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SyzygisticSoul
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Looking for support
#23609698 - 09/03/16 10:51 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Been living and dealing with my drug addicted wife for 2 years now. It started with pain killer but now she takes everything that will numb and kill emotion and sobriety. It has progressively gotten worse and now it's completely out of hand.
She got kicked out of rehab last month for swapping medication, then relapsed two weeks later. She complains about migraine headaches and the doctor prescribed her vanatol which she is now abusing. Her family has given up on her and has told me to take her to a shelter. I can not give up on her but I hate constantly seeing her strung out and mumbling bullshit. I find that I can't trust a word she says cause she is constantly lying about everything.
She is currently passed out beside me all drugged up in bed. I don't want to give up on her but I'm losing my sanity with this shit. I could really use some supportive words right about now.
Edited by SyzygisticSoul (09/03/16 10:58 PM)
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Weiliithinker
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Ibogaine
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1234go
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Are you a user yourself?
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Jokeshopbeard
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PM me about this, I have recently been through very, very similar. Just out the other side, it nearly killed me. I have free international phonecalls next 2 weeks so maybe we can have a talk about it, if you feel it would help.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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SyzygisticSoul
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I do not use. I don't even drink.
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1234go
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Give her an ultimatum.
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SyzygisticSoul
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Re: Looking for support [Re: 1234go]
#23609757 - 09/03/16 11:17 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks Jokeshopbeard, I'm def going to take you up on that. I feel so damn hopeless right now
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abltsandwich
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Ahh this sounds real difficult, one of those threads you wana offer help but all i can say, is you can only help someone when they want to be helped sadly i havent dealt with drug addiction, but ive seen alcohol addiction first hand. Very hard to deal with.
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Jokeshopbeard
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Quote:
SyzygisticSoul said: Thanks Jokeshopbeard, I'm def going to take you up on that. I feel so damn hopeless right now
Alright man, PM me and we'll sort some convenient times and dates to share our woes in life, and help each other through the hard times. Make sure you have a coffee on standby, my convos with shroomerites often run into the 3-4 hour mark...
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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SyzygisticSoul
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I went to send you a PM but accidentally pressed block PM how do I unblock pm?
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Jokeshopbeard
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Not sure, but I can't reply to yours. It says 'This user is not accepting private messages.'
You might need to PM Ythan, Asante, or Geokills to get that fixed man. Looks like you made a schoolboy error on that click!
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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koods
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In account settings, a few lines up from the bottom is a link to "PM Block List"
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Jokeshopbeard
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Re: Looking for support [Re: koods]
#23609885 - 09/04/16 12:15 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Damn, I just hoofed some 3-MeO-PCE, now I'm all confused about technical stuff. You know where to find me OP!!!!
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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SyzygisticSoul
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I successfully unblocked it, but will probably wait till tomorrow to message you; too drained from babysitting her all day
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Jokeshopbeard
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Next fortnight, I got free international calls. We'll sort shit out brother, no rush.
-------------------- Let it be seen that you are nothing. And in knowing that you are nothing... there is nothing to lose, there is nothing to gain. What can happen to you? Something can happen to the body, but it will either heal or it won't. What's the big deal? Let life knock you to bits. Let life take you apart. Let life destroy you. It will only destroy what you are not. --Jac O'keeffe
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Apostle
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Sorry to hear that man, the truth is, there is no easy way of helping an addict.
She has to want it herself and more than that, she has to want it BAD because she is gonna go through ALOT of pain to achieve sobriety.
After that the battle is far from over.
I really feel bad for you because you don't use and from the sounds of it your girlfriend is yet another victim of the pharmaceutical industry. Unless she used before and for recreational reasons.
if not, she's not the first one to become a drug addict after injury and she won't be the last.
I'm an addict myself and struggle with heroin addiction. There is no helping me and anyone who tries only ends up hurt.
I really hope she isn't too far gone.
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SyzygisticSoul said:
She is currently passed out beside me all drugged up in bed.
How does she look to you? Is she your everything? Do you love her?
Man i really feel for you and i wish you the best but my most honest answer is that it doesn't look good.
And this doesn't mean she doesn't care about you. When you say you can't believe anything she says, really think about that for a second. As far as her usage and misbehaving, you are probably right. But if she says stuff like " i don't mean to be this way" or "its not becasue i don't care about you" or even "i love you" she probably means it.
Alot of times we lie to our loved ones because we are ashamed. I could be walked in on shooting up heroin but my initial reaction would still be to lie to my loved one probably because subconsciously i want them to believe me if only to spare them the pain of seeing a loved one slowly perish in such a senseless way.
Think of it like this, she has had her reward system hijacked to the extent that it prioritizes the drug before food or sleep and unfortunately, relationships. This is not a failing of her character it's a physiological phenomena. I guess my point is, be firm, but try not to be too hard on her.
Nobody wants to be this way and once it happens it's statistically unlikely you'll ever be the same again. Less than 20% of people who get addicted to opiates manage to stay off of them for good.I'll pray for her and you as well.
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Re: Looking for support [Re: Apostle]
#23610142 - 09/04/16 04:09 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Check out The Health Recovery Center ( healthrecovery.com ). They treat addiction as a biochemical disorder and get MUCH better results than the conventional methods.
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Re: Looking for support [Re: ruaware]
#23610465 - 09/04/16 07:43 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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more understanding
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