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Anonymous #1
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My girl got fat
#23688158 - 09/28/16 07:42 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Since i've met her she has put on weight. I mean I care a lot about this woman but I got to admit i'm afraid to take her around my family and friends because I don't want them to know i'm dating a fat chick.
I don't have the balls to break up with her because I actually care about her. How do I get her to work out or get her to change her life style with out coming out and saying "you're fat do something about it."
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Anonymous #2
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With my girl i would say something along the lines of "hey you know what would be fun, if we started working out together." Probably not exactly that but just an idea.
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Anonymous #3
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^ Say you want to lose weight yourself then lead by example. If that fails, come out and say "you're fat, do something about it."
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Anonymous #4
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pics or you're lying
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Anonymous #5
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lol just start taking her out on "random" hikes. The both of you will do some physical activity out in nature, you wont be coming off as a dick and she'll burn some fucking calories.
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Anonymous #6
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If you care about her like you say, then be straight up honest with her. Don't "fool" her into physical activity. You don't have to be mean or rude about not wanting her to be overweight. I'm sure she has expectations of what she wants from you, it's a two way street relationships are you know?
Or you can always just turn into an overweight slob an be happy together? Two peas in a pod.
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Anonymous #7
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Ive tried the "I want to lose weight, will you help me" line. It wont work, ask any woman here. She knows she is gaining weight.
Are you two early 20s? Im guessing a couple years out of HS. At least thats when mine began to put on weight fast. That and your insecurity of what someone else thinks about you "cuz youre with a fat chick" lends more to a younger age. Ever think to yourself how much it would hurt her to know you look at her, and instead of seeing the beautiful individual who makes you feel right in this world, you are in fact judging her?
Turn societies magnifying glass on yourself friend. Your going to see just how ugly you are to them as well. Got a dick that is shorter or thinner than the Adonises in porn? Maybe she should look at you with disappointment everyday.
Be careful OP, if you do love her, you need to tread carefully into this. Dont leave her cuz she is getting fat, you will hurt her heart in such an aweful way. Talk to her, but the right things to say, I dont think anyone here but you could find the right words.
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Anonymous #1
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I don't need to lose weight though. I just naturally look athletic and fit. If I said "you're fat do something about it" that would fuck her up.
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Anonymous #8
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The best way to look healthy is to eat healthy. Has your girl been eating fast food a lot or something?
Also exercising is needed.
Dieting + exercising = good body, and mind
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Anonymous #9
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said: I don't need to lose weight though. I just naturally look athletic and fit.
Your not working out for you, it's for her. Who cares what friends and family think? If they are true friends and fam theyll just be glad your happy. If you love her it shouldn't matter. It's a shame your so caught up on looks and willing to possibly give it all up over a couple pounds which can be lost.
The grass always seems greener on the other side brotha!
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Anonymous #10
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Under no circumstances should you hint or tell her she's fat. That'll make it worse. It's a trap. Just go buy both of you a gym membership and get her to go with you. And every time you eat together, make sure it's something healthy. Working out will make her feel good about herself. Telling her she's fat will kill her and her sex drive and possibly make her eat more.
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Anonymous #11
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You're not doing it right if you can't fuck the extra pounds off her.
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Anonymous #9
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Quote:
Anonymous #11 said: You're not doing it right if you can't fuck the extra pounds off her. 
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Anonymous #1
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She talks about how shes fat or has gotten fat all the time.
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Anonymous #7
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That doesnt mean she wants the guy she loves to reinforce that on her, friend. Im truly beginning to feel very sorry for her, I hope she finds the one who loves her without to much heart ache on the way.
I remember thinking like you. It made me feel awful, I hope you begin to see things with more clarity and empathy.
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Anonymous #1
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I don't feel good about judging her for her weight. The truth is it's embarrassing bringing her around friends and family and being known as the dude with the fat chick. I'm not going to break up with her or anything but if this becomes a pattern of behavior, being fat and not doing anything about it I will eventually have to break up with her.
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Anonymous #7
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Can we ask what you consider fat? Whats her height and weight?
My girl has struggled with her weight ever since she got out of HS, I used to think the same as you, and it bothered me that I could look at her and think something like that, when I know she didnt look at me and think that kind of stuff. Im also more naturally fit like you, still am.
Then I realized just how unimportant that was. I encourage her all the time, struggle thru healthy meals I dont want, and when she asks me if shes fat, I can honestly tell her she is so beautiful to me. Shes never stopped being the same girl I fell in love with.
Edited by Anonymous (09/30/16 09:26 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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She's 4'11 I don't know how much she weighs. I don't have the balls to ask. She used to weigh 89 lbs.
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Anonymous #12
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I suggest looking into chia & flax seed mix.
If it's over eating that is the problem, which it may not, chia and flax seed both (though specifically chia seed) have been known to help people reduce weight significantly. It expands in your stomach making you feel fuller as well as a few other things; it's really nutritious too.
It's not a single magick bullet but little things like that can help.
#7 had a solid post, be there for her.
She sounds like a cute little munchkin
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Anonymous #1
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She is, I do love her. Her tits have gotten enormous too and they are busting out of every bra she has. I'm still attracted to her, but idk how much longer that will last if she keeps gaining weight. Her feet are so small she has to wear children's size shoes
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