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Jokeshopbeard
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Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? 1
#23628232 - 09/09/16 07:23 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Something that was said in another thread. I've talked with a few about this before, but never a group like ours. I suspect there is a correlation, hoping you guys can help me prove it.
So, like I think most of us do, I began to emotionally divorce myself from my parents at 14-15. They were old and boring - I foolishly thought I knew better. The next 3 years were wild, ferral.
Then I met my first long term GF @ 18. She was being fostered. Her foster mum said, in very straight words, if you want to see this girl, you're going to have to come and eat at my table with me. So I did. And over the years it became a weekly tradition.
She was a very wise woman, who, 14 years later, is still one of my best friends. But what she did at the time was take this aggressive, feral kid, and teach him to look at his behaviour. No easy task, my parents had no chance. I count myself as so, so lucky to have met her, she was like a mum that took over where mine could not handle me, and taught me so much. The more 'worldly wise' (and I don't necessarily mean to say that means believing you make the best decisions or anything, just feeling that you see through the 'matrix' that fools so many) people I have met all seem to have had a mentor come along in their life.
Do you think it's possible that having someone wise come into your life is necessary to make the best of it? Or with enough experimentation could we gain right understanding (as in, inner peace)? Is a mentor required?
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Jokeshopbeard] 1
#23630929 - 09/09/16 10:53 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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i've had teachers/influential people in my life, but not a mentor. i've learned a lot from people but find i learn more from other peoples' mistakes or bad examples than i do from direct instruction or positive examples.
everything else i've learned through trial and error
also, you made me think of "the understudy" episode of seinfeld
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: demiu5]
#23630975 - 09/09/16 11:08 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Never had a mentor. I made my bad choices all on my own. All my parents did was literally scream at me about my pot smoking which did nothing to deter me from using hard drugs.
I think I'm fine now. I don't think having a mentor is necessary to be a good person.
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Lucis
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I have never had a mentor in my life, or anything remotely close to that.
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Lucis]
#23631327 - 09/10/16 03:38 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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everyone has the potential to be a mentor if u look at it right.. even the worst of the worst have something to teach..
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: zZZz]
#23631668 - 09/10/16 09:02 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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My mother was my mentor and still is today
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Lucis]
#23631675 - 09/10/16 09:06 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Fennario said: I have never had a mentor in my life, or anything remotely close to that.
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Patlal]
#23631682 - 09/10/16 09:11 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm only 19, but as of yet, I haven't had anyone in my life that I'd consider a mentor.
Psychedelics have been the closest thing to one for me. Have been by my side showing me where to improve as I mature into an adult and I'm forever grateful, as I'm sure many of us are.
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: I Love Lucid]
#23631783 - 09/10/16 10:09 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Never for long
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23632273 - 09/10/16 12:42 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I had a very influential world Issues teacher in high school Who I ended up going to Costa Rica with and he really opened my mind and kick started my academic career .
I also had an Egyptian Judo sensei who forced me to compete in tournaments when otherwise I wouldn't have and kick started my Martial arts career.
I also have a same age friend who is very spiritually enlightened and has been a huge spiritual inspiration and got me into vegetable gardening and ecological homesteading .
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badchad
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: Jokeshopbeard]
#23632699 - 09/10/16 02:55 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, I've had several. I've been lucky that at most phases of my career and education, my boss and advisors have served dual roles as mentors as well.
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Re: Have you had a 'mentor' growing up? [Re: badchad]
#23632760 - 09/10/16 03:11 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe my dad.
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