffeine everday, limit it to once or twice a week. That shit can make you low in energy and awkward in social situations. Limit mdma use to 3-4 times per year.
Find social activities where you are forced to socially engage with other like minded introverts. Join a role playing group like dungeons and dragons for example, or go on meetup.com and find a video game group or LAN group. Be creative and tell yourself to get out there and just do it. Life doesn't hand us stuff like we're led to believe in this day and age.
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Re: Can't connect with people when sober [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23763160 - 10/23/16 03:32 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Dude, start to slowly reduce coffee, alcohol and cigatettes, and max out Omega 3 intake, spirulina, cocoa, turmeric and clean fresh water (or tea, anything but black tea) and also max out SKIN CONTACT.
Go get massage. Pay for it if you have to, or get a friend, fwb, whatever you have there. Give and receive massage. Oxytocin releases are THE main problem here.
You keep looking for what to say, how to talk, but it's not a verbal issue here. Hug more, kiss cheeks more, playfully poke people more, and use your hands and fingers more, in general. Get a Rubik cube or clay or something, anything to use those fingers. Do Origami, when you don't know how to break the silence make a little swan
I am not kidding here by the way, I do this sort of stuff, we all get anxious, when I do this I take out my soap bubbler and blow in it. WHen the guy next to me does it, he sits down and lights up a cig. One of us will attract the girl's attention, and if the girl is of any quality, rainbow bubbles will beat cig smoke
Get a ball and play with it, with any girl you're on a date with. MOVE more, with people, socially. Avoid sitting around situations like bars and restaurants for a while, where you just sit down and talk. Or in any case make things more tactile. Push, poke, prod, tickle, that gets a laughter out of people (and out of you as well, when they do it back) and that starts the whole flow again
Oh and please rephrase that "can't connect" to "couldn't connect". HUGE difference. Not saying to speak un-truths, just saying to leave today and tomorrow open, that where you couldn't connect well yesterday, today maybe you might
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