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goldcaphunter
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Fucking tired of regretting interactions 2
#23657483 - 09/19/16 12:31 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm sick and tired of the way my brain works in social situations. Even around people I see on a regular basis I just say things that tend to catch people off gaurd.
As soon as I see the confusion/offense on their face I just instantly know I fucked up again. I don't so much care when I do this to strangers, but when this happens to my friends I feel like such a piece of shit.
I often find myself running the fucked social encounter of the day through my head over and over when I'm trying to relax.
If you're confused by what I'm saying just picture Brick from anchorman.

Idk. Maybe I'm taking their micro reactions to heart to much. I just want to interact with people and be satisfied with the experience. I don't want to keep thinking about how awkward I make things anymore.
I mean I stopped socializing completely for a really long time. And now that I'm trying to interact again I realize that I burned all my bridges in the first place because of this exact problem.
TLDR: I'm an awkward fuck. Are you?
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657491 - 09/19/16 12:34 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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nah man, i think you are just too concerned. youll be ok..
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657506 - 09/19/16 12:43 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just turn your socially awkward interactions into funny interactions. You can say pretty outlandish things that aren't quite socially right if you make them funny. It's all in the delivery. If you say something that raises an eyebrow, follow it with a "you know..." then just escalate whatever it is you said to the next level of absurdity and make it a joke of itself.
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goldcaphunter
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: abltsandwich]
#23657518 - 09/19/16 12:49 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks guys. I wish it didn't bother me as much as it does.
As of recently the frequency and intensity of my problem seem to have drastically increased. It's like I'm just along for the ride while I'm saying something and my brain just fires out whatever bullshit it can come up with :/
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657544 - 09/19/16 01:14 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I feel you man. I have the same problem. Sometimes I almost ended my jokes in a fight just because all I say just come out differently than I intend it to. I have really bad social skills, like you. It's almost like people heard different things than I do when I'm talking. Guys above are right. Whatever you resist presists. Just conciously try to ignore their micro reactions, and go with your own awkward style. You'll get away with anything if you don't give a fuck and just stay true to yourself despite being clearly odd.
I'm a singer and my body language on stage is very awkward. When I say it out loud and escalate it (I mean saying you're awkward out loud on stage is the most awkward thing you can do ) people always laugh and there is immediate connection built. It's clichΓ© but you have to be yourself no matter what, otherwise you're a blind man spending his whole life being mad that he's blind. (weird metaphore, but hopefully it hits )
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657547 - 09/19/16 01:16 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I get awkard in social situations too, i never know what to say 
Be happy u have something you wanna say instead of nothing to say
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657550 - 09/19/16 01:20 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Being socially awkward isn't as bad as being socially awkward with AIDS.
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Edited by ruaware (12/06/16 02:31 AM)
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: abltsandwich]
#23657559 - 09/19/16 01:28 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'll give you some advice that a wise friend once told me. No one gives a fuck about your social faux pas, mainly because most everyone is too concerned with their own social faux pas to be concerned with your own.
I used to be pretty socially awkward until i stopped giving a fuck about what strangers thought of me, as my friends know and accept who I am.
To confirm your suspicion, you are reading too much into micro-reactions as they will most likely be forgotten within 24hrs. Not to say that you shouldn't try to improve yourself socially so interactions are less stressful, but really dude, everyone is weird and just trying to fit in.
Normality is an illusion, even the most popular people I know in college are weird at their core.
The best you can do is to just try and enjoy the ride.
Edited by falsereality (09/19/16 01:29 AM)
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I'm tired but I'm going to say I just probably lost out on a tution fee because I have so much social awkwardness and was insulted by an asshole teacher, I'm grieving and going through a lot generally but I was wrong. Don't know if it helps but it's applicable good luck ponyboy
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23657594 - 09/19/16 02:08 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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goldcaphunter
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: Great Scott]
#23658223 - 09/19/16 09:22 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's definitely good to hear that I'm not the only socially ignorant person
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23658242 - 09/19/16 09:32 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm in your boat OP. I just stopped caring.
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: Great Scott]
#23658246 - 09/19/16 09:34 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
PeyoteZen said:

lol. goldcap, I think most people on here are socially awkward irl but its cool cus it just means that you suck at being a conformist. So be proud of it and you wont relive those moments so much.
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: mt cleverest]
#23658272 - 09/19/16 09:42 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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If you cease to give a shit, then its end of problem.
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: mescalator]
#23658279 - 09/19/16 09:46 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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OP, have you tried meditation? It can illuminate just how much bullshit goes around in our heads.
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Re: Fucking tired of regretting interactions [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23658297 - 09/19/16 09:55 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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What you said wasnt that bad, you're reaction to their reaction though is terrible. You're focusing on the negativity almost exclusively and producing a fight or flight response where there is no danger. Then you usually throw yourself in a thought loop and ruminate for days after. You aint got no chill bruh.
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