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nice1returns
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weird ego breaking down, everything has changed now i see it all dw i like women only lol
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Jokeshopbeard
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You're the second person to come on here in a week and ask that kind of question. I don't understand why you might need to categorise your sexuality somehow... well, I do kinda, cause that's what fucking culture does to us, but I see no reason for you as an individual to do so.
I think sexuality is one of the most important aspects of our lives in which to be 'fluid'. You like what you like, when you like it, and that's that. One evening with a partner, you might wanna explore 'this' and on another day 'that'. Some days you might wanna be dominant, others submissive, etc
Point is, there's fucking 0 to be ashamed of here. If there's something you wanna explore sexually, find a willing partner (I think it's a guarantee there's someone out there up for anything you might like!) and go for it!!!!
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Rosen_Rot
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Suck a dick and see how you like it 
Then just kinda move from there ?
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bloodsheen
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I've actually always been curious about fooling around with a dude but, like, what if five minutes in you realize "Holy fuck nope, I am so not into dudes."
If a girl did this to me I would legit be furious. Unless his thing was like messing around with confused dudes, regardless of the outcome, I would never actually do this
I'm pretty damn sure I don't have any interest in dudes but until I was actually doing it I couldn't know for sure, right?
Recently a friend of mine bought a nice skateboard and I've been seriously enjoying playing with it. Went my entire teenage years without ever really giving skateboarding a chance... Maybe penis too?
Idk man, if some dude at a bar was really hitting on me I think I'd see whats up. I really enjoy women so who cares if I'd enjoy men as well? I'm not too torn up about it, the fact that not a single human being has interest in me means way more than the gender or what that gender represents
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Rosen_Rot
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When I was growing up in my early teens I was sexually confused and me and a male friend messed around, simply out of curiosity and that none of us knew anything about sex, sexual preferences and the whole sha-bam.
Needless to say it was not my thing but I am glad it happened cause I don't have this looming question in my mind.
HOWEVER
I was talking to some friends recently about chatting up a chick I like, my friends like to take the piss and asked me ''what if you do talk to her and she ends up being a guy?''
Fuck it I suppose. If you're that attracted to someone I guess gender doesn't really matter at that point
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bloodsheen
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Rosen_Rot said: When I was growing up in my early teens I was sexually confused and me and a male friend messed around, simply out of curiosity and that none of us knew anything about sex, sexual preferences and the whole sha-bam.
Needless to say it was not my thing but I am glad it happened cause I don't have this looming question in my mind.
HOWEVER
I was talking to some friends recently about chatting up a chick I like, my friends like to take the piss and asked me ''what if you do talk to her and she ends up being a guy?''
Fuck it I suppose. If you're that attracted to someone I guess gender doesn't really matter at that point
I was checking this person out at a pharmacy who was working the counter and when I got up there she spoke and I was like "Oh my fuck I've been checking out a dude." Obviously transgendered but upon further examination she was probably less than a year into her treatment. Pretty sure she would have been an excessivly pretty dude either way
Some guys might get weirded out by that but I thought it was funny
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Rosen_Rot
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GO FOR IT
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Chakra Shock
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Nah you're not crazy, and JSB and Bloodsheen already covered the fact that you should give no fucks about what others think of you and fully accept yourself.
I'd say I have about a fluctuating 0 - 25% interest in a sexual experience with a guy, as the cycles of my sexual energy wax and wane, but I've never been in the right place or right time for it, and based on my desires in how I see sex, It's quite likely that I never will be.
For me, casual sex is something that I can really only do when the planets align, I don't go out to bars trying to get laid. In this sense, I much prefer to develop lasting and meaningful relationships on an emotional and spiritual level. I just can't see myself getting that deeply involved with a guy, sexually, because my genetics much prefer the idea of having the eventual outcome ( even if it's just a potential, and never actualized ) of making a baby. Something deep in my bones is drawn to that aspect of sexuality, the heat and fire of male / female duality, and I could never find that, biologically speaking, with a man.
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Connoisseur

