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OfflineThe5thElement
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Any advice?
    #23676638 - 09/25/16 12:30 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I think I need to quit drugs, and by drugs I mean weed. I mean, I enjoy it a lot but I think I need to clear my head to get an understanding of where I am right now.

Life is all, not that bad. I've got a job I enjoy and it pays well and I live comfortably. I pretty much don't have anything finacially worrying me, I'm saving money every month; but I just don't feel like I'm enjoying my time here living.

I have a girlfreind I love, but we recently had to stop living together. I wont say the reason why because I think it would steer the direction of this thread in a way that I don't find neccessary, but I will say that it had to be this way and in the end I think it to be fine. It may be another year before we can live together again and I see her usually 2 days a week now.

I need space anyways, I've always been that way. I can only be around people for so long; perhaps Its because I've never met someone who I wanted to be around all the time. except for past and present lovers.

I duno, I feel like no matter what we are always alone.

Like in the end it's always just us, we share this world with other people that we let into our lifes but always we are alone when it comes down to it. Is this how I should feel? Do people feel like this?

Even on the days I feel really down, I always think that I feel this way because I let myself feel it; in-that-way.

I can always find a reason to feel better, at least appreciative of what I have and how much worse I could have it.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: The5thElement] * 2
    #23676759 - 09/25/16 01:16 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Charles Dickens wrote on this very topic in the opening chapter of A Tale of Two Cities.
He describes a scene involving four people riding in a horse-drawn carriage in the frigid night. Everyone in the carriage is so bundled up to protect themselves from the cold that hardly anything but their eyes is visible. It is this observation that prompts Dickens's narrator to explain that, no matter how close we get to someone, there is always the secret core of our individuality, completely unknown to anyone else but ourselves. Like two ships passing in the night.

While that slightly discouraging notion does seem to be true, it simply poses another question. Rather than asking "how can I feel more connected to others so that I may be happy?"
the nature of individuality asks: "how can I feel more connected to myself so that I may be happy?( in order to pass it along to others as well )"

With the latter question, it's not about feeling your individuality removed from yourself and with it your loneliness, but about the art of learning how to be happy as yourself.

Sure, interconnectedness, socializing, relationships, these are all crucial and important to a fulfilled life, but it starts within our own selves. The real crux of happiness is becoming comfortable in our own skin, not actually 'needing' anyone else to be happy.

I think that the practices of Eastern introspection, primarily from Buddhist and Yogic traditions ( Hinduism too ) offer profound tools of navigation through the self, by training the mind, to voyage inward on the blank map of the self.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: Chakra Shock]
    #23678362 - 09/25/16 11:08 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Don't think I've ever seen a dickens reference in this section,great writer


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Re: Any advice? [Re: The5thElement]
    #23678655 - 09/26/16 03:08 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Give it up, there's nothing wrong with it and especially for the intention you are doing it for.

By the look of it you don't sound that bad, sometimes the little things can make you feel these ways but it's nothing to worry about, just do something to take your mind out of that set and you'll feel better:smile:

I feel this way a lot too, I enjoy socializing but I like my solitude, in reality I am the best friend of myself.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: The5thElement]
    #23680788 - 09/26/16 06:40 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I've been looking for the time to reply to this thread, but CS has done so quite perfectly already.

Nice post man CS, fucking 5 stars.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: Chakra Shock]
    #23684081 - 09/27/16 06:26 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Thank you all for your replys, I needed some time to digest what's been said.
Chakra what you've said really hits home, It's a question that I need to spend time thinking about.


"how can I feel more connected to myself so that I may be happy?


Right now, I don't know what else to say; other than thank you for the entire message-not just what I've quoted. I need more time to find meaning in it.

I think being sober is the right call for now, I tend to indulge in order to escape questioning myself and facing who I am right now, in this moment.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: The5thElement]
    #23685635 - 09/28/16 07:32 AM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Yeah, The first line of your op was that you thought you needed to quit weed but that was the last anything was said about it.

Oftentimes, we over think and over analyze things to the point of absolute confusion while  the most logical action is overlooked. Your situation sounds a lot like my own at a young age. Weed made me anxious and slow witted, but I kept smoking it. When I finally decided to give it up, my real personality started coming out and it was not nearly as dreary as tho old one. Give it a try and see where it takes you...it certainly won't make things worse.:sunny::peace:


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Re: Any advice? [Re: Thayendanegea]
    #23688008 - 09/28/16 07:09 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

I've quit it many times, sometimes for years. If i were to be utterly honest with myself, and I  have stated it before- I am much better off without it.

That's just me being honest.

People are different but I am far more focused and disciplined when I'm not using. It's wierd because even tho I think it brings me benefites, its blatant cons are always there. It's just my fault, I'm not blaming weed. I just get lazy, and that's on me.

I feel like I need to do more, so I guess the logical thing would be to just stop for a while.


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Re: Any advice? [Re: The5thElement]
    #23688072 - 09/28/16 07:25 PM (7 years, 4 months ago)

Quit the weed.  I know I'm in a minority on this opinion, but it makes you stupid (and hungry....).

Mushrooms and other psychedelics have the potential to change the way you think in a very positive way.

Weed just makes you stupid.

You can smoke until you are stoned out of your mind and wake up to a hang over with the same problems that you just forgot about plus a few more.


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