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iiilil
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DividedQuantum said: Nah I think Jsb is right -- some guys are just pussy-whipped in the most pathetic way.
Only a woman who doesn't respect a man would do this... So, that reflects a case I stated. A man lowers his armor to love a woman. (his manifestation of love) A woman respects a man who does this for her. (her form of love)
As opposed to what society communicates, a man ultimately wants to make a home away from the world. A woman serves as the vessel in which that can be done.
Once a woman 'captures' a man in this way, sure .. she can go on disrespecting him and thus sew the seeds of destruction... However, she is not only destroying him but the home they have together... And yeah, some women are man eaters... If it weren't for their skill in cloaking their nature via the 'mask of the feminine', the men would see them for who they were, suit up in their armor and fight them as they do other men.
However, such a woman doesn't get that ... So, she ignorantly believes him 'weak' and sews the seeds of her destruction along with his.
It is a tragedy. However, when a man puts down his armor and submits to love, he is under the influence of a more feminine context. At that point, the ball is in a woman's court as to how things shape out. The only thing a man can do is recognize whether or not the person is providing him with a home or a destructive prison and take necessary action.
"It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious and vexing woman."
This problem becomes more prevalent in a society that teaches women to be more like men and not true to their equally powerful feminine natures. For some time, there will be victories of trickery as men come to adapt to 'see' beyond the cloaks these women use. However, once men 'see', they will suit up in armor as they do against other men, and all will be all for not.
A balance is always struck which is why you seek a harmonious one... Too bad society has been convinced as of late to strike a different balance.
Interesting times
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: iiilil]
#23589935 - 08/29/16 12:46 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks for all the insight guys....
I'm thinking I need to focus on a hobby....keep myself busy and mind off of women....
that and explore the fact that perhaps I have some sort of sex addiction and I validate my worth and feelings of connectedness and love via physicality...
i don't know....
just rather escape all that....stop worrying about women....and get down to business being a single dad to an awesome little boy.
Fucking cunts. (excuse my language)
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: iiilil]
#23591252 - 08/29/16 07:02 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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iiilil said:
. . . a man ultimately wants to make a home away from the world. A woman serves as the vessel in which that can be done.
Deep down, a man yearns to return to his mother's womb.
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: TameMe]
#23592297 - 08/30/16 02:35 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I haven't been married so I can't really say what you should do. I have however been through 2 long term relationships and can say, after the crap I went through, it was refreshing to learn how to be by myself which took quite a lot of time(around 2 years for me. Everyone is different though!).
To not have to worry about hurting someones feelings because I came home at 9 pm instead of 5 pm. To not worry about answering a phone call which was going to lead to an argument...to come home to an argument when I was just so spent at work. I understand the need to have a "partner in crime" because you are used to it. I did it but, I hurt people in the long run because I just wasn't ready to give them 100%. Now that I have taken the time to be alone, I enjoy my current relationship all the much more.
Now, this does not make you needy. It makes you human. You do what YOU FEEL is right. No one can tell you what to do. In the words of Sloan, "If it feels good do it".
All I have left to say on that note is to be open with your new partner about this to at least give them an idea of where you stand(speaking from experience). No one likes to feel like they are "the re-bound" or not "good enough" for you. The person you meet(or people) may fall head over heels and you may realize you just aren't ready for something as solid as you had yet, they are ready to dive in.
Good luck and best wishes
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I think that a person has to be happy and whole within themselves before they can either truly gain or offer something to a relationship in the long term.
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: iiilil]
#23592314 - 08/30/16 02:52 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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iiilil said:
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DividedQuantum said: Nah I think Jsb is right -- some guys are just pussy-whipped in the most pathetic way.
Only a woman who doesn't respect a man would do this... So, that reflects a case I stated. A man lowers his armor to love a woman. (his manifestation of love) A woman respects a man who does this for her. (her form of love)
As opposed to what society communicates, a man ultimately wants to make a home away from the world. A woman serves as the vessel in which that can be done.
Once a woman 'captures' a man in this way, sure .. she can go on disrespecting him and thus sew the seeds of destruction... However, she is not only destroying him but the home they have together... And yeah, some women are man eaters... If it weren't for their skill in cloaking their nature via the 'mask of the feminine', the men would see them for who they were, suit up in their armor and fight them as they do other men.
However, such a woman doesn't get that ... So, she ignorantly believes him 'weak' and sews the seeds of her destruction along with his.
It is a tragedy. However, when a man puts down his armor and submits to love, he is under the influence of a more feminine context. At that point, the ball is in a woman's court as to how things shape out. The only thing a man can do is recognize whether or not the person is providing him with a home or a destructive prison and take necessary action.
"It is better to live in a desert land Than with a contentious and vexing woman."
This problem becomes more prevalent in a society that teaches women to be more like men and not true to their equally powerful feminine natures. For some time, there will be victories of trickery as men come to adapt to 'see' beyond the cloaks these women use. However, once men 'see', they will suit up in armor as they do against other men, and all will be all for not.
A balance is always struck which is why you seek a harmonious one... Too bad society has been convinced as of late to strike a different balance.
Interesting times 
I just want to say to this, I'm really sorry you found all "cunts" out of us. I have worked in construction my whole life and could say the same about men but I don't. Just because some of you guys are shitty assholes in relationships, didn't ruin my whole outlook on men. They are my Father, my brother and my best friends that picked up the pieces when my life was broken. They are also the assholes that took everything I owned, broke what they could that was mine and raped me. Stop judging sexes when it's really "people" you have an issue with. If you keep having these issues with "females", look in the mirror and ask yourself why you find yourself in the same predicament time and time again. I'm not trying to start a fight I'm just calling a spade a spade. To egg someone on in such a hateful manner just because of a bunch of bad experiences you had is horrible. I didn't choose to bust my ass off in a male dominate field because I could, I had to to pay my damn bills. Thanks for that.
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: pineninja]
#23592317 - 08/30/16 02:55 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Agreed pineninja but for some it takes time to learn. I just don't like people thinking ill of themselves in the meantime It's all a learning experience and honestly I couldn't imagine what a divorce would feel like.
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: iiilil]
#23595073 - 08/30/16 07:33 PM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've done the rebounds and all sorts of other things. Best thing out of all the cases was taking some time to gather myself, learn how to value and love myself, and be whole all by myself.
From there, you end up on far better footing to meet someone who you can construct a further along 'home' with. The key is to remember that you need to be at home w/ yourself.
Exactly. Less immediate gratification, more in the way of enduring fulfillment. Thanks for the kudos.
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Oneshineylady said:
You do what YOU FEEL is right. No one can tell you what to do. In the words of Sloan, "If it feels good do it".
Amen
Anything that doesn't match our true self and our right mind feels like stress and guilt.
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Oneshineylady said: Now, this does not make you needy. It makes you human. You do what YOU FEEL is right. No one can tell you what to do. In the words of Sloan, "If it feels good do it".
Are you sure that was Sloan? Don't you mean Satan?
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Re: On being "needy" [Re: Crumist]
#23596039 - 08/31/16 12:10 AM (7 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sloan or Satan . . . we always blame someone!
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