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If you are aroused by the thought of a penis in any way shape or form you are in fact bisexual
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Blend
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Jokeshopbeard said: You're the second person to come on here in a week and ask that kind of question. I don't understand why you might need to categorise your sexuality somehow... well, I do kinda, cause that's what fucking culture does to us, but I see no reason for you as an individual to do so.
It seems as though most people tend to group the concept of 'confession' with relating to others, and we are generally quick to put all our cards on the table in company we perceive as like-minded. It goes deeper but I don't wanna further derail the thread. Simply put, this is a pretty normal thing to do.
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bloodsheen
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Connoisseur said: If you are aroused by the thought of a penis in any way shape or form you are in fact bisexual
Thats pretty cut and dried. I'm aroused by like 100 parts of a woman, her vagina is up there on that list but it isn't in the top three. It has nothing to do with my attraction to pussies, its just that I think the animalistic hole that a penis goes in shouldn't be representative of an entire gender. Breasts, proportions, asses, smells, hair, eyes... all things that I consider on a daily basis that have nothing to do with being gay but don't 100% specifically have to do with being straight either.
What level of disguist would I be required to experience to be "straight"? If a penis was exposed near me and I vomited, is that straight enough for you? How about if I suck a dick to completion but the semen really grosses me out. I mean fuck, I sucked a dick for like ten solid minutes, but the ejaculate was just gross to me. What does that say about me? I really don't know and you shouldn't care
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Connoisseur

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It is cut and dry because I dont believe anyone has ever been sexually aroused by the thought/appearance of a penis if they weren't bisexual or gay.
I dont know where you are seeing me say anything about finding a penis disgusting being the "standard" for how straight men feel about penis's, care to show me where I mentioned anything of the sort?
If im wrong im willing to hear how.
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Deathbystarfish
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My wife puts dildos in my butt . She likes it. So i dont mind. Its not bad. Can make You cum alot. I fuck her real hard tho. Am i bi? Lol.
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Connoisseur

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Is a dildo a penis?
The answer is no, so no.
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I pretty much agree with Connoisseur on the sexual orientation thing. The whole point of having the labels is that they be as specific as possible, so of course it is cut and dry. I'm not sexually attracted to males, so I identify as straight. If I were attracted to males, I wouldn't. Pretty simple
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Connoisseur

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Actually I guess its really depends on whats going on in your mind while thats happening, are you picturing the dildo beings mans penis fucking you and thats the source of your arousal?
If so yes you are bi, if your not picturing anything because your turned on by the fact your wife is putting a dildo in your ass I dont think thats gay at all since your wife is a woman.
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Deathbystarfish
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Nah me and my wife are both bi. Shes way wayway more open about it then me. I think thats why she toys With me. In the last couple of years ive realized sexual shouldn't be labeled. We are pansexuals as she would say.
It has more to do with the feminine and masculine rolls in sex. Like she told me if she ever saw me submitting she would look at me differently because I'm the masculine in our relationship. I completely dominate her.
it's the only reason I can see two men or two women being in a relationship. Because there's still a dominant and submissive role to be played. You just can't have two dominant people or two submissive people in a relationship it just won't work out
This is purely sexualy . Because in normal social behavior people can be both dominant and submissive. It really just comes their personality. But we're talking about sex everything is different
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Connoisseur

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Oh so if your already confirmed in your sexual orientation why are you asking me if your bi or not?
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Deathbystarfish
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I wanted To join in on the thread. Im bored
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Connoisseur

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Honesty = respect
Im still waiting for blood to tell me where I said that straight men find penis's disgusting
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Deathbystarfish
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Ive watched some really hot shemale porn. Id say that if ever became involved with one of them im sure id eventualy go down. But ill say i find the male body absolutely gross. I want nothing to do with a nother man. Shemales are a happy medium (Especially when smokin hot).
Penis
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Connoisseur

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Wait so you consider yourself bi but you think men are gross?
Im confused how does that work?
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bloodsheen
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Connoisseur said: Honesty = respect
Im still waiting for blood to tell me where I said that straight men find penis's disgusting
I was drunk when I posted that so I probably just didn't word it properly. I was just expounding on your "finding penises arousing" concept and stretching it to make a point. You are focusing so hard on the physical aspects of gender and orientation that you seemed to be saying that there was no other definition that made any sense.
Like honestly, a huge part of the reason why I never experimented with a guy is because I fucking hate dudes. I hate talking to them, I hate looking at them, they're just fucking assholes. I LOVE spending time with women. One on one with a girl, just watching TV, is the best. It is very much tied into my sexual attraction to them.
I met a dude in college once who had a very serious boyfriend but I considered fooling around with him if he had initiated something because he reminded me so much of a woman. Not in the super flaming way, nor was he extremely effeminant looking, he just had the mannerisms and mindset of a woman.
I think sexuality is just really much more complicated than you are making it
Edit: I do not extend this to transgendered people who are pre-op. I have a very serious doubts its possible that people who are in a relationship with a pre-op trans person got involved with the 100% genuine intention of enjoying an emotional bond. I feel similarly about people who date midgets and triple amputees and such. I don't actually care, its great those people get to experience sex and love like anyone else, but the "normal" person in that relationship always gives me strange vibes.
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Connoisseur

