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bloodsheen
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People that just chill with their ex
#23555177 - 08/18/16 09:49 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Like in How I Met Your Mother. Ted is totally 100% cool with his ex-gf being part of his central friend group. 99% of people have either a horrible story about an ex they continued to hang with or just some random text that ruined their life out of nowhere. How and why are you like "Yeah, you know we don't make a good couple for the rest of time but we could totes be good friends for all of time. No probs."
I don't understand how you could make a connection with someone and then just totally alter that connection like one of those WWII ladies connecting generals to other generals during battle. How do you just pump the breaks and totally have a different attitude?
My theory is most people are full of shit and are actually totally bothered by their ex hanging around. But anyone who actually thinks they've got it down, please explain
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: bloodsheen]
#23555768 - 08/19/16 02:16 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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bloodsheen said: My theory is most people are full of shit and are actually totally bothered by their ex hanging around.

I think it's a hidden agenda. Exes hang around to play the field a little longer or maybe that's their only option to be close to their ex which they ain't ready to let go off, which is totally unhealthy in my opinion.
Tedd is a fucking moron, the only reason he kept Robin around was cause she was a good back up for his dismal quest for love.
Stop watching that shit Sheen
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: Rosen_Rot]
#23557501 - 08/19/16 04:58 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rosen_Rot said:
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bloodsheen said: My theory is most people are full of shit and are actually totally bothered by their ex hanging around.

I think it's a hidden agenda. Exes hang around to play the field a little longer or maybe that's their only option to be close to their ex which they ain't ready to let go off, which is totally unhealthy in my opinion.
Tedd is a fucking moron, the only reason he kept Robin around was cause she was a good back up for his dismal quest for love.
Stop watching that shit Sheen 
Yea, Tedd is such an awful character. I hated him so much
I've also considered that when ex's hang around its like a competition to see who gives less fucks. Did I see a tear in the corner of her eye?! Nope, its just a little glob of makeup. Dammit woman, care!
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: bloodsheen]
#23557557 - 08/19/16 05:11 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I have one i see, we sit smoking weed occasionally with a movie or something, we get on great both in our thirties, things just drifted apart and we ended up good friends, so there isnt any ill feelings etc, but ive never maintained a friendship with any other ex as has never worked before. Usually feelings linger for one or just hate each other or whatever hahaha.
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: Spellbound]
#23557835 - 08/19/16 06:33 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I've got one I can still hang out with. We don't really call each other to meet up, but if we see each other out we hug and talk and such. I even like her new bf.
The rest of them, not so much.
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: 36fuckin5]
#23557957 - 08/19/16 07:11 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I more am like friends with girls I had fucked previously.
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: bloodsheen]
#23559010 - 08/20/16 01:49 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I got one ex girlfriend who is my supposed best friend but keep in mind by ex, I mean she was my first girlfriend at the age of 14 and all I tried to do in those 2months together was grab her bewbies. Anyway, she dumped me and we didn't talk for a year but our friend group was small and limited so eventually we started to talk again and we became best friends. I think she's the longest friend I ever had, 10+ years and I tell her EVERYTHING, things I normally wouldn't discuss with anyone else. She's been there for me for a lot of shit and I was there for her as well.
In a sense I am glad we're still friends. I don't know how I would have managed without her, she's been there in the loneliest of times and I can honestly say that I do love her just not in a sexual way, more on the unconditional love you have for your dear sister.
If I had to try and be friends with any other ex I don't think it would have worked out without us fucking for sure. I would definitely try and woo my recent ex if we started talking again
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: Rosen_Rot] 1
#23565225 - 08/22/16 07:43 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I chill with ex lovers all the time. Sometimes u just dont really make good partners but make good friends? Idk what the big deal is, prolly an ego thing.
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: Anonymous #1]
#23571561 - 08/24/16 01:56 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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For me, when a breakup happens, it is over. I dont have any contact whatsoever with any of my exes simply cause i dont really think it could work out.
I mean there was a reason for being attracted and entering the Relationship and i cant be arsed to deal with any still lingering feelings or attraction from either her or me depending on who broke up.
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Curious Shroomer said: For me, when a breakup happens, it is over. I dont have any contact whatsoever with any of my exes simply cause i dont really think it could work out.
I mean there was a reason for being attracted and entering the Relationship and i cant be arsed to deal with any still lingering feelings or attraction from either her or me depending on who broke up.
Yeah, I could see it for one of those situations where you both LITERALLY just agreed you didn't work as partners. Really super duper rare though
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: bloodsheen]
#23572346 - 08/24/16 09:57 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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Fuck Ted Mosby
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: ChiefGreenLeaf]
#23572452 - 08/24/16 10:38 AM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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ChiefGreenLeaf said: Fuck Ted Mosby
Yea man
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Re: People that just chill with their ex [Re: Rosen_Rot] 2
#23573268 - 08/24/16 03:34 PM (7 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm still friends with several of my ex's. fuck if I couldn't still be friends with former lovers than I probably wouldn't have any female friends since I have slept with most of em at one point or another.
I think the trick is in recognizing that relationships change, sometimes they grow closer, sometimes further apart, and sometimes just morph into something... different.
once you come to realize that you see that your relationship with them never really ended, it just changed. if you really care about their happyness, and them about yours, then its easy to move on. there is more to relationships than sex after all.
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I am friends with all of my ex's except for two. Just because you decide you are not romantically compatible doesn't mean you can't have a different kind of relationship. Unless there was some terrible wrong occurring there is no reason to shun your ex.
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