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Getting a lot better though, and really? Fuck it can hurt, especially when it's not expected; in fact the last thing I suspected was that, but it is the way it is, can't do much about it really.
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Mental Taco



Registered: 07/02/14
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Cant do much about it? uh use it to propel your life to another level. without having to worry about a female you can focus on bettering your self instead of playing games.
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Mental Taco said: Cant do much about it? uh use it to propel your life to another level. without having to worry about a female you can focus on bettering your self instead of playing games.
Can't do much about a broken relationship I meant, not myself.
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RJ Tubs 202


Registered: 09/20/08
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Anonymous said:
I felt like I had something for once that would never leave me . . .
The only thing we have in this life that we can be 100% sure won't leave us, is our self.
To have an intimate relationship and maintain one's sense of self and maintain an independent peace of mind, not dependent on our partner is challenging for many of us, including myself.
If anything needs "fixing", it is our perspective.
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Meownap
Mean and ugly



Registered: 08/24/16
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Hey OP, my girlfriend and I just broke up as well, after trying to work things out. She was beautiful and smart, and we could be idiots around eachother, but she had huge problems that I thought I could fix, such as anxiety holdings a job, driving, daddy issues, existential depression, etc. I gave her mushrooms and she was able to detox some repressed memories, but she had done some pretty bad things in her past. In the end, splitting up was the best option. I wanted a monogamous relationship, she said she did too, but she only had guy friends and most of them were ex's. I could tell she was addicted to attention, and she liked being taken care of, but I guess I wasn't enough. I couldn't handle her going and spending a week at her ex's house in another state, or getting a tongue ring from some other guy. She liked being bought things and I wasn't going to be her sugar daddy, as I'm saving money to start a business. We didn't see eye to eye on these things, and so we don't talk anymore. This all happened over the summer and our final meeting was just 3 days ago. It would hurt more if timing hadn't been so impeccable... The girl who I've loved more than anything, Chloe, is also in love with me, and we're talking again <3 this is a different girl than in my story, the girl from my story was a bit of a rebound to help me fill the void in my heart from my "breakup" with Chloe, but that's a whole different story. Now I'll be able to be with Chloe once she is out from under the thumb of her religious freak parents who caught her smoking weed. I'm 23, the girl from my story was 22, and Chloe is 18, just turned 3 months ago. I'm a fucking hopeless romantic, but it works for me sometimes. My advice, build your strength up little by little until you're confident again, then find someone new. Look for someone 18-19 who wasn't a scene girl or emo girl, as they're so much more likely to just play games...
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bigdoodie
it does not matter


Registered: 06/24/16
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Re: Lost in my own mind [Re: Meownap]
#23630245 - 09/09/16 06:58 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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We are creatures, the personality is an illusion. The egos are the voices in our head, that are brain frequencies and they represent different points of view we have acquired so when we have to make a decision the egos fight for control over how something is viewed, our true self does not have an opinion
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Re: Lost in my own mind [Re: bigdoodie]
#23637200 - 09/11/16 09:14 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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A lot of good points on everything here, helps a fair bit.
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Anonymous #1
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RJ Tubs 202 said:
The only thing we have in this life that we can be 100% sure won't leave us, is our self.
To have an intimate relationship and maintain one's sense of self and maintain an independent peace of mind, not dependent on our partner is challenging for many of us, including myself.
If anything needs "fixing", it is our perspective.
That's an enlightening point I guess, I've always been one who is deeply fascinated by introspective emotions, but I'm just sick of walking into invisible walls that crush my soul, it's probably time I took hold of myself.
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RJ Tubs 202


Registered: 09/20/08
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The "invisible walls" you describe are of our own making.
There's so much going on, deep in our psyche.
Our inner conflicts. Our self-deceptions. Our resistance.
It can be overwhelming - the belly of the beast.
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