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Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3.
#23655713 - 09/18/16 01:28 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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He arrives after 4. Im a big planner so this irritates me but maybe im being a bit impatient. What does the community think about people being late when they say one thing and show up later than they said without warning?
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui] 13
#23655723 - 09/18/16 01:32 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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If you were as big a planner as you say, you would have planned for people being late.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: PatrickKn]
#23655729 - 09/18/16 01:33 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Oh I am. I knew they would be late. I can never tell how late though. It still pisses me off cause im really critical about time and I always let people know ill be late if I will be.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655743 - 09/18/16 01:37 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I go through the same thing with a lot if people. Sometimes it's understandable as people work and are busy but others it really pisses me off... When I was a kid I had two asshole friends who would call me and ask to hang out.
They would call early to mid day then I wouldn't hear from them until it was getting dark when they would suddenly show up wanting to smoke my weed and eat my food and then crash at my place... Needless to say I got fed up and am not friends with either anymore.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655754 - 09/18/16 01:41 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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U just gotta tell them to come at 2:00 if u want them to actually come at 3:00, my friends and I always say we r gunna meet earlier than we actually do, normally about 30 minutes later, but If its something where you have to be prompt then thats a bit of a diff situation. Ex. If my friends and I are going to drop acid, I like to take it a 7 in the morning (so i can sleep at night), I say come at 7, and if they don't come on time I drop with out them, their loss, but I stress the urgency
If we are just going to hang out and play video games and I say come at 7, then its cool if they come at 8, but being more than an hour late becomes annoying
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: musiclover420]
#23655762 - 09/18/16 01:43 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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It feels like I'm ALWAYS waiting on other people. I'm ALWAYS early or perfectly on time.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655763 - 09/18/16 01:43 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Depends what he's arriving for...
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655774 - 09/18/16 01:46 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Depends on the situation. If we like, said we're gonna meet at 3 the following day or early on in that morning and they showed up at 4, probably wouldn't care much. If it was important they be on time I'd probably text them about 15 minutes ahead of time to make sure they're going to show up on time. What pisses me off is when they say "I'm otw" and then show up like an hour or 2 later. Don't fucking say otw if you're not otw. Otw means you're already traveling in my direction, so there's no reason it should take you 2 hours to complete a 5 minute drive.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: goldcaphunter]
#23655885 - 09/18/16 02:30 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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goldcaphunter said: It feels like I'm ALWAYS waiting on other people. I'm ALWAYS early or perfectly on time.
Yeah I am the same way usually which is why its extra annoying sometimes. I hate being considerate of others only to never have the gesture returned
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: Shroomslip]
#23655907 - 09/18/16 02:36 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I always add 4 hours to anytime my mother comes to visit for family functions. Some people you just have to plan ahead for lol
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui] 1
#23655930 - 09/18/16 02:42 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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If you think about it, throughout your entire life you probably spend a decent amount of time waiting.
I wish there were, like, your own personal statistics for when you die.
Time spent waiting: Opportunities: x/10000 (ex.) Potential deaths (instances where you could have died had something gone slightly different): etc.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655940 - 09/18/16 02:45 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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It depends on what is going on at 3. If I've told someone to come by at 3 so we can catch a movie that starts at 4, then I might be a bit miffed if they show up at 4. But if we're just chillin', like sitting around the house with no real plans, then I don't really care if they come by an or or three late. I don't really get bothered by stuff that is no big deal.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: PatrickKn]
#23655956 - 09/18/16 02:48 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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PatrickKn said: If you were as big a planner as you say, you would have planned for people being late. 
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: shadyy]
#23655971 - 09/18/16 02:56 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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i hate liz said: If you think about it, throughout your entire life you probably spend a decent amount of time waiting.
I wish there were, like, your own personal statistics for when you die.
Time spent waiting: Opportunities: x/10000 (ex.) Potential deaths (instances where you could have died had something gone slightly different): etc.
I really hope there is something like that too. Perhaps if life truly is just some sort of simulation at the end of "the game" we will see our "scores" 
Would be crazy to see all the food you consumed throughout your life, all the air you breathed and water you drank. All the microorganisms you crushed 
Personally I would be interested to see all the cannabis I will have smoked by the time I die... And all the people we have affected even in miniscule ways.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: musiclover420]
#23655976 - 09/18/16 02:57 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, see, you get it.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23655980 - 09/18/16 02:58 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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maui said: He arrives after 4. Im a big planner so this irritates me but maybe im being a bit impatient. What does the community think about people being late when they say one thing and show up later than they said without warning?
He shouldnt have said 3 because he fucked up your plans even though you did make an effort to make it work out.
If it really was an accident and he meant to come sooner (i highly doubt it and here is why) then he should have called at 2:50 or something and tell you he is running late so you arent waiting around for hin wasting your time.
I always tell people ill be there a bit later than i know i could get there so incase i loose track of time or suddenly have to do something i dont mess up there plans.
He probably knew he wouldnt be there by three but thought it would make you happy if you said that u would be there sooner. In reality it would have been better if he had told the truth so you werent waiting on someone.
