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When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men?
    #23715857 - 10/07/16 10:17 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I have some cognitive issues and I have had a little trouble getting away from the idea that I am gay.

I've explored with men, twice or so, didn't like it at all, was just weird, unsatisfying. Not interested in trying again.

Think a lot about women, get hot feelings for women around hot ones, sometimes shit myself.

People bring my sexuality up and I think mainly it's my lack of relationships and I'm good looking with a fit body. I'm also quite smart and women like that too, but my explanation is I've been mentally ill for 10 years, before that I had serious, intense self-esteem issues (but maybe because of being secretly gay?)

Gave a relationship a go while I was mentally ill and it was a disaster. Kind of scared of trying again, sort of solidified my low self esteem. Low confidence with women. Easily overwhelmed...

But there is this hesitation, it's interesting, I wonder if it's because I don't like my body for some reason.

Though what do I do with my life? Nothing. Really nothing, except explore consciousness. It's pretty funny actually but yeah, my life is primarily subjective. So I figure if I get in a relationship she'll just think I'm really boring.

I've never, ever been emotionally attached to a male. I cannot see that as romantic in any way.

But sometimes I wonder if I really need love from a woman because I'm on a spiritual level where I'm high all the time.

But yeah, cognitive issues - it's hard to make decisions and be final.

And I feel guilty about the exploration, makes me think, yep I'm gay.

So if you think you're gay, you're going to act a little passive and I do this a fair bit.

Next thing, I come to my senses it feels like and I'm super confident and pace like I've got it all figured and make witty jokes and generally act quite masculine.

It's so weird.

Society is a bit like, you know, one drop rule - if they start to think they're gay and act it a bit in public, they must be gay, and that's people's attitude in these small towns.

I don't think I'm afraid to be gay? I'm hardly part of society and I like it that way, if I was totally into men I'd just go out and have great sex. But I don't want to, it's boring?

I don't know,

Feel free to ask any questions, I won't hesitate to answer,

Let's work this out.

Thank you!

edit - just wanted to add, I think I'm really, really afraid of being hurt? Emotionally. I've fucked up a lot when I've tried in life, tried really hard to do public speaking and fucked up, tried to be a good friend to people and got betrayed.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 2
    #23716292 - 10/07/16 12:53 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

So what I gather from this is you need a girlfriend.

For me I either look for women when I'm performing, at work or occasionally on some kind of dating site like tinder. There's also opportunism depending, sometimes you can strike up a conversation at a park without being invasive.



My advice is: pick up some hobbies, actively look for a gf, stop thinking about gay stuff because you're not gay.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23716509 - 10/07/16 02:13 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Thank you it feels good that I've been totally honest and someone has said that.

I think I worry far too much, I think it's a cognitive problem where I can't change my stream of thought easily - mental flexibility.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #23716516 - 10/07/16 02:15 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

You dont sound gay to me. Just overly analytical and emotionally strung out. Youre a unique person, and an oddball to most folks. If youre a little gay so what, everyone is a little gay. ALso dont feel guilty about the exploration, im sure Christopher Columbus did more than just "explore new lands" on those ships if you catch my drift, and he discovered the americas, same goes for most astronauts and explorers too i bet.

Tell you what, next time a woman call you gay say, "lemme show you how gay i am", then pull her into your body, thats probably all she wanted.

And next time a guy calls you gay ask him if he wants to rub dicks together and see who gets hard first, tell him you got a lot of practice so youll probably win, and make sure to look him straight in the eyes, so he knows you are not a liar and truely are the champion.

Oh and when you do catch yourself checking a guy out like the giant homo you are, give him a compliment instead so that way he feels noticed, thats all anyone wants anyways.

Oh and btw if you werent a dude id totally have sex with you cause were really compatible and share similar thoughts, you seem like a cool person to me.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23716528 - 10/07/16 02:19 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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Anonymous said:
Thank you it feels good that I've been totally honest and someone has said that.

I think I worry far too much, I think it's a cognitive problem where I can't change my stream of thought easily - mental flexibility.



Which is why Repetiore gives good advice. A hobby will help you focus your mind off of the shit you worry about. I dunno if you just need a gf, but you definitely do need to stop worrying.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: CookieCrumbs]
    #23716556 - 10/07/16 02:30 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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Tell you what, next time a woman call you gay say, "lemme show you how gay i am", then pull her into your body, thats probably all she wanted.




Yeah, that's pretty much an open invitation as far as I'm concerned.



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Which is why Repetiore gives good advice.




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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Repertoire89]
    #23716815 - 10/07/16 03:57 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

That is fucking funny LackToast. haha. You sound like a cool dude also! (uh oh...)

Thanks all, keep talking if you like but I think I got a better perspective already.

I am definitely over analytical. I used to never stop thinking, at all, sort of part of the cognitive problems.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23717009 - 10/07/16 04:59 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

What's your sexuality?

Maybe you could figure it out and make a foundation for your self respect.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: sudly]
    #23717113 - 10/07/16 05:39 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

You know, I think I'm straight, but have absolutely nothing against homosexuals or bisexuals. Nothing. I mean, I think I get what they're trying to do it's just not my cup of tea I'm pretty sure now.

I am totally out of touch with who I am.

Just starting to touch on my true personality lately.

