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Meownap
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Falling in love too easily
#23690111 - 09/29/16 10:52 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Does anyone else suffer from falling super hard for people? I'm constantly in and out of relationships because I see so much good in certain people but then they always end up being bad people so I leave. It's taking quite a toll on my psyche because I become afraid to get too close to women now in fear that I'll fall in love then break my heart again.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690120 - 09/29/16 10:54 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Define bad.
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Meownap
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: PatrickKn]
#23690128 - 09/29/16 10:57 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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They say one thing but mean another, they hurt other people for fun, they're narcissistic, they lie and cheat, etc. all around just shitty individuals. One of my ex's is a good friend now though because she got into mushrooms and is now vegan, healthy, does community activities, etc.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690139 - 09/29/16 11:00 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I tend to get attached quickly, but it doesn't really cause any problems.
Accept it for what it is, thicken your skin up.
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Meownap
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I know that other good people exist because I'm one of those good people, so I'd rather find someone willing to change for the better. After dating so many people in their 20s I've learned that they don't change easily, so now I'm talking to an 18 year old who is interested in spirituality and psychedelics and I'm hoping to introduce them to the world I reside in
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690195 - 09/29/16 11:17 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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We all reside in the same world....
Jk, you just gotta find the right one. Or wait patiently untill she finds you like mine did.
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Meownap
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True, but I guess I mean I reside in my own perspective of the world which is vastly different than most. I'm still somehow optimistic even after everything I've been through. Social media is a curse
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690205 - 09/29/16 11:20 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Not trying to be a dick, but it's a self esteem thing 99% of the time.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690208 - 09/29/16 11:21 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Meownap said: True, but I guess I mean I reside in my own perspective of the world which is vastly different than most. I'm still somehow optimistic even after everything I've been through. Social media is a curse 
I couldnt agree more about social media. Just dont give up, love will find you one day. You will most likely get sucker punched by it.
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Meownap
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Near Dylan]
#23690210 - 09/29/16 11:21 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah probably. Dunno why I have self esteem issues as I'm decent looking, kinda smart about some things, play guitar well, etc. I was raised a Mormon though so I probably still have psychological issues from the religious indoctrination
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690218 - 09/29/16 11:24 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Meownap said: Yeah probably. Dunno why I have self esteem issues as I'm decent looking, kinda smart about some things, play guitar well, etc. I was raised a Mormon though so I probably still have psychological issues from the religious indoctrination
Fuck yeah, chicks dig guitar.... If you play it they will come.
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I've found that to be true, especially with my style. I pretty much stick to DAEAC#E and play with heavy finger style and harmonics. Open mic night is always a blast.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690237 - 09/29/16 11:30 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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There you go, now to step it up go to a coffe shop, meet someone, find out some of their fav songs, learn to play one and your golden.
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Meownap
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Thanks spirit, you're a kind soul  Time to go to work
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690256 - 09/29/16 11:35 AM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anytime man
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Yea im a head over heels guy too often.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: Meownap]
#23690421 - 09/29/16 12:33 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I have a Facebook "friend" (she was a childhood friend, but we haven't seen each other in like 17 years) who falls hard & fast for every guy she dates. A few times a year, she has a new "love of her life- this time it's for real, everyone!" And invariably the relationship falls apart in a few weeks or months. I feel bad for her because it looks really painful. I know how I've felt when it doesn't work out with someone I cared about a lot, and I can't imagine going through that like 3 times a year. I think she knows she's getting older and is desperate to get married, but she's got a broken picker when it comes to men, and she doesn't know how to properly protect herself.
But the thing of it that makes me not feel too bad for her is that she KNOWS better. I can't figure out why she keeps throwing herself headlong into these intense situations when she should just be dating casually & maintaining a healthy distance from the heavy emotions. I get making a few mistakes, but seriously, it happens so often that it just looks like self-flagellation by now. Maybe she's incapable of helping herself. I think she's put a lot of stock into the idea that she's gonna meet Mr. Perfect and just like *that* everything will fall into place in her life.
Anyway, sorry you go through that, OP. I don't actually have any advice for you that I'm sure you haven't thought of yourself (be guarded, take it slow, look for happiness in other areas of your life, etc.), I'm just kinda ruminating on the topic. Good luck.
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Re: Falling in love too easily [Re: The Moose]
#23690428 - 09/29/16 12:35 PM (7 years, 3 months ago) |
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I tend to get all puppy dog love too, doesn't happen often, but it does happen.. that's why I smoke weed and do the porn thang every once in a while, cuz it keeps me on my toes, keeps the ears sharp.
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Burke Dennings said: I think she's put a lot of stock into the idea that she's gonna meet Mr. Perfect and just like *that* everything will fall into place in her life.
I wonder where that kind of programming comes from.............
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oh shit yea... i fucking fall for the girls in the deli who smile at me ahahahhhah
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