People are really dumb but atleast he didnt say he will be there then just jot show up and ignore your messages until he wanted to chill. That happens way too often.
My cosuin does that and this new guy my friend introduced to our group of friends does it apperently. He has been really chill to hang out with and we hit it off right away but last week he made plans to chill then ignored my message even though he was active. I was supposed to give him shrooms to try with us because he has never tripped (well he tried salvia) but fuck that im not sharing my shrooms and i doubt ill even hit him up again tbh. He did the same thing to another guy in my friend group except they were supposed to go to a show so it was even worse.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: BANANA.MAN]
#23655989 - 09/18/16 03:00 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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i hate liz said: If you think about it, throughout your entire life you probably spend a decent amount of time waiting.
I wish there were, like, your own personal statistics for when you die.
Time spent waiting: Opportunities: x/10000 (ex.) Potential deaths (instances where you could have died had something gone slightly different): etc.
death-clock.org is probably the closest thing you will find to that
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: spirit_shadow]
#23656013 - 09/18/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Or if it were like a Scrooge-type scenario, where you see all these different outcomes...
That'd be pretty bad ass.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: shadyy]
#23656297 - 09/18/16 04:57 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't mind people being late, I just appreciate ETAs and heads ups.
I used to be such a huge flake myself, and I'm not saying I'm never late, but I try really hard to let people now how late I'm running/when I'm leaving, etc etc, and now I cannot stand flakiness. I have an ex who has been bugging me to hang out repeatedly, he's an old ex we worked together for a bit, and we're genuinely pretty good friends, but man, I gave him all the dates I was available and times and I swear as soon as I make an effort to make myself available(sometimes pushing off other things) the guy just fucking disappears. It's so aggravating.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: pirate-blues]
#23656664 - 09/18/16 06:59 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Honestly I have been in a car waiting for one person for 3 hours once for someone that needed to be picked up but that person was a dealer/friend. That was too long . 1 hour should roll off your back
Btw reply fail
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: Seriously_trippin]
#23656700 - 09/18/16 07:11 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have a mate who is persistently an hour or more late. Always.
Drives me mad as if i say ill be here at three, im there ten minutes before, we say we will chill have smoke come to my place at 9, 10pm i can still be waiting and really pisses me off sat waiting about on a night off work. Hate it
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: Spellbound]
#23656849 - 09/18/16 08:00 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I know which of my friends are the "laggers" so i plan for them to be late anyways lol
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: musiclover420]
#23656863 - 09/18/16 08:03 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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oh man if i had a dollar for so called friends exactly like that especially when i just got my new place id be a rich, rich man.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: ScuDDii]
#23656996 - 09/18/16 08:54 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Friend-A leaves in a delorian traveling 88 miles an hour towards point-X which is a distance of 60 miles away, while friend-B is currently en route via a greyhound. If friend-B is 27 hours deep in a 28 hour bus ride to point-X, which friend will be the flaky one to arrive late?
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: maui]
#23657014 - 09/18/16 09:00 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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An hour late is nothen Op Ive had asshole friends say they are gonna be over in an hour at 8pm So i proceed to start a fire and trip Theydont show up till 12 or 1 i was pissed, happened several occasions Here they got stuck at there pot dealers house so they said
sorry had to reminensce.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: Mental Taco]
#23657201 - 09/18/16 10:19 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah..I've literally disappeared off the earth for like a day or two because I got "distracted" on the way to a friends house, and vice versa.
That was acceptable when I was <20 years of age, but I won't put my friend's through that shit and I won't be put through it now, I at least have the decency to text and reschedule or delay(ideally well before we're supposed to meet).
It might seem spontaneous and fun and devil may care, and it certainly did to me at one time, but as soon as I grew up I realized that I was just being an asshole to the people who were wasting their time waiting around for me.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: pirate-blues] 1
#23657955 - 09/19/16 06:55 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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It wasnt acceptable when you were under 20. It never was, its always been extermely rude and selfish, you got their hopes and then kept them waiting on you.
I have never in my life told someone i would chill if i wasnt going to and i would never cancel plans without letting the person know no matter how young i was.
Its awesome that you made the change though. Not everybody takes the opportunity to improve themselves like that. Thats a good quality
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: BANANA.MAN]
#23668414 - 09/22/16 03:05 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, I realize that now. And I never made plans with people knowing that they would fall through anyways, I was spontaneously rude not deliberately rude - but it's all the same to the person getting flaked on so it doesn't matter anyways.
I think it was more a low self worth thing, part of me just didn't think it was that big a deal and didn't think that they really gave that much of a shit about me so it didn't matter anyways. Suffice to say, I have learned the error of my ways.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: pirate-blues]
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Waiting for weed was the worse. When money is on the line and there aren't a lot of options. Plus the risk of being criminal.
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Re: Your friend tells you he will arive slightly after 3. [Re: Sanguin3]
#23668723 - 09/22/16 05:00 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah exactly
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