I don't want to brag but I think I'm very smart and it makes for snags in my self-understanding.

I mean I look outside and I see Wonderland.

I think on some level I may even know myself well I just want to play with people's heads.

It's strange, beautiful.

Thanks guys.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23717141 - 10/07/16 05:49 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

What's wrong with people thinking you're gay, though?

I'm female and I used to hit on gay guys in college

I mean I would just fall head over heels for them

It's endearing to me


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: 100_the_cat]
    #23717231 - 10/07/16 06:16 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Out of touch with who you are, inability to make decisions, act passive a fair bit, people think you're gay, you're intelligent, want to be in a relationship

Sounds like a Libra thing to me

If you're not sun in Libra I bet you have a big Libra influence elsewhere in your chart

I knew a straight guy with Mars in Libra who people thought was gay

I have Mars in Libra which is probably why I appreciate men who are gay, bisexual, or could pass as such


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: 100_the_cat]
    #23717273 - 10/07/16 06:26 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I gathered women just instantly "get over" men they think are gay, no matter what they're offering. I don't know how their minds work but it seems to be the case.

Sometimes I look at how deeply I feel for certain women, even when a woman appears on a message board, and wonder why I'm debating this.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23717305 - 10/07/16 06:37 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

I'm not against bisexuality, but I've never met a man who I found attractive.
On the other hand, I pretty much find all women physically attractive unless they're fat.

Sexuality can be pretty cut and dry, you've tried men and didn't like it, but you find women attractive.

:shrug:

Personally I would prefer to be bi, it would mean more potential sexual partners, easier to seduce.
Not attracted to men though and can't change that.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23718274 - 10/08/16 12:52 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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I gathered women just instantly "get over" men they think are gay, no matter what they're offering. I don't know how their minds work but it seems to be the case.

Sometimes I look at how deeply I feel for certain women, even when a woman appears on a message board, and wonder why I'm debating this.




"Get over"......they probably assume you're unavailable to them. I had so many experiences where I was turned down by men because they actually were gay (like REALLY GAY) that eventually I stopped approaching men who looked or acted like they might be gay.

Too late now cuz I don't do flesh anymore! Unless you gay boys just wanna cuddle :laugh:


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23726059 - 10/10/16 06:21 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

sounds like u may be asexual or just shy/unsure of yourself.

Ive been called "gay" before cause i am a subtle, non aggressive guy who doesnt have good luck with women. Its gunna happen. Alpha males are usually not called gay. Beta men like me do get called it, and it hurts :nonono:

I did go thru a period of questioning my myself "am i gay?" and came to the conclusion that i solely perv out on ladies and not guys. Ive seen a couple attractive guys, but 99% of the time, i am checking out the girls cause they hot as hell. I digress.

Also, i love cuddling as much as sex. Most men dont "love cuddling", thats a more feminine quality.

I would ask yourself: How horny am i in general? do i have a high libido or a low libido? Do i crave women or do i just kinda want them in a subtle way?

How much sexual experience do i have?

Im thinking u just need to find a women who you are most comfortable with.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #23727372 - 10/11/16 04:03 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

Very good comments thank you.

As the days go by I realise I'm dealing more with a cognitive issue than a sexual identity one.

I don't want a cock in my mouth . . . Jesus Christ.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23727660 - 10/11/16 08:41 AM (7 years, 3 months ago)

what kind of cognitive issues do u have?

I know certain types will kill a libido.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23728356 - 10/11/16 01:57 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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I gathered women just instantly "get over" men they think are gay, no matter what they're offering. I don't know how their minds work but it seems to be the case.

Sometimes I look at how deeply I feel for certain women, even when a woman appears on a message board, and wonder why I'm debating this.




I've had the same problem op. Just the other night I was told honestly I thought you were gay. I've been told that during sex. I used to get made fun of all the time growing up.

I did date a tranny but it just wasn't there for me. I loved more the person but could barely keep hard. The pheromones weren't there. Just smelled different.

Get some hobbies. Don't actively think about it. It is what it is. But women don't want nice guys they want to see that your passionate about something other than actively trying to have sex with them.

Ive found when I stop obsessing over my loneliness issues and focus on myself the women find me. Well shit that was easy. I don't even know if I want a relationship now I'm OK with doing what I'm doing.


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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: LogicaL Chaos]
    #23728723 - 10/11/16 04:11 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

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what kind of cognitive issues do u have?

I know certain types will kill a libido.



Traumatic brain injury and schizophrenia.

Both have vastly improved.

Within this situation you can kind of convince yourself of anything.

Libido is pretty good lately.

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Re: When everyone thinks you're gay but you're not interested in men? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #23728773 - 10/11/16 04:30 PM (7 years, 3 months ago)

That's all I aim for. All though I can't change the world I can only change the small community I live within. A semi truck that I helped spray paint is still making the rounds. Last I heard it's in Florida.

Don't stress on the loneliness. Your a young kid. I wish I could start over at  19. Knowing what I do now about the way the world works. Getting involved in drugs is one of them.

When I get like that nobody should love me. Which is a constant battle. I'm not OK with myself how should someone else accept me.

You described a lot of what I went through as a young kid.


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Edited by Enjoywho (10/11/16 04:42 PM)


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