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If a man is aroused by the idea of engaging in sexual acts with another man he is in fact bi or gay.
To take it one step even further if a man is aroused by the act of engaging in sexual activities with another man he is in fact bi or gay.
Sexual acts are not the end all be all of an individuals sexual identity but the topic of this thread is that OP is wondering whether his desire to suck or stroke another mans penis is in fact an indication that he is bisexual.
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Everyone has already said some good stuff throughout this thread, but just be yourself.
People get caught up in trying to label their sexuality, but I say fuck that, just go with how you're feeling at the time. If you wanna suck some dicks, and fuck some chicks, then more power to you brother.
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bloodsheen
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Connoisseur said: If a man is aroused by the idea of engaging in sexual acts with another man he is in fact bi or gay.
To take it one step even further if a man is aroused by the act of engaging in sexual activities with another man he is in fact bi or gay.
Sexual acts are not the end all be all of an individuals sexual identity but the topic of this thread is that OP is wondering whether his desire to suck or stroke another mans penis is in fact an indication that he is bisexual.
Today I was talking to someone about how I've always wanted to make my own corned beef. Its time-consuming and a pain in the ass so I've never actually done it. It could be fun and delicious, it could be a super fucking obnoxious hassle, I don't know because I've never done it. Does that mean part of my identity is being the "corned beef guy"?
Of course not the same intensity, sexuality is far more central to your life than lunch meat. If I had corned beef rolling non-stop, like my fridge had four of them going at four different stages so I had a constant supply, than yeah, I should be "the corned beef guy". It means nothing at all about who I am, its just a silly little thing to think about
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Chakra Shock
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but do we know whether or not terms like "gay" or "straight" have any factual basis to them? They're constructs of our linguistic capabilities, but what if someone were to completely change over the course of their life and find themselves attracted to the opposite form of sexuality from how they began? I guess in your way of thinking, this would be impossible.
Personally, the term bisexual doesn't bother me. If someone wanted to think of me as such then I would be fine with it and would, in a general sense, agree.
However, without the labels of sexual orientation, sexual experiences become a choice rather than a habit of thought. You may still choose only one kind of partner in life, but at least you won't be doing so because of a category you've put yourself into: instead, it will be a natural attraction arising in the present moment. How much more courage it takes to reach out to someone from this state of mind! Everything becomes vulnerable, you are choosing to share your body and soul with someone for a brief moment. Not because you're "straight" or "gay" but because you wish to share yourself and experience another in such a way. It's no longer about the ego, but a merging of two individual's energy into a single, inner space.
just my , may be way off base.
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Deathbystarfish
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Look up pansexuals
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Connoisseur

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I can only speak from personal experience as a straight man knowing that many years before I had ever touched a woman let alone had sex with one that the idea of doing so aroused me.
Although many things in life follow the concept that "you dont know till you try" for me sexual orientation was not one of those things.
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I'm pretty sure I'm bi. Never been with a woman though I think a strong woman is sexy as fuck. Not really interested in giving. Had a boyfriend once. Told him I wanted to be a woman. Loved getting anal and giving head. I think he thought he was getting into something different than he got being with preop me, he bent over and asked for me to give him anal. I just could not get it up, I was so turned off. Honestly the thought of fucking a woman's vag doesn't sound much more appealing to me. I would eat her out though. Best sex I ever had was when my boyfriend pinned me back against the wall and rubbed his d up against my head, it just felt so good, so natural. Can't wait to have a neo vagina.
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bloodsheen
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Yeah, thank you for making my point Shade, I mean wtf would standard definitions of sexuality make of that? You're attracted to men and enjoy being...well, enjoyed by a man, but you don't get an erection from it?
Theres no way you can just jam that into "Gay, Straight, or Bi." Way more to it than that
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bloodsheen said: Yeah, thank you for making my point Shade, I mean wtf would standard definitions of sexuality make of that? You're attracted to men and enjoy being...well, enjoyed by a man, but you don't get an erection from it?
Theres no way you can just jam that into "Gay, Straight, or Bi." Way more to it than that
I get erection from being fucked by a man, but the thought of fucking one with my dick does nothing for me(actually turns me off). Which works out quite fine since I want to be a woman.
I'll still have sensitivity post operation.
If I had to classify myself I'd call myself a bi-curious trans-woman.
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