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Anonymous #1
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Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady
#23727035 - 10/10/16 10:52 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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So, I have this amazing girlfriend that I absolutely love to death and I'm not going to get to far into that aspect. But, I absolutely love mushroom hunting and experiencing mushrooms. However she doesn't agree with this and wouldn't like it if she knew I have been shroom hunting and tripping.
I tend to keep to myself, and this is more of a hobby for me. I used to smoke some herb with her all the time but now we both get drug tested for other reasons I'm not going to go over and basically no more of that for awhile.
Is it wrong to hide this from her? We talk about everything and especially if she found out I was lying she would not be happy. I have no plans to tell her I've been doing this, and she has shown slight interest in doing shrooms with me one day.
imo it is okay to keep to myself while doing this as it is for mostly spiritual purposes. Although I absolutely hate the lying part I hate it so much.
Anyone's opinion on this situation?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23727566 - 10/11/16 07:45 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Be yourself always. There isnt anything morally wrong with what you are doing, arguably quite the opposite to most like us. If she isnt accepting of you, then look elsewhere for acceptance. When girls have big problems with little things in the beginning, its always a sign to run. My two cents.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23727648 - 10/11/16 08:36 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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We've been together for about a year now. The only reason she doesn't like me doing any type of drug anymore is I became heavily addicted to opiates benzos and barbiturates before we met and she helped me get off of them. And god damn I'm so happy she did. She's done drugs in the past and we both have things we get tested for which is why we don't smoke weed anymore.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23735252 - 10/13/16 08:02 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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If i had to hide love of shrooms from my lady friend, she wouldn't be my lady friend.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #3]
#23739608 - 10/15/16 09:52 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sounds a lot like me and my ex (it was the weed that really upset her though). She'd never touch shrooms and was pretty freaked by that whole scene but wasn't so worried after we'd spent a good bit of time together out walking and identifying shrooms. Maybe see if you can convince her to do some edible hunting as an excuse for some quality time, fresh food and to reassure her that the actives aren't as dodgy as other drugs. My ex realised that I had a handle on shrooms unlike weed. We'd pick loads of shrooms but they'd just build up in a stash cos i'd rarely actually trip, to the extent I was letting some of her friends have free doses.
The secrets will come out eventually. Maybe just best to ease into it and let her see that it's a hobby for you, benefits you both, your totally safe and show no addictive behaviours unlike in your past.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #4]
#23740987 - 10/15/16 10:09 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #4 said: Sounds a lot like me and my ex (it was the weed that really upset her though). She'd never touch shrooms and was pretty freaked by that whole scene but wasn't so worried after we'd spent a good bit of time together out walking and identifying shrooms. Maybe see if you can convince her to do some edible hunting as an excuse for some quality time, fresh food and to reassure her that the actives aren't as dodgy as other drugs. My ex realised that I had a handle on shrooms unlike weed. We'd pick loads of shrooms but they'd just build up in a stash cos i'd rarely actually trip, to the extent I was letting some of her friends have free doses.
The secrets will come out eventually. Maybe just best to ease into it and let her see that it's a hobby for you, benefits you both, your totally safe and show no addictive behaviours unlike in your past.
Thats what im worried about is the secrets coming out and than ending everything. We are extremely close and don't yet live together but are with each other every day and all day. We have even gone for a little shroom hunt in the mulch and she has shown interest in them. She also shows interest in maybe eventually doing shrooms.
The addiction put me in the darkest place of my life. and she helped me get out of it and since than we have been closer than i ever have been with anyone.
She also asked me what mescaline was the other day
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23755903 - 10/20/16 07:40 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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My guess is you would enjoy the trips a lot better if she knew. For some reason, I think that you probably think about it while you're tripping. Feeling guilty, does she know, if you're hiding this then what might she be hiding from you, etc. I feel like I would think about that while I was tripping if I hid it from my wife. BTW, sorry if you weren't thinking about it during previous trips. My guess is you probably will now. What a mind fuck. Just tell her bro. If it's true love, she will accept you and your faults. Hell, maybe she will even join you occasionally. Just lay out all the sensible reasons why you enjoy it and how it makes you feel. Good luck Anon
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #5]
#23758230 - 10/21/16 02:36 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Try and educate her on the benefits of mushrooms. It has a healing effect and can help us with our addictions; if our intentions are right. However, if taken with unclear intentions, it can have the reverse effect. Sounds like a sensitive situation, since she helped you with your benzo addiction.
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23759040 - 10/21/16 08:05 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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What else do you hide from your lady? You know mushrooms make you gay right?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #7]
#23759052 - 10/21/16 08:08 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Its true OP, ive been reading that here for ten years. If you dont believe us, just go into OTD.
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #2]
#23771536 - 10/25/16 09:18 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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nothing much can be hide eternally.
i used to play online poker for a living (back in the golden days) and i met a girl whose own mother was a degenerate gambler. I told her what i was doing and she was like... *sure, you're a winning player, yeah i believe you*. I didn't feel shame or anything and even if she really had a bad feeling and didn't find that sexy at all.. i felt no use of hiding facts or parts of myself.
Integrity is all that mathers in close relationships. Lying to someone you care is not caring.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #8]
#23772055 - 10/26/16 12:55 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Never hide anything you do from a long term partner. Not only is it horribly unkind and disingenuous, but you will get found out eventually, and then all hell breaks loose. If they don't like something about you, then they need to wake up and smell the roses - nobody can like EVERYTHING about another person.
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Anonymous #10
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Re: Hiding love for mushrooms from my lady [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23772200 - 10/26/16 02:54 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Learn how to pick edibles together. You will get free, good and healthy food to incorporate into your diets. You'll be spending time in beautiful environments. Pack a lunch and have a day together. If you find actives she might be interested in knowing stuff like how they blue, etc. People here say they would rather grow but if you take someone out for a day it completely changes their mind. Perhaps she's concerned you'd abuse them? In either case, you'll be getting exercise and spending quality time together, which is important for a healthy relationship. If you see a patch while walking in the parks you can help your friends out. A bountiful patch being dropped on your lap is a gift never soon forgotten.
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