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Compassion
#23757743 - 10/21/16 11:24 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Do you have methods or practices to embrace compassion for yourself and others?
I struggle to have compassion for myself. And people who are selfish. And aggressive.
Are you resistant to feeling compassion for political leaders?
Does anyone not deserve kindness and compassion?
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beforethedawn
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perhaps seeing selfish and aggressive behaviour as an extension of a hurt inner child might make compassion for those people easier?
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Re: Compassion [Re: deff] 1
#23759399 - 10/21/16 10:07 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes, exactly. My mind knows that but my heart is often resistant.
Someone told me the other day they could never feel compassion towards people who harmed others.
I explained that violence is a result of suffering. They insisted they could only hate them.
Fear can get in the way of compassion. I was abused as a kid, so aggressive people still scare me.
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yeah it's easier said than done. it's one thing to intellectualize the proper response when removed from the situation and another when in the situation and instinctual reactions arise. but i think as with most things, practice can cause you to shift more that way. it would be nice if it were easier though
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Re: Compassion [Re: deff] 1
#23759450 - 10/21/16 10:23 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Researchers say the more we embrace compassion, brain plasticity creates stronger psychological resilience.
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Re: Compassion [Re: deff] 3
#23759677 - 10/22/16 12:15 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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deff said: perhaps seeing selfish and aggressive behaviour as an extension of a hurt inner child might make compassion for those people easier? 
This is how I feel. I see a cycle of abuse within my family, I would be totally justified in thinking many of the actions which take place are wrong, but I don't get mad because I don't feel like that would be conducive to helping us heal together. I see where the cycle started with my grandparents, they cared more about themselves than their kids, and this created some very deep scars within my moms psyche, so deep in fact that in her old age, she has not been able to overcome those scars.
I don't care about being right or wrong, I only want to heal, and move together as a whole. I want to discuss why things have happened, get it out in the open, talk about it like proper human beings, and move forward, not let the differences destroy the future.
I try to extend this same thinking into the world with people I am not related too, I don't view the person as just their wrongs and that's the final word, that seems so cold. I know it's hard to view someone that has murdered another, or abused a child, or done some other major wrong, as being redeemable, but I feel like if you look at those people you will often see cycles of abuse in their family, so I have to rise above the typical judgemental mindset, and see the light within, and try my best to increase that light.
But many of the people that turn into what society deems as "undesirables", are mostly products of abuse themselves, so what you said deff is right on the money.
I feel like it's part of my responsibility on this planet to help as many people as I can to remember the love which permeates all existence, to help them remember who they are, that they're worth it, that they're beautiful, that they're loved, that they're not alone.
I just have so much in this life, not material things, but so much love, it's almost overwhelming how this feels at time, and I feel like I should be trying to use this love to benefit others.
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Re: Compassion [Re: Lucis]
#23760203 - 10/22/16 07:56 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I just think anger is a wasted emotion.
I also think I value understanding, knowledge and objective truth the most.
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Re: Compassion [Re: sudly] 1
#23762547 - 10/22/16 10:25 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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As you become more of a powerful asshole you begin to rot from the inside.
Compassion, instead, empowers you, since the one you are bestowing with compassion is actually you and this is all inside your mind.
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I've found being overly selfless isn't necessarily beneficial, e.g. letting others walk over you.
Sometimes you've got to become a more powerful asshole if you want to establish a sense of self respect.
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