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How to become more mature (define mature)?
#23651763 - 09/16/16 10:58 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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How would you define mature, and how would you recommend speeding up the development of maturity?
I'm in my mid-twenties and sometimes I've felt like I'm slightly behind in terms of maturity. I look back on certain times in my life and realized they would have gone a lot better if I had just been a year or two more mature.
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Re: How to become more mature (define mature)? [Re: SkagitHunter]
#23651779 - 09/16/16 11:05 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Nice try.
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In what context? Overall I would say maturity just means knowing what your priorities are, knowing what to take seriously and when to take things seriously. I'd also say nothing speeds up maturity like dealing with hard times.
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You gotta admit the subject of the post makes it seem like someone recently told you to grow up.
In all seriousness that's a tough one. There are many different areas of our life and maturity is applied to each one differently. It might be helpful to know what you are referring too.
Since "being more mature" is an ambiguous goal, try making some goals that are more clearly defined. For example, if you are acting impulsively try thinking things out. If you are overreacting try practicing some restraint.
You could google a list of immature traits/behaviors. Then see which ones apply to you. From there you have a path towards "being more mature." You need to know what you are fighting. "Being more mature" is like saying, "I'd like to be richer," but having no path to get there.
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Wait...just noticed that last sentence.."a year or two more mature"..what does that even mean?
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Re: How to become more mature (define mature)? [Re: SkagitHunter]
#23651865 - 09/16/16 11:54 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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SkagitHunter said: You gotta admit the subject of the post makes it seem like someone recently told you to grow up. .
That seems like a pretty unreasonable assumption...telling someone to grow up is usually just used as a general, pejorative figure of speech and not a literal command. If someone told me to grow up, I would recognize it as an intended insult and not take it seriously. The only type of person I can imagine going on the Internet and asking how to grow up because they were told to grow up is a really young child.
"Immature" may or may not have been the best word to use though..."insight" might have been a better word. Regardless, when I look back on my past I just realize that I had a lot of wasted opportunities because I lacked the insight, vision, or whatever word you want to use, to realize the value of those opportunities.
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Re: How to become more mature (define mature)? [Re: Eminence]
#23651866 - 09/16/16 11:56 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Eminence said: Wait...just noticed that last sentence.."a year or two more mature"..what does that even mean? 
Maturity is measured in units of years. You didn't know this?
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I guess it's just another case of hindsight being 20/20. But I would like to be able to view the present as if it were my future past, if that makes sense.
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Physical maturity's easier to measure in years, yeah. Seems pretty hit or miss to measure mental maturity by years though, is all I was getting at. Anyway, not the point. Hindsight's a bitch though, you're not alone in thinking things would've worked out better in the past if done differently. Maybe you're just overthinking things and it's getting to you
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Damn bro calm down. I made a funny. Then I sincerely answered your question.
If "insight" is your goal than you are on the right path. You talk about "missed opportunities." Each one of those is a lesson learned and wisdom gained. You can't expedite wisdom. But seriously, google traits of an immature person and highlight those that apply. Those are areas to work on. Google traits of a mature person and make a list of things to work towards.
Edited by SkagitHunter (09/17/16 12:29 AM)
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Re: How to become more mature (define mature)? [Re: Eminence]
#23651953 - 09/17/16 01:03 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Eminence said: Physical maturity's easier to measure in years, yeah. Seems pretty hit or miss to measure mental maturity by years though, is all I was getting at. Anyway, not the point. Hindsight's a bitch though, you're not alone in thinking things would've worked out better in the past if done differently. Maybe you're just overthinking things and it's getting to you 
I was joking about the maturity thing lol. Obviously maturity can't really be quantified.
Anyways yeah. It's just in the past there some really stupid things that I did, and I let some golden opportunities slip through my fingers. I'm just having a hard time coming to terms with how I wasted them. However, I feel the constructive response would be to look to prevent such waste of opportunities in the future, which is why I started this thread.
I figure that it would be wise to do now what will make my future self the happiest. Invest in future happiness, basically...but the problem is that I don't know what my future self will be like, so I don't know how to please it.
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Re: How to become more mature (define mature)? [Re: SkagitHunter]
#23651962 - 09/17/16 01:07 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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SkagitHunter said: Damn bro calm down. I made a funny. Then I sincerely answered your question.
If "insight" is your goal than you are on the right path. You talk about "missed opportunities." Each one of those is a lesson learned and wisdom gained. You can't expedite wisdom. But seriously, google traits of an immature person and highlight those that apply. Those are areas to work on. Google traits of a mature person and make a list of things to work towards.
If I wanted to Google something obviously I would have used Google...I'm trying to have an in=depth conversation about the issue with real-life cyberpeople. I'm also just kind of brainstorming as I go and it's nice to have people to bounce ideas off of, which I thank everyone for helping in that regard.
Anyways it's pretty late where I'm at so I'm hitting the hay; will continue this thread tomorrow on my end.
Good night everyone.
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I see why you asked this question.
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Maturity to me:
realizing that good things take time not being afraid to walk away from either bad or good things being on time, and prepared to what I expect to do that day treating sleep and nutrition as a foundation of basic health treating other people the way I would want to be treated owning your mistakes as a learning experience.
But mostly maturity is having the wisdom of fucking up many many times and having learned from at least a few of those experiences. Through these experiences you know yourself better than a 'immature' person.
Most things aren't the end of the world. Keeping it all in perspective that you got some food on the table and that no one died today you are doing pretty good.
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About the sleep and nutrition part. Some people who might be considered mature seem to work themselves to death and are out of shape. Do you really feel that aspect is relevant to maturity? Just asking.
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Depends on the person's priorities I suppose. Eating and sleeping is what is keeping you alive. Eat some vegis, stay away from the cheezies and cola and get enough sleep every night.
Naturally anyone with kids will laugh at the sleeping part, but manage your time so you are well rested if you can. You aren't gaining anything in life by staying up all night watching mediocre movies and being tired the next day.
I guess both of those points have to do with putting off the immediate cheap gratification and putting in the time to do it right.
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I remembered something I wanted to ask on this topic for awhile. I made a thread in the Pub that relates to it (here) , if you want to contribute to that. But I think I'll give a shortened version here in this thread of what I wanted to ask as it directly relates to maturity.
I have noticed that many grown adults have to be different things to different people - husband/wife to their spouse, mother/father to their child(ren), a coworker at work, subordinate to their boss, boss to their subordinate, a professional, etc.
Would you consider these alteregos and do you think that developing different alteregos is a necessary component to maturity?
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Every man wears different hats at different times.
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