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KamikazeKush
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Love advice from strangers
#23727335 - 10/11/16 02:29 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have encountered a problem in my relationship. I've been with my gf for nearly 4 years (I'm 24) and during the beginning of our relationship I cheated with my ex. This is after I had already taken my current gfs virginity, so she has never been with anyone else but me. She wants the opportunity to explore her sexuality with Other men and women because she's never had the experience and I have had a lot of sexual partners in the past. That also being said she does not find sex appealing because penetration hurts and clitoral stimulation isn't great for her either. So she wants to take a break and do separate things and then get back together later. What should I make of this? Is my relationship just doomed? We are both very open and honest and always have been and I know we both care about each other a lot. I'm quite at a loss for words.
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Bodhi of Ankou
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lol things are not going to just go back to normal afterwards. Youll find something to get butthurt about and there will always be simmering tensions when everythings all said and done. Either try to talk her out of this or cut her loose, but dont kid yourself that theres an inbetween.
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: KamikazeKush] 2
#23727425 - 10/11/16 05:23 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ha ha. It's totally doomed dude. Why are you being so naive? She doesn't enjoy sex because you don't know how to fuck her. Oh, and no, she won't be back. If by the office chance she does, it'll be with herpes and hpv
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: azur]
#23727534 - 10/11/16 07:19 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Aptly put Azur...
Hey may have been a little harsh but he is right, she is just breaking up with you and that is the bottom line. Listen to what this hussy is saying. She does not like sex but wants to have sex with everyone other than you? Cut that one loose. My advice? Fully support her decision, say you have been thinking the same thing, say its a really good idea and you really have to make her believe you. Since she is a woman she will probably change her mind and call you in a few days saying how she was wrong and she just wants to be with you. But when you get this call it will be too late because you already started fucking her best friend or sister if that is a viable option. So go start putting in work with her friends.
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: Lice]
#23727540 - 10/11/16 07:25 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: azur]
#23727544 - 10/11/16 07:28 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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But dont let her know, just go with it and start lining up her friends, preferably her sister, if she has one. She checked out a long time ago if shes willing to run this question by you.
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Lice
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Bodhi of Ankou said: But dont let her know...
Oh nice touch.
I like that. So when she finds out and she will because bitches all basically hate each other so one of these girls is bound to tell her, he could just flip it around on her and be like "This was your idea, i thought this is what you wanted? YOU DID THIS". At that point i would accuse her of being selfish all you got to do is tell her " When we got together you knew your friends were way hotter and better in bed than you, you knew i would be happier with them. But no, you only thought of yourself and tried to trap me with shitty sex so i would feel obligated to be with you because I took the virginity that your uncle leftover"
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: KamikazeKush] 1
#23727571 - 10/11/16 07:48 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sounds like you two are done OP. Sorry to say but I think she is just moving on. Did she know about your cheating? If you told her in the beginning she has probably forgiven you by now but it still probably had an affect on her. Please don't go fucking her friends and family unless you want a nasty mess. Seriously there is no motive in that except to be the biggest asshole in retaliation for something that sounds like it has just run its course.
You actually might have been given a very easy mutual break up even if it sucks. And it sounds like you two might even remain friendly at least in trust. Who knows what could happen in the future.
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Sounds like she wants to explore other guys to me.
This happened to me (kinda). A girl i knew from high school, about 3 years younger than me, grew up and got a BF. She was a dork and i know she had maybe one sex partner (that guy).
Well they were together for about 2-3 years or so. Well, at one point, shes got the hots for me and i can tell. Im lonely, so im ready for it too. Then i find out shes doing the same with all sorts of other guys even thou i was her love interest.
Fast foward, we fell into a brief love relationship, i moved back to Oregon then found out she was getting intimate (but no sex) with my best friend.
It appears that she was inbetween places, wanting love and wanting to sleep around. We broke up cause of the distance thing and i later found out she dated another guy i knew and they went to Idaho last time i heard.
OP, u have two choices: Let her run wild and see if she returns to you (which she might, or she might not). Or let her go and let her get her freak on with other guys.
