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Re: The tranny and the queen [Re: millzy]
#23655351 - 09/18/16 11:07 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't fuck cis people anymore
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Anonymous #1
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That's hella cisist
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Anonymous #2
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It's just not worth the psychological harm that could occur as a result of internalizing the sorts of ideas most cis peole share with me in the bedroom. There are some cis people who are worth fucking, but I haven't met very many and I don't think there would be any way to "vet" them either way. It's a fucking minefield. I might go back in if y'all ever decide to clean it up.
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Anonymous #3
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Yeah if you have doubts try watchin a tranny jerk off it really doesn't look the same when it's just the tranny
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K-9 Unit


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Dude, OP, you can't fantasize about 17 year olds, just no. For everyone's sake just forget about her. Sorry to be rude, but come on.
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Murzelpfrumpft
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Re: The tranny and the queen [Re: K-9 Unit]
#23662406 - 09/20/16 05:03 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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But he can in 1 to 365 days?
That's stupid. Admit it.
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Chakra Shock
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I don't think that was a legal principle, but an ethical one. Once you're past a certain age, trying to start a sexual relationship with someone who's really just a kid is fucked up.
Of course there are exceptional young people who are mature beyond their age, but most of them don't have one iota of a cosmic brainfart about what's really going on. Adults should not be trying to start romances with the average young person, and even into the early twenties, because there's just too much room for error and manipulation to take place.
And to Anon#2, what kind of psychological baggage takes place in the bedroom between yourself and cis people?
And do we really have to have all these damn categories like 'trans' and 'cis'? Can't we just be whoever the fuck we want to be without needing endless labels to describe ourselves?
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Anonymous #2
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Being treated like a fetish doll takes a toll after a while. Cis people would treat me that way regardless to what label they fixed to me. They can't help but invalidate me because it's part of their culture, and by and large, they don't seem interested in trying to fix it. The vast majority don't even see the problem, no matter how badly they want to fuck the lies they tell each other about me.
When cis people stop treating me like an exotic novelty to be consumed and discarded, I'll start having sex with cis people again. Until then, cis remains useful to me as a label for people with whom I'd rather just not have any sex at all.
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ShadeOfDeepPurple


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Quote:
Anonymous said: Being treated like a fetish doll takes a toll after a while. Cis people would treat me that way regardless to what label they fixed to me. They can't help but invalidate me because it's part of their culture, and by and large, they don't seem interested in trying to fix it. The vast majority don't even see the problem, no matter how badly they want to fuck the lies they tell each other about me.
When cis people stop treating me like an exotic novelty to be consumed and discarded, I'll start having sex with cis people again. Until then, cis remains useful to me as a label for people with whom I'd rather just not have any sex at all.
Eh, my recent first experience dating another trans woman wasn't any different. She just wanted the thing between my legs even though when we started dating I told her that I was sub. I'm starting to think it's people in general. Although I think I established that I don't want to be with a woman from this. Maybe I'll just stick to my porn and cactus right now. I think once I get to a certain point with my HRT I may start dating people again, but I'm going to be very selective if I do. Really make him wait for sex, see how serious he really is.
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Cis people have been very abusive toward me since my transition. I actually wanted to avoid getting this sort of chip on my shoulder when I started but it's been pretty hard to stay chill when such a large and well-defined group of people insists on treating you like a non-human space filler based on their culture. Cis people almost never truly respect my identity, even if their pronouns and PC jargon are immaculate. They will use my insecurity as a psychological weapon against me. They validate me in exchange for my subservience. They do this without seeing any problem, because my identity is false to them, a game of make-believe to be sustained only when convenient. There are so few who have any idea there's something wrong with their perspective, it's pointless to bet with your mental health that somebody you're dating is or could become one of them. It's not worth the risk.
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ShadeOfDeepPurple


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There was a cis guy I fell for a few years back that is really understanding of me. One of the greatest people I've ever met, pretty sure he'll never be into me because I'm trans, but I still love him. It's completely valid for a cis person not to want to date trans people too. Personally I'm happy if I never find someone, but it could be nice to find someone worth spending my life with. I prefer tripping to sex though.
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i can't imagine living in a world that largely dismisses my identity. but love is a game that you just can't play without getting hurt. and in my experience, falling in love has always been something that happens to me rather than a calculated set of decisions me and another person make about each other. you can set your limits, make your rules, but in the end, it comes for you, often in the form of a challenge to every single limit and rule you've set for yourself. the trick is not letting your own bullshit interfere with letting love into your life. i suppose it boils down to how much of that sort of regret are you truly willing to live with.
-------------------- I'm up to my ears in unwritten words. - J.D. Salinger
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Chakra Shock
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Regardless of what one thinks of another's identity, it is completely inappropriate on many levels to treat someone as an object rather than a being ( unless such a relationship is desired and agreed upon from everyone involved ). On some levels, identity is always an act. Even the way we relate to our own bodies is kind of like mental clothing that we put on and will eventually take off. That's not to say that identity is not incredibly important, but simply that there's no reason to respect some identities more than others simply because of the way someone was born. We can be whoever we want to be, I wish more people understood that instead of flailing around in their own egoic sense of superiority, causing pain for those who happen to be less generally accepted by society as a whole.
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Re: The tranny and the queen [Re: millzy]
#23664489 - 09/21/16 09:29 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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millzy said: i can't imagine living in a world that largely dismisses my identity. but love is a game that you just can't play without getting hurt. and in my experience, falling in love has always been something that happens to me rather than a calculated set of decisions me and another person make about each other. you can set your limits, make your rules, but in the end, it comes for you, often in the form of a challenge to every single limit and rule you've set for yourself. the trick is not letting your own bullshit interfere with letting love into your life. i suppose it boils down to how much of that sort of regret are you truly willing to live with.
Truthfully, if I ever fall in love again, I will follow my heart, as I always have. But right now my heart belongs to this beautiful woman who has come into my life, and I hope she will keep it close to hers for a long time. She's everything to me. Truthfully this isn't about labels, it's about her, my feelings for her and the blissful tenderness we share. It's never been like this for me before.
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Chakra Shock
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sounds lovely. I wish you the best in the unfolding of your love and heart.
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