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#23711963 - 10/06/16 01:25 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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So just within the past few days ive felt comfortable with the idea of seeing someone after recovering from the back lash of my last break up.
The thing is im going to be moving away in january and as a result im only looking for casual dating/sex at the moment. I dont want to lead anyone on or get into anything serious because im leaving the area so soon.
My question is, is it a good idea for me to try and ask some ladies out on casual dates before moving away or should i just wait till I get settled and start then when the possibility of something more serious can exist?
How seriously do most women take it when a man asks them out to dinner?
I dont mind if nothing sexual even comes from it at the moment, im just looking to show someone a good time and if things take a sexual nature all the better.
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Black_Sunset
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We can't really give you a true answer because that would generalize women which would probably bite you in the ass. Since you're even asking this question I would bet you're capable of effectively communicating your intentions to someone you're dating/looking to date. I would keep the first few dates fun and carefree and maintain that attitude. if you've made it that far they probably know you're plans for leaving, anyway. I say just get out there and have fun and if someone turns up, awesome
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Edited by Black_Sunset (10/06/16 01:38 AM)
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im just looking for peoples personal thoughts and opinions, not to generalize women
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pineninja
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Just be honest about your intentions, after that if it continues its smooth sailing.
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FruitOfLife
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Just be open about your intentions and she will either be ok with it or not. You could subtly bring it up in conversation by saying how you'll be moving away in January to do whatever. That lets her know you aren't looking for anything serious and then it's up to her to decide what she wants to do, whether it be to have casual sex, date, or maybe she'll decide not to see you anymore since you're unavailable.
But a lot of women go out with the intention of just getting laid. Some women don't want a relationship either so they would be relieved to find a guy like you at the time.
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Quote:
FruitOfLife said: Just be open about your intentions and she will either be ok with it or not. You could subtly bring it up in conversation by saying how you'll be moving away in January to do whatever. That lets her know you aren't looking for anything serious and then it's up to her to decide what she wants to do, whether it be to have casual sex, date, or maybe she'll decide not to see you anymore since you're unavailable.
But a lot of women go out with the intention of just getting laid. Some women don't want a relationship either so they would be relieved to find a guy like you at the time.
Couldn't put it better really
I would look, there's no reason not to be casual about it
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I see it like the hurricane thing. Some guys made their mind to bolt or not regardless of the weather conditions whereas I would have made my decision based on the circumstances of this particular storm. The girl could ultimately have a bigger impact on your life than the move is what I'm saying. Tell her you're not serious and she might bolt before you get a chance to know her. That's cool so long as you're cool with that. Personally I wouldn't do that.
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Edited by SoloTrip (10/06/16 10:50 AM)
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I would say be honest up front that's what girls really want some would be totally cool with dinner and casual sex/talking for a few months as long as they know ahead of time of ending. Trust me I've been played many times when I would have been fine without the lead on
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Much like everyone has mentioned just be honest with your intentions. Honesty is the best policy
If girls accept dates with you let them know from the get go that you're looking for something casual as you're moving soon. You're in America, I am sure that won't such a big problem for you
Congratulations btw on starting the processing of healing and acceptance 
I hope you find somebody who is wonderful
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