She maybe just bored sexually and wants more variety. Happens frequently in long term relationships
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LogicaL Chaos said: It appears that she was inbetween places, wanting love and wanting to sleep around. We broke up cause of the distance thing and i later found out she dated another guy i knew and they went to Idaho last time i heard.
I never understood this. When a woman does it its because girls are complicated emotional beings that blah blah blah then she gets a lifetime movie when she is knocked up and has no idea who the father is. But when a guy does it he is some kind of womanizing asshole.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: things are not going to just go back to normal afterwards.
I agree.
It's kind of like when couples think having a threesome would be great, then you have the threesome and it's wonderful, all sorts of sexual fluids flying about, orgasms galore, ah what could go wrong you say.
Then the next time you try to have sex with your girl, all she asks about is how the girl in the threesome did it better, and if you're thinking about her.
It takes a very "open mind" for those to explore their sexuality, and then be able to keep things the way they were.
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: Lice]
#23727622 - 10/11/16 08:26 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think a big thing is "intention".
For ladies, it happens unintentionally. But for guys, theres more intention to sleep around and NOT fall in love, and women get preg and the guy leaves, so he can continue to sleep around.
For ladies, things just sorta happen
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: Lucis]
#23727624 - 10/11/16 08:27 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah, everythings great, up until it isnt the only way Ive ever seen the threesome work is if they were into that type of stuff from the get go. When its a couple trying to do it, its usually a sign of a dead relationship more then anything.
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: Lice]
#23727628 - 10/11/16 08:29 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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EDIT: Arg I just hate when people say that kind of stuff or try to justify labelling people. And for people who complain about it then feel they need to label and generalize. Just goes in circles. Drives me bonkers.
Edited by pachoo (10/11/16 08:38 AM)
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KamikazeKush
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: pachoo]
#23759868 - 10/22/16 02:44 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I appreciate the positivity, been avoiding the website because I didn't want to come back to this post but it wasn't as bad as I thought. Thanks for the insight fellows
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if you guys are really in love then it will work out life and shit happens people fuck other people if you want her give her space but be ready to take care of it...
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And another one bites the dust. But why can I not conquer love?
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: shadyy]
#23760426 - 10/22/16 10:01 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Damn, sorry to hear that situation op. All I can say is I hope whoever came up with the phrase "its better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all" died a slow death.
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She's fucking someone else bro.
But yeah man it's over cut it off now and never look back. Next time you guys talk about it, be as emotionally distant as possible and completely and 100% cut her off from any and all contact. This is the only way she will keep any respect for you as a man and maybe one day 5 years down the road if you see her at a party she might want to fuck you again. But not if you act like a pussy about it and lie to yourself that you'll get back together again or try to be friends with her.
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Edited by volcomstoner (10/22/16 10:47 AM)
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fungusmuncher
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Tell her if she isn't happy than get the fuck out, go get slammed by some big black greasy cock, pussy sucked anyway. Doing nothing but wasting both of your time.
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Let me explain it in terms you can understand.
You got your doll, right? You got your doll there. Yeah.
You got your doll. You like your doll, right?
You love your doll. Yes, you love the doll.
But what if I told you...that was the only doll you're allowed to play with the rest of your life? How would you feel?
You'd feel sad. Of course. 'Cause there's a lot of other dolls on your shelves. And if you play with the other dolls, you can't have that doll anymore.
Even though that doll doesn't really want to play with you at this point. You're both living a lie.
There's other dolls you like, and they're making new dolls every year.
You want a stewardess doll?
What about a slightly overweight cocktail waitress doll?
What about a doll who happens to be best friends with your main doll?
It could happen, right?
A doll you only play with one day and never see again?
What about a doll where your friend's playing with a doll, and he needs you to, you know, kind of man up with the other doll. You don't even wanna play with that doll, but you do it...'cause your friend's playing with that doll. You don't wanna sit there and leave the other doll unattended.
Monogamy isn't realistic.
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Re: Love advice from strangers [Re: shadyy] 1
#23761059 - 10/22/16 02:04 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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You are right it is not realistic.... it is necessary. There is nothing like finding your soulmate.
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But my doll does anal and really gets into it, its so fucking hot. My doll is 5 feet tall with DDs My doll is the best doll
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